Ok i always want my mum to be proud of me... I no that my sisters and brother have hurt her in the past by lying, backstabbing and disrespecting her ... I have done everything she wants me to do EG: Leave School, Leave my friends which i never see anymore, Study Business Administration (which i hate), I dont have a BF coz she doesnt want me to, I never do anything she doesnt approve of... But she is never proud of me... I dont no what else i can do to make her proud of me... Any tips???
2007-04-11 22:37:24 · 12 answers · asked by SnowFlake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She probably is proud of you, yet she might not know how to express it. if you really dont think she is proud, then become what you have always wanted to be, go to college and/or university and she will be proud that you followed your dream and became what you wanted to. That you took a stand for yourself. or if you really want to ask her why she isnt or is proud of you. maybe tell her what you have in the question here. She may understand and tell you what you want to know. Just talk to her. This has not happened to me before but i hope it works out for you
2007-04-12 05:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by kitty-kat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is admirable that you want to please and satisfy your mom--you sound as if you are overdoing it. You did what you had to do but there comes a time when you have to admit that not everything has to be for mom. You need to do stuff for yourself. You are an individual with talents and abilities--so be proud. You did not fail your mom--other people have failed her--NOT you---and it is not your fault and not your responsibility--you cannot make those things go away. They made the wrong decisions and you seem to be making the proper ones--keep up the good work. If you continue to feel as if you have to do more and more--you will grow to resent your mom---and that can lead to other problems later in life. Perhaps your brother and sister have just given up and seem to have failed you mom--in reality they got tired of trying. Mom can possibly be a control freak--so watch for signs of manipulation and cruel words by this woman---be smart here. Smile, be cool and good luck
2007-04-12 06:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to do what makes you happy. There are some people in this world that are never satisfied. You sound like a great daughter. Anyone would be proud to have you. Just remember this in life--you can not please all of the people all of the time. It is an old saying, but very true. Just continue to love you mum for what she is, and pursue a better live for yourself and your future family. Best of luck in all of your endeavors. You will do great in life.
2007-04-12 05:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what u want for once...dont live your life how she wants you to...make her proud by being yourself. you will never be happy if you live your life like everyone else wants instead of what u want. who says u cant study what u want to study and not have her proud of u? maybe she will be impressed. we are all individuals and we deserve to be treated as individuals. just tell your mom that u need to do your own thing and that its nothing personal you just arent happy with the way things are in your life at the moment. hope this helps ya some. good luck with everything and God bless <3
2007-04-12 05:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably is proud,but she's also very controlling,my sister has ran her life exactly the same as you and feels the same,ive always done my own thing in life,choose my own friends and choose my own career,i left home at 16 and ive always been very independent,my sister is 35 and still lives at home and her whole life revolves around our mum,but the strange thing is,our mum shows me much more respect and doesnt try and tell me what to do in life.
Ill tell you the same as i told my sister-life isnt a rehearsal,live your life for you and do what makes you happy,life goes so quick and you can never get these lost years back,your mum sounds like she scared to let go of you,that is why she manages to control you without you knowing it.be happy in life,good luck to you
2007-04-12 05:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahhh
im sure she is proud of you really but because of the pain she s had with your bro s and sis she just dont show it. when someone has pain in there life they block things out you need to remember though its your life and what ever you do now will make the rest of your life if your not happy doing your course change it before its too late your mum will respect you for making bigger decisions that better your life than bad decisions that ruin your life
2007-04-12 05:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by donna k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have that experience... what ever i do good is nothing for her... she was never proud of me... always proud of my older sis and younger brother... (mwybe it has something to do being the middle child???) but as i try harder to make her proud of me... still none...
so i just continue what i do... also everything you do is not for your mom... it is also for you own good... it's ok that your mom is not proud of you NOW... just wait and she might be proud of you in the future... :D
2007-04-12 06:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Yani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of yourself. Don't be her doormat and go to the ends of the earth to please her.
Maybe you should sit down and tell her you feel like you've let her down somehow and you wish you could make her proud. It would give her an opportunity and an opening to say it.
2007-04-12 05:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, stop doing what she wants and do what you want. If you show her you can do well doing what you enjoy, and she's not proud, then that's her problem. (Have some limits though - still do some things she wants you to -- small things -- big things like your career, you should decide).
2007-04-12 05:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she told you otherwise? Not sure how old you are however it sounds like you are old enough to live your life the way you want to. If you do not like your studies, you need to change it becuase if not you will not be happy with yourself.
2007-04-12 07:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋