I am going through a break up from my partner of 3 years, i still love her...?

Question

Hello all, my partner and i are going through a break up, i love her dearly and dont want to lose her, I know she misses me because she told me, how can i show her how strongly i love her and how good we could be together ?, i have made mistakes but want to have it all with her, a family, our own place and to have my ring on her finger, please help ?

Answer 1

ya'll both miss each other? Obviously ya'll still love each other also. Take things slow and start over again.
Dont rush anything and see where that leads up.

Answer 2

I know how hard it is.Ive been there and it certainly isnt easy.
The question that you have to ask is does she feel the same as you, and have you had previous breakups.
You need communication. Without this, nothing will work, trust me!Sit down and talk about your disagreements, and where both of you are going wrong. In the majority of cases, you BOTH have your faults. It cant solely be on one persons head.
I dont know your situation or what problems youve had. All i can tell u is put time aside and communicate.tell her how you feel and not with gifts--with your heart.
And make a decision. It might be in your best interests to go separate ways, but only you two know that. Whatever hapens, dont brood on anything--take your mind off it and do some activities. Brooding doesnt help.i know all about that and you just get more depressed blaming yourself. Believe me, you probably both have faults, so one should never take all the blame
the best of luck!

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Answer 3

I know exactly what you are going through.

Seems like my boyfriend did the same thing your girlfriend is doing.

My boyfriend of over a year decided he needed a break. he had gotten into drugs, and had lied to me alot, and felt like he didn't deserve me, and that he was just too far gone.
This break only lasted about a week. He realized how much he loved me when he saw how it was affecting me, and how it was affecting him. ( I actually ended up in the hospital.) He had tried dating this other girl, and that made him realize he couldn't be happy with anyone else. Then, the next day (after he and that girl got together, and I ended up in the hospital) he came running back to me, but at that point I was too hurt and didn't want him back. So, he thought he had lost me forever. (which made him want me back even more)
the next day we figured everything out. And ended up getting engaged. = )

So, I woudl just talk to her about your feelings, and listen to what she has to say too. And make sure she knows that you'll always be there for her. (i told brent that constantly, which made him appriciate me more.)
If she still says she needs a break/break-up, just give her alittle time. If it's ment to be, she'll come back. It's liek that saying, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's ment to be"

I'm sure everything will work out.
= )

Answer 4

I tend to find once people have made the decision to break up its best to move on. I understand what you are saying about wanting to be with her. But judging from what you have told me it has been an amicable break up so far, which means it wasn't an on the spot decision. My view is that after 3 years you are both scared to move on, you are in a comfort zone and are on the edge of being pushed out of it. Good luck with which ever way you choose to play it:)

Answer 5

If you really don't want to lose her, you need to take a step back and examine your relationship from her point of view. What happened that caused her to get hurt enough to want to break up? Unfortunately, it may be too late for your sweet sentiment of wanting to marry her and have a family if something major has happened. However, if you pinpoint he problem(s) and let her know you're willing to do whatever it takes to resolve it, such as counseling or a therapist, maybe she will give you another chance. Good luck!

Answer 6

all you can do is sit her down and talk to her tell her what's in your heart* Not sure what mistakes you've made...or why the breakup*after 3yrs....sometimes if yu've been unfaithful.that may be something that she won't tolerate or even give you a second chance..even tho you've realized how much she means to you..it may be a lil late*
Show her how much you love her and want her back in your life...try to work things out and make things right....I wish you all the best*~ Just be Honest*
COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are the keys to a long healthy relationship...without those ..you have Nothing*
Best Wishes*

Answer 7

If yall both care for each other theres no reason yall shouldn't be together. Couples go through hard times, thats why yall have each other.

Think of a very clever and nice way to take her out, like you see on ramance movies.

Answer 8

sometimes you miss things because they were comfortable and not bc they are actually good for you...take a break...cut contact completely...go out, have fun see whats around try to get to kno sum1 else...if after that all u can think about is her still, shes worth it, but honestly 99 percent of the people want to get bak with their x bc there lonely and used to the comfort and security of a long term relationship

Answer 9

everyone is different but i have been through the same as you and i just moved on i don't regret as i have done things i would have never done if i had stayed with this girl but that was ten years ago now and i still have feeling for her.
Once you have spent time with someone you will always care for her but its better to leave and still have happy memory's than to wait time the relationship turn sour

Answer 10

Write a love song and seranade her outside her window..... in the song include some good things about you and your relationship and make fun of some of the bad things you and her have done playing them out as no big deals.