I have broken up from my ex for almost 5months, it ended badly so we dnt have much contact. I fell in love with amazing guy, only thing is he is very jealous. My ex invited me to his birthday aswell as my bf, my boyfriend doesn't want to go but me and my ex have been lovers / friends for over 7 years. Should I go to the party show my face and get out? Not telling my current boyfriend or dicuss going to the party with him. ( I think he thinks I still love my ex, which is totally wrong) Help?
2007-04-11 22:53:18 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah u should go... and also tell ur BF that u r going... since he knows ur past n claims to trust (as its the base of any relationship) u he should rather support u...
2007-04-11 22:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by utkzcul 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy is a bad way to start or keep a relationship. He won't get better and might get worse. You need to decide if the new guy is worth keeping. If you feel the need to go to the party, then he is not filling all of your needs. You said this guy is "amazing". That's a pretty strong word. If he's all that then your ex shouldn't even play in the situation. You have decisions to make. There are obviously things you left out of this about your new guy.
2007-04-11 23:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Miki S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you and your new boyfriend have developed a trust, you should avoid that situation. Tell him that you will not go this time, out of respect for him, but that he needs to trust you in order for the relationship to progress. There can be no love without trust. Jealousy is evil and destroys relationships.
Do not stay in this relationship, if he becomes so possessive that you can not even have friends or family close to you. You will never be happy. Don't give up the things that you enjoy for a jealous fool. Drop him if he does not stop this soon. You deserve to be happy too!
2007-04-11 23:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not go to your ex`s party just coz you were his lover for 7 years. It`s over now. If you still have feelings for your ex you should be honest with your b/f and tell him. Sounds like he already knows though - not surprised he`s jealous. I`d say he`s got good reason.
2007-04-12 00:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to him and make it sure and apparent you dont have any feelings for your ex. He needs to trust you, sounds like either he doesn't or he's insecure, thats why he's jealous. I mean you can say "Hey im going to the party with you, its not like im going alone or something." I guess the point of the story is to make him KNOW that your not leaving him or anything. Going to the party w/o telling him may lead to problems if he finds out.
2007-04-11 22:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by arkticttd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to make a clean break with both of them. It doesn't sound like either of them are a good idea for you. Trying to be friends with an ex never works and only means that you'll be stuck in the past and unable to move on with your life. And your current guy sounds like a control freak. Lose them both and build yourself a better future.
2007-04-11 22:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband is pretty much the same. a little jealous of exes. dont lie to your new guy! never a good move!! just give him lots and lots of attention and tell him you want to go and for him to go with you as you want to show off what a great catch you have! He'll be flattered and it'll shut him up! Men are strange creatures aren't they??
2007-04-11 23:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to prioritise which is more important, if it means that much to your current boyfriend perhaps leave it. How would you feel if it was the other way round? Perhaps you could convince him to go with u to the party just for half an hour with you?
2007-04-11 22:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your current boyfriend/partner. I wouldn't go without telling him, you'd surely end up fighting! Just sit down and talk but you know something? I leave my ex's in the past where they belong!!!
2007-04-11 23:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go.
you ended up so badly with him maybe now he open a door for friendship.but speak to your bf first and explain him that you don't have feeling for your ex bf anymore and maybe you can bring him to the party with you so he doesn't feel insecure about your ex.
he should think that you are with him now and he doesn't have any reason to get jealous.
i hope this helps.
2007-04-11 23:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by azumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋