My boyfriend told me to marry him, but he hasn't given me a promise ring. I want to marry him, but i do want my ring. When i ask him he told me that he doesn't have job and it is true. He doesn't have a job to buy me the ring. What do you think.
2007-04-10 05:38:00 · 28 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
love shouldnt be about the ring...some people get tattoo rings, or 5 dollar rings at a flee market. When you get married, you should have something to show you two are married, but it doesnt have to be aything drastic
2007-04-10 05:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by kristina43 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can get married in a ring from a bubble gum machine. it matters not.
the thing is why would you not want to wait (always say 3 months), earn something to start life with and then talk rings?
Marriage is difficult enough without everyone wanting to throw in some variety and get started without a dime, like it's a game.
Work, both of you. While you wait be patient, kind and sensitive to each other.
In 3-6-9 months plus, buy your little ring, even a promise one will do, get your license and get hitched. Make sure there is still money in the bank to pay the bills, and so you don't starve, and be happy married people.
Hope i helped!
2007-04-10 23:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your primary concern is the ring, you are definitely not ready for marriage. Why don't you buy HIM a ring? Are you so concerned with materialistic gains that all you want is jewelry? Or are you so bound by tradition that you feel obligated to make him do all the work?
On the flip side of things, if he doesn't have a job and can't afford a simple symbolic ring ($100 will buy at least SOMETHING), I doubt he's in any kind of financial shape to contribute to a productive and fruitful relationship.
I'm not advocating anything here--just asking questions that will make you think, and hopefully arrive at the answer that is best for you.
2007-04-10 12:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need a ring to be engaged. When my faince proposed to me he saved up for my ring for months. He didn't have a great job if any then but now I have a ring and he has a good job and were okay. Just because he doesnt have a job doesnt mean anything things change its about your love for him and his love for you.. You don't need a job to be in love and to get married you don't need a "wedding" justice of the peace does the marriage for a donation. Whatever if you love eachother don't let a ring stop you. Later on he can get you one when you can afford it.
2007-04-10 14:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Vada83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu may want to seriously rethink this.
It's not even about the ring. If he doesn't have a job, how do you two expect to live and take care of each other? Unless he's relying on you to make the money, and in that case, even MORE of a reason to dump him.
Does he have any job prospects? Is he even looking for a job? He has no right to ask you to marry him if he has 0 money.
2007-04-10 13:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by izzynindie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the ring represents a commitment between the two of you, in other places around the world other things are used instead. if you do want "the ring is a symbol" but it is NOT mandatory to have one when you get married. or any certain kind, for that matter. many people get married with rings that are heirlooms, or that are already in the family too....
2007-04-10 12:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by railroader454 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A ring is a ring, if you get married it will be your wedding ring, sorry I don't really understand this question.
However, I would advise that you wait til he has got a job and is bringing money in our how else are you supposed to survive? If it is just you earning then it will quickly become a burden on you.
2007-04-10 12:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?? What do you mean he told you to marry him?? And why doesn't he have a job?? To be serious...if you love him you shouldn't need a ring in order to get married.
2007-04-10 12:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Reta♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People wed all the time without rings, they really aren't important in my book.
THat said, food, housing, & running water are all important. Hard to do that without a job. I don't care how old people are, I think it's fine to get married at any age if the couple can support themselves. WIthout a job, he can't even support himself. Wait until he is more stable, for your own good. Good luck.
2007-04-10 22:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I just answered your question about who pays for what...and I'll repeat what I said there, here.
You're not ready to get married. You're about to make the biggest mistake of your life. You're wanting the outward expressions of what marriage is, you're wanting the ring, and the pretty dress, and the fun party, and all the attention, etc., etc., etc. Heck, even the name you've chosen says that about you. If you go ahead with this marriage, unless you drastically change the way you're thinking, it will not work. And I'd bet on it too, with my own money.
2007-04-10 12:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋