Family & Relationships - 11 April 2007

We went to a marriage counsellor after I found her love letter to her married classmate (she wrote about things like love and how she wants to be his mistress etc). The counsellor said marriage requires 6 fundamental conditions for it to function. 1 basic trust - she broke it by getting into an emotional affair behind my back 2 Love and affection - these are alienated 3 Sacrifice - she stood like a statue all through my pitfalls and was even amused sometimes at my agony. 4 Communication - Either she argues or contradicts whatever I say. 5 Adjustability - It is the last thing on her mind 6 Mutual respect - I even begged her to show me some respect and she said she can't give something she does not have for me. After these 4 sessions of counselling, I am beginning to wonder why I am in love with this monster. She is very controlling and her parents still ask her to divorce me after her love affair as if I am the cause of all her sins. Should I stay with her as our kids will be affected?

2007-04-11 23:53:52 · 14 answers · asked by havah 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-11 23:48:38 · 18 answers · asked by joyceusua 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf saw me with this boy at a party and he thought i was cheating on him and after he hit me, it didnt hurt but he still hit me but he was drunk ... i dont want to leave him bcos he used to be really nice to me .. wat do i do??

2007-04-11 23:43:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-11 23:42:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

That they do not talk, do not commit, do not hug, do not support their own children, and so on. Don't they understand that men are here not to support children they made or to commit, or to make someone happy.
They are here to sire as many children as it's possible, with as many women as it's possible. They are basically penises with the rest of the body attached.
Women should accept it as it is. It's the same as complain about the butt hole producing excrements. It was done this way.

2007-04-11 23:39:48 · 1 answers · asked by why c 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-11 23:35:55 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

like a sex buddy kind of thing,would it work ?

2007-04-11 23:22:55 · 22 answers · asked by delboy 1 in Singles & Dating

Due to personal and mental reasons, im extremely depressed.
My mother hates to see me like this and I fear it might kill her because shes diabetic and sick. Im trying to change but i just need time. My state causes me to be angry at every little thing so i just spend my day sleeping, causing my mother to worry more. I have suicidal thoughts all the time. I refuse to go to any counselling. im 17. help me

2007-04-11 23:17:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Oh,go on.....It's christmas in a few months!

2007-04-11 23:16:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im dark.....but i'll always like white guys.....
i think that they are aractive......
SO PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE....
I WANT TO HEAR FROM A WHITE GUY PLEASE......

2007-04-11 23:13:27 · 9 answers · asked by izhanna2 1 in Singles & Dating

My partner walks out 5 years ago and went back to his x-girlfriend and i brought there son up age 11 as my own for the last 6 years because they dint want anything to do with him.
They move back in to the area 4 weeks ago and now my son wont tell me where he going he started lying to me he told me this morning he was going to his mates but his mate his just been round looking for him and said he has not seen my son allweek.

I told my son i dont mind if he see his parents i just want to know where he is.

He said he not seeing his parents but i think he is.

2007-04-11 23:11:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I wanted to know what did my husband told her prosti mistress why did he betrayed me, moreover I wanted to know the real score between my husband and his mistress, do I really have to do this?

2007-04-11 23:06:49 · 15 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1 in Marriage & Divorce

that he has realized that his friend til the end was right in front of him, me, and that when he was with me he felt complete. Also, that he cares about me more then I know or see. And he says that he knows he can be an *** at times, but through all of that I was there.
He and I have been through so much...good, bad, and ugly. I still care about him, and I wanna give him another chance to prove that he is for real.
My question is should I go with my gut, and just give up on him and I? Or go with my heart, and give it a go?(What would you do?)
We've talked about it somewhat already, but we have some obstacles to overcome. So, I know before jumping into a relationship with him again we have to begin as friends...not trying to rush anything.

2007-04-11 23:06:41 · 1 answers · asked by gababygrl10583_912 2 in Singles & Dating

sex is borring we hv nth 2 do nemore plz help

2007-04-11 23:05:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

her.can u plz suggest me wat 2 do.......plz .........she tells she loves me very much just by listening my voice she fell in love with me......plz suggest me any solution........

2007-04-11 23:02:39 · 20 answers · asked by juynd 1 in Singles & Dating

im not christian wedding, never been to one before, as im not christian.
I've been invited to one. What happens at the reception?

2007-04-11 22:53:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I have broken up from my ex for almost 5months, it ended badly so we dnt have much contact. I fell in love with amazing guy, only thing is he is very jealous. My ex invited me to his birthday aswell as my bf, my boyfriend doesn't want to go but me and my ex have been lovers / friends for over 7 years. Should I go to the party show my face and get out? Not telling my current boyfriend or dicuss going to the party with him. ( I think he thinks I still love my ex, which is totally wrong) Help?

2007-04-11 22:53:18 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

whom to marry working girl or housewife

2007-04-11 22:53:07 · 7 answers · asked by jitender g 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm talking about the big O... I have talked to a number of women that have facked orgasm with past partners for a number of different reasons. Sometimes this is only once or twice but I doubt a lot of guys know that women do this.

Most of the women said the same thing.... the guy was taking a long long time so I faked having an orgasm... complete with noise and shaking. The guy never knew the difference.

The other reasons were that they just didn't like the guy and wanted to leave or they weren't getting any pleasure and faked it to not hurt the guy's feelings

So women have you ever faked it? If so what whst were the circumstances?

Guys you need to pay attention... this does happen. But you might never know it. And don't be so cocky and say... I would know if they faked ... remember there are such things as actresses.

I'm guessing that younger women with less partners may not have done this but women with more partners may have a few times.

2007-04-11 22:52:07 · 10 answers · asked by AdviceManHere 5 in Marriage & Divorce

What should I do to easily get rid off him, honestly I do care for even if he betrays me, but please help me,What should I do to easily forget him and be totally out of his life?

2007-04-11 22:43:31 · 10 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I think about 99% of the people in the world (myself included) would put beauty before personality. By this, I mean we don't want a relationship with people that we don't find physically attractive. Our brain produces dopamine when we are in a relationship (which gives us the feeling of adrenline rush, loss of appetite, and many other love sypmtoms), which can lasts up to about 12 years (or something like that).

Of course, most of us also want someone with an attractive personality along with the good looks. But since we fall for people who we think is beautiful (physically), then after thier beauty fades (as with age), so would our "love" feelings for them (logically speaking).

People do get attached to each other over time, but no matter how attached we are to someone, we won't have the same love feelings for them as we once did after thier beauty is gone. Since love is an attraction to beauty, and it would not last, then true "love" doesn't really exist then, right?

2007-04-11 22:38:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok i always want my mum to be proud of me... I no that my sisters and brother have hurt her in the past by lying, backstabbing and disrespecting her ... I have done everything she wants me to do EG: Leave School, Leave my friends which i never see anymore, Study Business Administration (which i hate), I dont have a BF coz she doesnt want me to, I never do anything she doesnt approve of... But she is never proud of me... I dont no what else i can do to make her proud of me... Any tips???

2007-04-11 22:37:24 · 12 answers · asked by SnowFlake 2 in Family

My husband has been talking to other girls behind my back and has left me with a 7month old and i am also 5 weeks pregnant... I really want to get back, or make sure that he doesn't take my kids away.
The girl he was talking to didn't even know about me until i found her number and talked to her, we 3 wayed him and he was asmitting to her the "drama that was going on"
I had callled the police because he smacked me in the face.

2007-04-11 22:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-11 22:31:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what should i do? it almost seems like he's bipolar.
he gets extremely upset, jealous, suspicious, and annoyed for
absolutely NO reason (i'm not kidding, and i'm not being defensive). example: he'll ask me to call him at 9am the next day. so, I call at 9am and he screams at me for waking him up.
so then i remind him that he asked me to call, and he yells that i should have known he would be sleeping and the ringtone on his phone is too loud. so, diplomatically, i say: "why don't you call me when you wake up, since you want to sleep right now?"
then he'll accuse me of not wanting to talk to him or of having something more important to do. eeek! i've tried not being so submissive when he acts that way, and it only makes the situation worse. other times he is so sweet and tells me he knows he only gets angry in the morning because he's so tired and he's angry at himself and he wants to change. he'll cry and tell me he doesn't know what to do to change. what should I do?

2007-04-11 22:30:44 · 12 answers · asked by eo 2 in Marriage & Divorce

boy age 11
twins girl age 7
twins boy and girl age 3
boy age 4 month

2007-04-11 22:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

but then they are shocked when he doesn't want to marry them?

2007-04-11 22:09:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is it not evident that they simply don't exist?

2007-04-11 21:58:30 · 7 answers · asked by Red Winged Bandit 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-11 21:57:54 · 1 answers · asked by LaPalma 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm kind of a free spirit and love my freedom. I'm 26 and I don't see what all the hype concerning marriage is all about. I guess it's ok if that's what you want. Half of marriages end in divorce anyway these days. Am I nuts for not wanting to get married someday?

2007-04-11 21:56:51 · 15 answers · asked by Jdog1 1 in Marriage & Divorce