My partner walks out 5 years ago and went back to his x-girlfriend and i brought there son up age 11 as my own for the last 6 years because they dint want anything to do with him.
They move back in to the area 4 weeks ago and now my son wont tell me where he going he started lying to me he told me this morning he was going to his mates but his mate his just been round looking for him and said he has not seen my son allweek.
I told my son i dont mind if he see his parents i just want to know where he is.
He said he not seeing his parents but i think he is.
2007-04-11 23:11:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What can i do to get him to tell me the true
2007-04-11 23:13:34 · update #1
I tried talking to his dad but he wont lissten to me
2007-04-11 23:15:54 · update #2
i would never tell him to move out
2007-04-11 23:18:34 · update #3
carrie green13 he uses the same computer as every one elce in the house he always has his phone with him.
And i know he has nothing in his room
2007-04-11 23:27:59 · update #4
Talk to him and keep talking to him. Tell him you trust him and love him but for your own peace of mind you need to know where he is going and who he is with. If he is only 11 then you need rules and that would include telling you who he is with if he wants to leave the house. HE may be seeing his parents and afraid to tell you because he does not want to upset you and have you think he does not love you. With his parents back in his life this is a confusing time for him. Talk to him about how he feels about this keep trying to talk he will open up. Tell him whatever he says you wont get mad you love him and want to help him.
2007-04-11 23:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be, he will tell you and if he doesn't then don't worry. Ask him if he would sit and talk to you about how he feels within himself over what happened 6 years ago if he says he doesn't want to talk then say OK. The real problems he needs to be open to you about is if is doing something else like getting in with the wrong crowd, drugs,alcohol etc. Sit him down and tell him not to ever fear talking to you if he ever needs to. There may be a girlfriend also so make sure he knows all the facts on sexual relations etc. Then just hug him and let him know daily you love him you'll both work it out.best wishes Cheryl B
2007-04-12 06:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he leaves the house again, and you can't find him, he is going to be punished. No 11 year old child needs to be on the streets without a parent knowing where he is. Tell him taht you love him and that you are worried about him.
2007-04-12 06:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his parent, I agree with all the posters here, you have to lay down the law, since you are taking care of him, and he is living under your roof, you have to do some investigating.
Check his computer, when he is not home, check into his room, when he is not home, check the numbers on his phone that were last dialed when he is not home, check his dressers, just take his room totally apart when he is not home, you have that right.
If you suspect something is wrong it probably is, and it is your job to be the parent, and not the best friend for once, and see what is going on, you might not like it, he might not like it, but one of these days he will thank you for saving him.
2007-04-12 06:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this kid is legally living with you (i.e. you are his official foster parent), then you need to lay down the law. As long as he lives under your roof and you have responsibility for his well-being, you have a right to know where he goes and whom he spends his time with.
If his living with you is a more informal arrangement between his parents and you, you need to tell him that either he starts respecting your wishes or he can go back to his "real" parents.
2007-04-12 06:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow him 1 day
2007-04-12 06:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't legally adopted him, he can pretty much see his parents whenever he wants because they're his parents.
2007-04-12 06:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by HaLF_BaKeD123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is seeing new friends,the bad kind.he has to hide them.
2007-04-12 06:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by dona 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋