Long story short, our families do not like each other, but my family just wants us to be happy so they're not a problem. But my in-laws from day 1 has made it their mission to tear us apart. Now, they want me to cut off my family. What do I do?
2007-04-10 06:18:23 · 28 answers · asked by hsk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's more willing to choose his family over me and our unborn child.
2007-04-11 04:14:51 · update #1
Never. It wouldn't even be a question worth considering.
2007-04-10 06:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
remember that blood is thicker than water- your family will always be there for you- the inlaws may not- and inlaws have tendancies to take sides when things arent just perfect. So I would not give up my family totally for anyone-i only if thats what I personally wanted to do- would I forget them - good luck but I say No dont do it. And anyway- There was only 2 people that were not related- Adam and Eve- The rest of us - Well- WE ARE BROTHERS AND SISTERS- Think about that one !
2007-04-10 15:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else who's already answered this question - do not even consider cutting your family off. Particularly if they're the ones who are happy and supportive of your relationship. Instead, perhaps your families should just stay out of each other's way. If there's no chance for a skirmish, then perhaps one wont happen and the whole situation will just calm down. Until then, be happy with your partner - she's the one you married - not her family!
2007-04-10 13:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by MS1465 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do never cut of your own family they will all ways be there for you your in laws may not be there if the worst happens and you and your husband don't end up being together (god forbid) for the rest of your life's then you will have no one. You should stay in touch with your family all ways they will all ways be thee for you plus they are the ones that are leaving you to it and are glad that both you and your husband are happy
2007-04-10 16:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by sazdeanna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in-laws have some nerve asking you to give up your own family. How would they feel if you wrote them out of there lives? Sounds like you just have to keep the 2 families apart unfortunately for you. Hang in there don't lose your family.
2007-04-10 14:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If both parties were asking this of you, I might say go ahead and cut them both off. But since its just your in-laws who have the serious problem and cant be civil mature adults like your family, they are the ones to worry about. They are very manipulative. I hope your spouse sees this and backs you up. try to maintain as little contact as possible with them.
2007-04-10 14:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jukebox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never ever cut off your family. Believe it or not...your family is your safety net. They are the ones that raised you and stood by you. Your inlaws who already sound ignorant and cruel as is...will turn around on you one day and screw you over. Who are you going to have then?? Do you really want to be alone with out your family and your support? Inlaws aren't worth it...they shouldn't have that much say in your life to begin with.
2007-04-10 13:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no reason to cut off your family for anyone. Perhaps you and your mate need some kind of discussion/resolution on this matter. Then you both take your combined decision to both sets of parents if need be. No further discussion. End of matter. It's you and your mate's life, and all others need to accept what you both have decided upon.
2007-04-10 13:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell those inlaws to take a long leap off a short pier.
You should never be asked to cut off your own family! Hopefully, you can get your spouse to stand with you, and tell those inlaws that "it ain't never gonna happen."
2007-04-10 13:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely do not cuy off your family, it sounds like they are the ones that need to be cut out of your life. You didn't say how your wife feels about all this, but she shopuld never expect you do that.
2007-04-10 13:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by momofnine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you answered your own question:
"my family just wants us to be happy so they're not a problem"
which means that your INLAWS are the problem, so why cut out your family?
2007-04-10 13:30:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋