Im slowly killing my mother?

Question

Due to personal and mental reasons, im extremely depressed.
My mother hates to see me like this and I fear it might kill her because shes diabetic and sick. Im trying to change but i just need time. My state causes me to be angry at every little thing so i just spend my day sleeping, causing my mother to worry more. I have suicidal thoughts all the time. I refuse to go to any counselling. im 17. help me

Answer 1

Have you considered religion? I know it's a touchy subject, but most Christians will tell you that they are generally happy people. I'm sure that goes for the majority of other religions as well.

Also, do you have any friends that you can talk to when you start having suicidal thoughts? It's not good to be alone when you're feeling this way, it gives you too much time to think. Not that thinking in general is a bad thing, but when you're feeling suicidal, it's better not to sit and stew. Get up, go outside, read a book, sing, just get you're mind off of it. I know it's hard, but I've been there, even at your age (I'm 27 now). You can get past it!

It's still a good idea to get professional help, in case what you're feeling is due to clinical depression, or bi-polar disorder.

By overcoming these feelings that you are having, you'll be able to help your mom out so much more.

Take care!

Answer 2

Hi
I have been depressed for many years myself. am on medications for it now.

There is controversy at the moment about what is best way to deal with depression. In my case it is a chemical imbalance of the brain so the meds are the only thing that would help me. Others need councelling as they have some trauma that makes them feel that way.

Councelling is not the only option out there for people with depression though many people sware by it. Unless you have been depressed for a long time being a teen ager and having stress of school, relationships, start and end of puberty, pleasing family every day to day factor starts to weigh you down and can also cause depression. Many Dr's and people don't want to believe that depression is around in teenagers but it is more common in teens than adults in some communities.

Try talking it out with your mum or family doctor if none of that helps just pull some stranger off the street happens all the time. You would find that having an uninfluential person involved can help you.

Hope this helps

Michelle

Answer 3

what the? You are only 17 and you are in this state of despair. WOW I am 46 and through a very traumatic childhood, I , 4 years ago went through what you are going through. I am not sure if not seeking help is the best for you. You are right at this moment asking for help and that is a good start. You say you have personal probs and mental reasons quite frankly you need to open your eyes to the real world out there it is in a mess. Your mum will be OKay she has raised you and if she is not well she will seek her own help. If you can take a walk look around take a deep breath and see inside yourself you are ok! Really. Your hormones are changing you are almost 18 and you will get through this. Be happy for you are alive and you are you. You are a great person you are wonder full you need to be around to help create new beginnings.

Answer 4

lil cres - why do you refuse to go to counseling? You could really benefit from a good counselor. If you didn't like the first one - get a different one. Have you tried any of the anti-depressant medications? You can't accept the responsiblity for your mother's health. You have enough to worry about - She is a grown-up and she will do what she has to do. If you become seriously suicidal she may have to have you put in the hospital for your own good. In Florida we ahve a law called the Baker Act which allows a next of kin to do this. I hope you can get help for yourself before you mother has to force you to do so. WHat are you waiting for? Get some help now. -k-

Answer 5

Hi, It sounds to me you have allot on your plate at 17 years old. Congratulations you are dealing with everything although to you it doesn't seem like it. Well the truth is you are dealing with it the best way you know how. If you are so against counselling there are other ways you could look into to help yourself deal with your depression. Yes talking about whats going on for you is the strongest most effective way of getting through it to the bright side of life. Hey why are you so angry with yourself? You cannot change your mothers condition try to accept what you cant change, and change what you can.If you want a good life? If you want to feel good about yourself think about your troubles differently. Hmmm. What do I mean distract yourself with something that will take your mind off what is getting you depressed. EG read a book the draws you in and makes you forget about you for awhile. Get involved with your local community help somebody worse off than you. There is a saying. I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had No Feet. Getting off yourself, getting out of yourself puts your troubles and worries into perspective for you. I hope something here helps you. I' ll be thinking of you. Good Luck.

Answer 6

You need professional help. You have a disease that needs to be under control. You are reaching out for help but only a professional can help you. If you are not on any medication there are meds that can help you control these feelings. Youc completed the first step by admitting you have problems the second step is to get help. Counceling can help you deal with your mom's illness and yours. Suicide is not the answer and will cause your mom great pain. Please go to counceling if just once you can change your councelor to one who you feel comfortable with. They are trained to help you through this but you need to be theone to go.Without some kind of help time will only make things work. your depressed and that is causing you to sleep so much.

Answer 7

Don't ask for help until you're willing to help yourself. Your refusal to seek professional help is what is causing half your problems. You need more help than a bunch of unqualified strangers on yahoo answers can give you. Get some professional counselling as quickly as possible. You sound extremely depressed. Ask your regular doctor for a referral to a mental health specialist.

Answer 8

if you're worried about what affect this is having on your mother, then go to counselling. if not for you then for her, otherwose, you say you just need time, why not go and stay with another relative/ friend for a bit untill you have got yourself sorted out enough so you are not worrying your mother any more. but still definately consider conselling. good luck x

Answer 9

Your refusal to go to any counseling is what's worrisome. Maybe you should ask yourself the reason why you refuse to get any help. Call a mental health crisis help line and they will talk to you about your condition and how to proceed.

Answer 10

If you refuse to go to counseling, then you are refusing to help yourself. Perhaps you don't have to go to a "doctor", but a minister, rather. Seek spiritual counseling. Pray, read the Bible. That always works for me.