I am having my wed in late June. I am paying for everything, the band, my dress, the ballroom, invitaion, video and photographs. Is it my responsibility to pay for everything or is also to groom. What happens if his not working, do i still have to pay.
2007-04-10 05:41:07 · 21 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ahh.. I thought that the Brides father pays for everything included with the wedding and the party. The groom pays for the Honeymoon.
Also, if he's not working and your already complaining are you sure you should even get married to him?
2007-04-10 05:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by 04/12/2008 :) 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are actually asking several questions, as far as I can tell.
1. You ARE having a wedding, and are paying for everything.
2. Your groom is not working.
3. Is it your responsibility to pay for everything?
I think I got it all down correctly.
now, to reply;
1. Have you actually paid or are you still in the planning stages? Since this is in a little less than 3 months and you said, "I am having my wedding.." we have that answer. Regardless of who pays besides you, you will get married.
2. You have a potential life partner who is currently not working. If this is fine with you it's no one's business, but how can he pay? The answer is NOT HIM.
3. You are throwing a big party that you wanted to have, presumably, because you did not say i am getting married, but I am having my wedding...
Since you are throwing the party, you have to pay. Under other circumstances, I would presume that a working groom would help out. This is not the case.
So, in conclusion, if you are indeed having a wedding in June, and no other dollars have shown up to assist, and since the groom is not able to help, it is all on you.
Sorry to be so blunt, but, you did things your way, and when we do things we want to do our way, sometimes we get in our own way.
Congrats on the wedding! Hope money is not a problem, and that you do this just your way because you are paying for the privelege.
May God bless you with a long and happy marriage and all of life's best and blessed.
Hope I helped, or at least didn't hurt. Have a congratulatory star!
You have a lot of other great answers with the conventional info. Your situation is unique, not conventional, but they are right. In other circumstances, wedding rules would apply. You would not pay for everything.
2007-04-10 12:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the Groom's Mother and/or Father "host" (pay for) the Rehearsal Dinner or Party. Traditionally, the Bridal Showers are hosted by the Bride's attendants (bridesmaids, maid or matron of honor) or her closest friends or her co-workers. Neither the Mother of the Bride nor the Mother of the Groom nor any immediate family members should host a bridal shower (the giving of gifts). Traditionally, the Bachelor Party is hosted by the Best Man and/or the groomsmen and/or the ushers. The Day After Brunch or Breakfast can be hosted by anyone . . the Bride's parents . . the Groom's parents . . the Bride and Groom . . any of the attendants . . or a close friends or relative. Unless otherwise expressed or stated by the Bride and Groom (or one of their parents) ALL of the attendants are responsible for their own wedding attire, shoes, accessories, and travel expenses to the city where the wedding is taking place. The flowers are usually paid for the Bride and/or her family. Travel expenses mean plane tickets . . the hotel room . . and food (other than at the wedding events). Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2016-05-17 04:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting MARRIED. This means, nothing is gonna be "mine" or "yours" anymore, it all comes out of one place, and that is "ours". Regardless of who's physically writing the checks, both of you are paying for every single thing. If this is not how you see it, perhaps you are missing the point of "getting married". Paying for anything at all besides the marriage license is neither yours or his "responsibility". What you two choose to pay for is entirely up to you; both of you should be working on the budget and the planning, both should be in the loop. If paying for things is a big problem, just have a jp wedding; no dresses, bridesmaids or ballrooms required.
2007-04-10 07:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a guy friend who had lots of money and i'm kind of on the poor side. He said he could never marry me because the bride is the one that usually pays for the wedding and I wouldn't be able to afford it. Yeah, he's a jerk, but is that true? I think that it should be 50/50.
2007-04-10 05:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago it was the brides (parents) that would pay for the entire wedding. But things have changed since then. It is only fair (in my opinion) that both parties pay. Why not? You both receive the wedding gifts including the gifts of money. If he is not working due to going to school, then his parents should help pay, but if he is not working because of ??? then I would postpone the wedding until he is working and can afford this very expensive party.
2007-04-10 05:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Reasy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course, all of it should be paid for by both of you. This is 2007, not 1907. All things should be jointly considered from this point if you are considering marriage. Marriage is all about compromise -- make no mistakes, it is all about compromise. If you and he can't reach middle ground on this, think long and hard about marriage. If he is not working and you can't afford the wedding you would like, I would suggest putting off the wedding until he is on his feet and can contribute. If you want to go forward with a smaller event you can afford on your own, that would be your joint decision.
2007-04-10 05:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by HelloHello 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually the brides parents pay for the wedding but if your all grown up and planning to pay for your own wedding its nice if both of you will shoulder the bills. Like me, both of us are paying for our wedding .
2007-04-13 12:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not working then who else will pay but you?
I don't know how other couple see things, but my b/f and I earn our own money which goes into our own bank accounts, then a small amount from both our wages is transferred into a joint account, anything that is for the house hold come out of that account, including our wedding funds.
If your b/f is not working then how can he contribute?
2007-04-10 05:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I tried marriage onde. Was told about all the wedding pans. I asked who was paying and was informed I was. I pulled out one hundred dollars and said if this is not enough don't ask me. It was enough for the preacher and a few people. Remember that was nearly fourty years ago.
He might just feel the same and I hope he sticks with it.
2007-04-10 06:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋