How do I get out of this relationship?

Question

I have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs now but I don´t want to be with him anymore!
Now the problem is that he doesn´t want to break up and calls every hour to talk and if I don´t answer he´ll wait outside my job and follow me home! Last night he even came to check up on me when I was training because I train with both girls and boys so he had to know what I was doing. I got so mad and we got into really big argument that ended with him kicking the door of my car so now I have to get it repaired! I´m 23 and he´s 30. We constantly fight because he want´s to start having children but I want to finish my study and get my dream job!
When he gets angry he uses the most awfull words to describe me and I feel as he enjoyes hurting me. I once slapped him for saying the most awful thing and then he locked the door in his car, started driving really fast and said that he was going to kill me. when we had been driving for 30min he looked at me and was surprised that I belived him and got angry!

Answer 1

oh honey, ive had the same feelings, trust me you just have to bite the bullet and do it, it took me about 3 weeks to get the courage to tell my ex, but when i did it and he finally got the messge he satyed away and has done since abt 2 years ago, u just gotta be brave

Answer 2

How awful this man is clearly unhinged. You must note down every episode with times, dates and what occurred then contact the police to arrange a restraining order. Some people ignore restraining orders so ask the police for a panic button to wear around your neck. Change locks and stay strong surround yourself with friends so you don't live your life in fear. This man is playing on the fact that you are scared of him- once he realises you are not scared and have a support network he will back off.

Answer 3

Wow. It's time to just break it off and notify the police. File a police report on your car door and a restraining order. He's done property damange and made threats to you, this man is obviously a potential danger. Let friends and family know, starting documenting everything and keep copies of any legal documents you receive in the future. Let me know if you want any other information =)

Answer 4

it sound out like your bf has issue and you need to get out fast or something will happened to you hun,
go to the police and explain what's going on and there can help you has well,
when you at work has well get some off your friends to take you home don't be on your own you need to have someone with you most of the time
when he phones you don't pick it up put the locks on your door and change your lock has well.
i hope things be alright good luck x

Answer 5

Restraining order! And also you need to take precautions even after that order is in place, meaning not getting into a position where he knows your routines and could get to you. I am sorry but i would like you to be alive so that is why I am suggesting going to the police. Tell them everything you wrote above. Thank God you figured him out before you married him

Answer 6

wow wow wow wow... sweet hear you have to RUN. seriously I'm not saying this for any old reason. he doesn't sound safe at all. If you are living together leave, don't make him leave because who knows what he would do, or if you are going to make him leave make sure you have a few people there in the place with you. If he comes around call the cops. I know that sounds drastic, but he sounds def. abusive and controlling. I am seriously worried about you. Just please take my advice and leave.
Let me know if you need to talk.. I've been through it all. My heart goes out to you hunni.

Answer 7

gosh honey! you've fall for the wrong guy! he's very possesive! and thats not good! just imagined when the two of you are already married! he might kill you when he comes home because of a very shallow reason. leave him now! do what it takes to get-away with him! believe me honey, that men is a deviL! you're a smart girl! coz you choses to finish your studies, and have a good career! just like me! changed your cell no. phone no. and moved out. find a new job. i also suggest you ask for a protection to the police. coz your boyfriend is obsessed with yah! you never know what he might do to you. just look at what happen to your car! goodluck girl! i know you can do it!

Answer 8

U sound lik u really r scared of him. Just tell him its over and if ur scared 2 be alone then just have a friend over so if anythin happens she can call the police. Its better because he no longer has the right to follow u around.

Answer 9

This is an awkward one. I think you need to explain, gently, to him that his attitude scares you and that you cannot trust him because of the way he acts. Say you've loved the time you've spent together but things are just too difficult for you now and that he needs to stop his actions as it's frightening you. I think you need to honest and upfront but tell him why you don't want to be with him. If he gets nasty I think you might need to report him to the Police - I know that seems bad but you need to look after yourself and protect yourself. Take care and good luck.

Answer 10

Time to leave him for your own good. Hes possesive and thats never good.

Just tell him hes suffocating you and that your too young to settle down. Tell him you need time for yourself and that if he wants a family maybe he should find someone that wants the same things in life.

Stand Firm, once you do this it may make life awkward for a couple of weeks.

Good Luck

Answer 11

Call the police, immediately. Tell them your story and that he has threatened to kill you before. Get a restraining order and get the h*ll away from that psychopath before you really get hurt.