Family & Relationships - 10 April 2007

2007-04-10 06:30:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I recently reunited with a former love, and we have enjoyed a renewal of our love, closer than ever...we have been making casual plans about a future together, traveling, retirement together...we talked about going through with the wedding that I called off seven years ago (he got cold feet), we talked about trying to have one child together before we get too old...it seemed like he did most of the planning and the talking, and I was content to listen and smile and dream along with him...until yesterday when I discovered I am pregnant. He got me pregnant the last time we were together, seven years ago, and mourned the baby's loss as I did, but this time, he runs and won't even face me, let alone talk to me.

I am devastated! What is UP with him? Is this cold feet times two? How could he just completely shine me on like this? I am 46, very independent, well-off and gainfully employed, can take care of myself, I don't need anything from him except a little love!

2007-04-10 06:26:19 · 20 answers · asked by Smiling Cougar 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently found out that my husband of six years has been having a "friendship" with another woman. He bought a new cell phone (unknown to me) and has been calling her. He swears they are just friends, but I do not know if I can trust him. I found out about the phone when I walked in on him calling her and he hit the speaker button instead of the end button. I am so lost and confused. I want my marriage to work as I love him so much and I thought we had a good marriage. He says it is over but how can I trust him?

2007-04-10 06:23:53 · 34 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been fighting with my 4 year bf for these issues. I get mad because he says stuff like he would like to be with other girls, like have girl friends and go out with them, and flirt, and other things. And he's always making remarks about him wanting others. It annoys the hell out of me, because, well, i'm his girlfriend, he's supposed to want to be with me. When i tell him this, he says like i'm trying to change him, and be his owner. I don't tell him what to do on anything, i just want him to respect his relationship with me, and not say hurtful things if he wants to be with me. Am i supposed to just let him go on and on about wanting to have sex and flirt with other girls and not let it bother me until he actually does something?
We have an agreement of exclusivity, but he talks about it as if it was too much work.

2007-04-10 06:22:49 · 16 answers · asked by jade 2 in Singles & Dating

We are seperated, I came by to pick up some more stuff. We were talking about the baby ( I'm pregnant) And it was going well, but the weird thing is he asked for a hug. The reason I left was he said he was done with me. Plus he walked me to my car, gave me another hug and a kiss and told me that he would call me. Plus he kept calling me babe, and honey. But when we talk its nothing about us getting back together. So why does he still call me that and gave me hugs? He hasn't acted that way towards me in a good 6 months that we were still together.( we have been seperated for a couple of weeks now) Anyone have a clue??

2007-04-10 06:22:43 · 26 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Would you rather date a guy with
A.Brown hair
B.Blonde Hair
C.Black hair
D.Red hair

You have to pick one

2007-04-10 06:21:58 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Long story short, our families do not like each other, but my family just wants us to be happy so they're not a problem. But my in-laws from day 1 has made it their mission to tear us apart. Now, they want me to cut off my family. What do I do?

2007-04-10 06:18:23 · 28 answers · asked by hsk 1 in Family

I recently found out that my best friends boyfriend is thinking about breaking up with her. He would wait till after Prom so there is a few weeks before anything would happen. But I am really stuck because I swore that I wouldn't tell her (this was before I knew what I wasn't telling her) but the reason that he is going to break up with her is because she is too clingy, and she really is I know that I wouldn't be able to date her. So you do you think that I should tell her or do you think that I should wait to see what happens? And how should I tell her? Because I think that she would be really crushed, she loves this guy.

2007-04-10 06:18:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for the past 5 years. He's cheated a few times, but for the past year or so, we've been living together, in which we do everything including taking a shower, pooping infront of each other, shaving each other pubic hairs, (too much?! sorry, lol!) but we do alot together, he's done sum screwed up stuff that i've found about like a few incidents on myspace, and calling phone chat lines. I've just basically got tired of everything, but i Love him, like fa real, and we have good times together too, but he doesn't help on the rent nor utilities, but he does help around with the food n stuff, most of my friends tell me that he's just using me, my mind is really gone at this moment, but he's leaving on thursday, am i making the right decision by makin him leave or should i just try and maybe work things out, were both young, i'm 22 and he's 21.
HELP ME!

2007-04-10 06:18:07 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he calls me when i dont call him but he says he is comeing to see me but never shows up but calls and says he was comeing but gas is to high and he stays 100miles from one another he said he should not be telling me he is comeing but then dont i said no you should not i miss you and want to be with you he says he knows that but gas it is always the gas but my mom thinks he is lieing and useing me and leading me on but i dont think he is because why would he be calling me and letting his 9 year old son talk to me on the phone someone told me to give him the gas money and see what happens i need help bad i am so mess up about all this because i dont get why he be calling me or letting his kid talk to me if he did not want to be with me i told him he could come stay the night but we would not be in the same room not just yet i got to trust him again but my mom and others say he is lieing and i am believe what ever he tells meand he says he likes me alot and likes talking to me as i do him

2007-04-10 06:15:55 · 7 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I share a cellphone plan. I notice on the last 2 bills he's been really calling this one number, the phone calls started off with talking no more then 5 minutes or so but as time goes on he is talking almost an hour now. The invoice that comes to the house basically tell you how much the bill is but does not show the actual calls, I have to go online to see the incoming and out going calls made. I'm not share if he thinks I am not checking the bill online or not, I'm pretty sure he would not be making calls to other women if he thought I was checking. I know this is a female that he is calling because the calls are becoming to frequent and back to back. How should I approach this situation should I call the number or mention this to him?

2007-04-10 06:15:23 · 42 answers · asked by whocarez 2 in Marriage & Divorce

if my soon to be ex gets pregnant by another man (we been separated over 3 years) is their any chance a judge in pennsylvania will wave the alimony i have been paying???She used the healthcare that i provided to have this baby and is living in the marital with her boyfrind.

2007-04-10 06:10:23 · 11 answers · asked by brianlr2000 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-10 06:08:18 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I sat down and talked iwth him on the conditions of living back at home with us. He's disregarded most of it and is still not paying rent. He is working, but only part-time. He is very lazy and rude, and I just can't take it any more. I need some suggestions on how to deal with this.

2007-04-10 06:06:44 · 32 answers · asked by LizC 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was going to go with both in the begining since I had six bridesmaids (3 in fuchsia and 3 in magenta) but now there is only 5 and I have to choose either one color or get another girl to be my sixth bridesmaid... All the girls are light olive skin tone and have medium dark features what would go best??? Its a Sept wedding.....

2007-04-10 06:05:43 · 20 answers · asked by Oz Lov 1 in Weddings

okay so I spoke with a lawyer and she informed me that I can do one of two things......I could 1-Not put him on the BC since we were never married I don't have to and if child support is all he's worried about then he won't take me to court (this worries me just because if he decides to then I don't know what my chances are of getting Sole or Physical Custody. The 2nd potion she gave me was to go ahead and put his name on the BC ,file my custody paperwork but he has every right to the baby as much as I do and if I were to tell him one day no I don't want you to take the baby today then he could get the Sherrifs to come and make me. She then pulled up his record and showed me that he had a little bit of one.........a support order already on him by some woman...a restraing order that had been put on him by another woman....and a domestic violence or dipute against him by his now current wife....which she had file a couple years ago on him. It made me nervous then as to what to do

2007-04-10 06:05:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

and i have met a guy who is 28 and i know that im young and it's against the law but he said he can wait to i turn 18 in about 6 months so he just want to be friends the thing is he has a child and i dont want to be in no baby mama drama so is this a big step to take or should i leave it alone

2007-04-10 06:02:30 · 22 answers · asked by airplanes 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am currently married to someone who has abused me and he is currently sitting in an ISF facility. He will be home in ten days and unfortunately i have fallen in love with this man and my daughter loves him to death. I am scared to death that this second chance that i am givin him won't be worth it. He has been away for the last four months in lock down and during this time i have met another man, but he is black, which even if i don't continue my marriage i am scared my family won't accept this black man. I am Hispanic by the way.This man has given me all the emotional support that i have needed and right now we are simply friends and have not done anything, but he has been like an angel cause he has advised me on my situation. Please help me I fear that I will be losing someone very special if i allow myself to be hurt by my husband again.

2007-04-10 05:56:27 · 7 answers · asked by nec_tph_0227 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Long story short my husband of 9 yrs has this horrible habit that really bothers me and is disrespectful. We have argued about it alot but he doesn't see a problem with it and says it is just the way he is. During our last discussion about it we tried to come up with a compromise. When I asked him what he wanted he said he just wants me to leave him alone about it. I said fine I will I am done fighting over this issue. The problem is it still bothers me and I think there has to be a compromise but do I bring it up again or just keep my mouth shut and turn my head the other way when I don't want to see it? Isn't this like saying my feelings on the matter don't count and I am giving in or is saying this isn't big enough to continue fighting about and I am just being the bigger person by letting it go? What happenes next time I have a problem with something am I going to have to get over it too?

2007-04-10 05:55:16 · 17 answers · asked by Trisha 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I separated in November. I desperately wanted to work it out b/c we have a baby together but the separation was all my fault cause I treated him badly, so he said he needed time. By February he was dating someone else, and by March they moved in together. He's abandoned his daughter for her, he never sees her. Now he seems to be tired of the other girl, his family hates her and that's a big deal to him cause he's a mama's boy, and he's started to show a VERY slight interest in me again by calling again and coming over once last week to help me look for my lost dog. Would this be considered cheating and how can I forgive him for taking everything away from our daughter and giving it to some random girl? I'm not saying we're getting back together, I just want to know if I should even be willing to consider working things out when he sends the other girl packing.

2007-04-10 05:54:05 · 18 answers · asked by newmom06 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-10 05:52:24 · 6 answers · asked by zoyaaa 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-10 05:50:30 · 5 answers · asked by Julz 3 in Weddings

2007-04-10 05:49:23 · 32 answers · asked by Through The Eyes Of The Dead 2 in Weddings

2007-04-10 05:44:50 · 33 answers · asked by Sensy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Yeah this is my second marriage and this is his first. I'm older he's 3 years younger. We'll before I took the big leap it took us 14 years of living together before we finally decided to get married. It hasn't change since we've been together all those years. He still is a work -a-holic . I barely see him and yeah I fuss and he listens to me take me out when this happens and then he is back to the same old work addiction. Sex use to be good . It use to be extraordinary. Now he doesn't get interested.
I've lost weight look good for other men . I don't cheat . he still doesn't notice me. Tried going away to romantic places and all he does is sleep. He actually gets back home and brags about it to his friends. That I take his phone battery out so he can not receive calls . He thinks I'm taking him out for relaxation. I tell him this is not for that but he still does it each and every year. Yeah I married him. He wasn't like this before.

Sex that's another issue. Lets just say..

2007-04-10 05:43:21 · 17 answers · asked by hershee44 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am having my wed in late June. I am paying for everything, the band, my dress, the ballroom, invitaion, video and photographs. Is it my responsibility to pay for everything or is also to groom. What happens if his not working, do i still have to pay.

2007-04-10 05:41:07 · 21 answers · asked by princess 1 in Weddings

Recently (yesterday) I found messages being sent back and forth between my fiancé and one of his ex-girlfriends from way back in the day through myspace.com. I am absolutely floored at how he was writing to her. He knows that she is also engaged and keeps writing about the past; how he thinks of her every time he hears their song, how myspace has reunited him with his first love, how she is one of his biggest regrets, the bars where he is on the weekend (hmm…), etc. Am I totally over-reacting or is this not cool? I have been cheated on my whole entire life and thought that I finally found someone who is the perfect guy, now I think he is proving me wrong. We have been together for 4+ years. To my knowledge he has not physically cheated on me, but it seems like he is emotionally- then what is the next step? Someone please give me some advice. I cannot take another broken heart. Please, please, I need something…(p.s. I was not snooping, we were looking at it together when I saw)

2007-04-10 05:40:02 · 19 answers · asked by M. M 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend told me to marry him, but he hasn't given me a promise ring. I want to marry him, but i do want my ring. When i ask him he told me that he doesn't have job and it is true. He doesn't have a job to buy me the ring. What do you think.

2007-04-10 05:38:00 · 28 answers · asked by princess 1 in Weddings

Ok how do i go about deraling with this sensitive yet very important issue I suspect her of being unfaithful at the supposed time of conception, i don't remember when we concieved because nine months prior to her delivery we were seperated for about 1&1/2 months but we patched things back upand then she told me a short while after that she was pregnant. i have to secretly do this DNA test because suppose I aam wrong that would destroy our marrage for my doubts and insecurity but if i am right well then i will be able to sleep at night.I once told her that i don't remember conception of this child and she was really hurt and said that it was my excuse to escape out of our marrage and my responsibility but no answers were given to my questions and I said i was sorry to hurt her and we are still together. I just need to know.

2007-04-10 05:36:29 · 24 answers · asked by rovin d 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hey it is me again. My first love/soulmate left Sunday to go trucking school, and he will be gone for 3-6 weeks. He says he's trying to secure his future and he wants me to be apart of his future. He left a message on my voicemail Sunday saying that he will call me when he arrived in the city. He also said that during the time that he is gone I should be making moves . It is Tuesday and I haven't heard from him. Maybe he is giving me time to think about my decision or maybe he needs this time away. He is a very good man. I love him deeply. Why haven't he called? Should I call him?

2007-04-10 05:35:38 · 7 answers · asked by honesty 1 in Marriage & Divorce