Sons are always contributing to her cause physically & financially and it's expected. Not appreciated enough to even ask her deadbeat boyfriend to get out of her house for an occasional visit from her sons/grandsons. Cant stop by & visit without calling first because she may be partying. I have no respect. I'm very angry about her mistreating her son who will never say anything to her about it.
2007-04-18 03:30:57 · 12 answers · asked by 2cutiepie4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband needs to take action (who is her son, I assume), not you. If he is not willing to change his actions, then there is nothing you can do short of keeping your kids away from her destructive household.
2007-04-18 03:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
Your husband and his brother(s) are enabling your mother in law to continue her "partying" and other extravagant behaviors by helping her financially.
Enablers are rarely respected.
You can be angry with her all you want about mistreating her son, but that isn't YOUR problem -- if he sees no problem with it, you are wasting a lot of energy.
You have probably become all riled up inside and stressed out over this, and it's going to take some time for you to realize "hey, this isn't my problem!".... and find other things to occupy your mind.
Of course, if she is taking money from your family, that IS your problem. I wouldn't give her money anymore. You and your husband need to talk about this. Perhaps, if you want to help and she needs something, tell her that you will go out and buy whatever it is she needs. If it's beer or something unnecessary, you can always say NO.
I don't ordinarly just stop in at anyone's house without calling -- even my relatives. I'm not worried about them partying, but i don't like to intrude. It's just one of my life rules, i guess.
Her son, your husband will say something to her about this when he's had enough.
take care of YOU. hugz
2007-04-18 03:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to make your husband see his mother the way you do. Truth be known, he knows exactley what a mother he has, but he loves her. It does not matter what parents do, children still love them. I see it all the time. I think that you should just accept the way the situation is and let your husband deal with his mother they way he chooses. She isn't your mother so you are lucky that you don't have to deal with her. Your children will be grown one day and totally understand what kind of person their grandmother is/was. The hard part is just letting it all go and keeping your mouth shut. I could only imagine. But, really it would probably be the best thing.
Good luck.
2007-04-18 05:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classic and common that the son will not say anything. It is difficult for you to watch. I try to answer the questions on this site from people considering marriage that yes one does marry the family! But that doesnt help you I know since you are already in this situation. I am not sure this situation will be solved since it has to come from your husband. I would try to rise above it all, be polite but busy and find diversion and happiness in other areas ;since she is a statement in herself and not much else needs to be said, no?
2007-04-18 03:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 06:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by viands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow the same attitude as your husband .i mean some people are like that ,they want other people to call before coming to see them i know someone in my relative like that who likes to party and whom i should call before visiting her but it's ok for me ,cause how long can someone make as if she's that must important to book for a rendez-vous before meeting her.every situation in life is temporary.your husband know her well,if you get angry everytime with her knowing that she mistreat her son you'll be hurting yourself more than her because she enjoying herself in party do you thing she's carring about you .live your life you have a got a husband and children to take care of .enjoy each moment being with your husband and kids.good luck.......
2007-04-18 03:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there could be a skeleton hiding in the closet that hasn't been revealed to you yet. It is very probable that he and his mom did not get along for some reason. I think in time he will tell you.
Meanwhile, just continue to be yourself and not let her bother you.
2007-04-18 03:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law is the same......ungrateful. There are times she really pisses me off. She has no shred of human decency in her. She is rude and obnoxious and I'm embarrassed that I am related to her (through marriage of course). there's really not much you can do.
2007-04-18 03:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your distance from her and put a tight reign on the money.
2007-04-18 03:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont go around her yourself. let her son and ur grandkids go visit. either ur husband will grow backbone or continue to be used
2007-04-18 03:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋