I think about 99% of the people in the world (myself included) would put beauty before personality. By this, I mean we don't want a relationship with people that we don't find physically attractive. Our brain produces dopamine when we are in a relationship (which gives us the feeling of adrenline rush, loss of appetite, and many other love sypmtoms), which can lasts up to about 12 years (or something like that).
Of course, most of us also want someone with an attractive personality along with the good looks. But since we fall for people who we think is beautiful (physically), then after thier beauty fades (as with age), so would our "love" feelings for them (logically speaking).
People do get attached to each other over time, but no matter how attached we are to someone, we won't have the same love feelings for them as we once did after thier beauty is gone. Since love is an attraction to beauty, and it would not last, then true "love" doesn't really exist then, right?
2007-04-11 22:38:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would say that you are around 70-80% correct. because we really get attracted to looks first. but for others, after beauty fades, love still stays on. and it grows stronger.
there are lots of girls prettier than my wife. but it doesn't mean that i would love them over my wife. i've gone over that part. i love her more than ever now. and i feel deep inside that i would continue to love her even if she is already stuck to a wheelchair. i might not show it as much as i did before, but it doesn't mean my love has faded.
i agree with you when you say that we are attracted to beauty over personality (at first). but to say that love fades as beauty fades, i would have to disagree.
2007-04-11 22:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dota, What are you - l2? This is absolute nonsense. Real love has absolutely nothing to do with what a person looks like. And If it does to you then guess what ? You are not capable of loving anyone. Real love just happens and it is built on friendship first --then love comes. My experience has seen a lot and quite frankly the marriages which last for 50 or so years seem to be built on so much more than looks -- If you want to know about REAL love talk to elderly couples - you won't hear one of them talk about outer beauty. In fact just the opposite - as you get to know someone inside the outside will either get better looking to you or they will become down right ugly. Grow up!
2007-04-11 22:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally wrong. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some people, such as yourself, can not get past physical beauty. There are others of us that like a person with good sense of humor, intelligence; that are witty, wise, caring, sensible, etc...
You have obviously never been in love. When you love a person, they are beautiful to you. You don't see the ugly. You are blinded by the reason that you fell in love with them--generally not for their beauty.
For love, people would sacrifice their lives and their needs. They would strive to make sure that their partner is happy. They feel as if they and their partner are one person working for mutual goals.
There is no way to totally describe love to someone that has never felt it. When you feel it, you will know it. It won't be because they are beautiful (even if they are) it will be because the person has the qualities that you feel you need to share your life with that person.
2007-04-11 22:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you speak of is the "infatuation of youth". Thats when we experience those symptoms for the first time and nobody can tell us otherwise thats its not love.
For the love that I've glimpse is, to me, reaching a state where you and your partner becomes one and sometimes you do not even know that you have adopted his/her way of life and vice versa. At this point nothing else matters, and you are willing to and do face the stormy times of your relationship. OF course we are attracted to beautiful people but also remember that my standard of beauty may not be your standard of beauty so it is not just physical anymore because somewhere along that line personality kicks in.
I think you will know love when you are in it or found it. And if you are in doubt, thats not love.
2007-04-11 22:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to truly experience true love you have to love what inside not the outside. sure people fall i love with the wrapper and disappointed in the gift inside.. you have to to see beyond the wrapping to get to the true love that waits inside a person
you may have the most beautiful person visually in your life but inside is ugly with a bad personality. then all you got is someone that with time outer beauty that fades and left with the ugliness of both outer and inner person. if you look past the outer beauty and search inside the heart of a person and see the beauty within then over time the inside beauty starts to show on the outside and you have the best of both, a pretty wrapper & a wonderful gift inside..
2007-04-12 02:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love is something no one can really explain. Love is beauty but deep down it isnt physical beauty. Love is the feeling of the soul- its something we can't explain. Its longing, passion, friendship, its everything. You can't love someone with a repulsive personality- no matter how good looking they are. Love is what makes us hold on when all else is gone.
2007-04-11 22:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by meee_54678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love has nothing to do with looks. looks only attracts u too someone but it won't make u love them. from my own experience I have felt attracted to a really beautiful girl and when i got to know her the i loved her ;). before that i didn't i just thought she was pretty but nothing else. thats wat happened for every single time i've loved someone. i was attracted to them by their looks then i started to love them if their personality was good. otherwise nothing. and also the person doesn't have to be good looking, that just helps to attract ppl ;).
2007-04-11 23:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Mbolt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about people who fall in love with people who aren't beautiful? Not everyone sees OUTSIDE beauty!
2007-04-11 22:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we maybe be attracted to a person because of the beauty.. but we can't love them for that.. we are attracted.. love is we like the person because of who they are.. not because of pity or because of adoration of their beauty..
you may be wif sum1 that's beautiful and then one day you'll realise hom incompatible you are and that you can't stand being with the person maybe because of her behaviour.. that happens when you put beauty over personality..
what do you do is, get to know the person first.. if you like everything about her, and you know her weaknesses but you still can't keep your eyes from her even wif her weaknesses and all, then maybe you could consider that love...
2007-04-11 22:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by peace_4_the_nation 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is what ever the person who is in it, makes it! true love does exist dont read to much into though you will come to so many different ends and questions but when you meet the guy/gal all your questions will be answered by you!
2007-04-11 22:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by donna k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋