Parenting - September 2007

I babysit a 3 yr old who always whines and talks back if he doesnt get his way. When I put him in time out I have to carry him there because he throws himself on the floor and while carrying him he is kicking, hitting and screaming at me, sometimes even trying to bite me. He yells at his mother when he doesnt get his way. He will only sleep in his parents bed (unless I am the only one there, then he will sleep in his bed by himself). He does not share and yanks stuff out of other kids hands when he wants it. I was just wondering if this is typical 3 yr old behavior. Honestly if it were my kid he would be spanked, but hes not, and the parents dont agree with spanking so I cant. Any tips other than time out (already tried that) and spanking on how to get this kid in control? Or is this normal?

2007-09-29 10:11:05 · 10 answers · asked by krystal 6

ok.....so ive known this guy for about 2 yrs through a good friend of mine. he lives in a different city. ive never talked to my parents about him. they dont know him. hes coming to visit me today, and i know when he comes pulling up in the drive way theyll want to meet him and all, but do u thin since they dont know him theyll let us go hangout some where? hes really sweet and nice, he a good guy, not the kind that try to pressure you into anything. iono if theyll believe me when i tell them this, cuz they dont know him.

2007-09-29 09:24:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-29 07:26:17 · 27 answers · asked by Tamara D 4

i give him enough for his needs and he gets 5 pounds pocket money per week aswell but he is very wastefull with money.
do any parents have any suggestions that might help

2007-09-29 05:45:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-29 03:58:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 3 kids. A 10 y/o boy, a 9 y/o boy and a 7 y/o girl. They will not listen to anything that my husband or I say! They smart off to us and they beat the crap out of each other. We can't go out alone because they run off every babysitter we get. We can't go out as a family because of the way they act. We have tried EVERYTHING!!! We have grounded them, taken everything out of their rooms, made them sit on their beds, even spanked them. Even tried spending one on one time with each of them. Nothing works. I just can't take it any more. I am afraid of how they will be later in life if I can't get them under control now. Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appriecated.

2007-09-29 03:53:38 · 24 answers · asked by becky p 2

I give my 2 year old benadryl when she has a cold to help with her runny nose. I read an article this morning that we shouldn't give toddlers antihistamines, does anybody know why? Has anyone researched or heard of any negative effects, short or long term? With all this scare about vaccines and autism, I am nervous about giving my 2 year old anything these days? Is benadryl for colds ok? I DO NOT give my children any medicine I think is unneccessary... Educated answers?

2007-09-29 01:26:20 · 9 answers · asked by BopMom 3

my sons teacher is realy making me feel down , everytime she see`s me waiting outside my sons class room with the other parents after school she keeps coming over to me and starts talking about my son infront of ppl ,they can hear her ,stuff like "my son wouldnt listen to her at p.e time "and that "he kept running around " my son is only 4yrs old and has just started her class on the 19th sept,she says she expects him to start reading by now,then she had the cheek to say"maybe theres something else wrong with him?"this teachers know`s my son has hearing problems,and he may have glue ear which a simple operation will help this,!the other teacher is just as bad ,when im leaving the school she stands at the school gates (to make sure the children are leaving with an adult)and as im leaving she will say "my son has been hitting the other children today "she tells me this when theres other parents behind me waiting for me to get out the way to leave,they can all hear her , ---------

2007-09-28 21:05:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is at the stage where he knows mummy doesnt have a willy (penis) and i dont want to use the word vagina, is there a word that you use instead of this. I will tell him when he is older the correct terms - he is 2.

2007-09-28 19:52:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I thought I would go to the park and as the paretns show up, to tell them I can take their child in my van to A and W or they can drop them off there if they want. When the last person shows up and is informed, I will go and meet the other kids whose paretns took them. Than what? What do you do with 9 kids at A and W for an hour and a half? Can I bring my cake in?

2007-09-28 18:25:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom, who watches my son 1 day a week while I'm in nursing school and who is also raising my niece, is constantly comparing his and her abilities to one another. My Aunt also has a baby in her custody who is very close to my sons age and they are always constantly in competition over who's smarter, more "physically advanced", etc. etc.

They did this with me, my sisters and my cousins when I was little and I remember always feeling not good enough. I think it's wrong and cruel.

My son is only 19 mo. old but I know that soon he will understand and I wonder if I should try to find alternate care. I've talked to her about this and she just continues... it doesn't phase her. Also, she and my Aunt are horrible gossips (even about their own children) and seem to thrive on negative drama. It hurts.

She also doesn't respect what I say when it comes to my son. She gives him kool-aid, french fries.. basically junk..even though I provide healthy snacks for her to give him. Advice?

2007-09-28 18:18:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

This situation with that precious baby Madison that has had trauma inflicted on her in such a manner that will haunt her for the rest of her life has made me re-animent about what I have always believed:

Any person who is sick enough to rape a child under ten years old should face a mandatory sentence of death.

When something like that happens to a child, you are murdering their ability to have a happy, normal, productive life.

I am sorry if any of yall dont agree with the death penalty but I am going to say this:

If anyone did that to my child, they wont have to worry about the police.

Because the police wont find their body.

2007-09-28 15:58:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

and Im talking permanent such as having your "tubes tied"... please respond! I am 24......and right now feel that if I ever have a child... I would like to adopt. I am very comfortable in my relationship with my boyfriend of whom I have been with for 4 years. We see ourselves being married within 2 years. This is more of a personal decision.....Do you think I am too young to make such a permanent decision???? Will I change my mind when I am 27 or 32? Please give me your feedback along with any questions/concerns/opinions! I am very excited to see how you respond. Thanks! Sandra

2007-09-28 15:54:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 12 year old daughter wants to start writing books and wants them published. She has one written already. Do you think people will take her seriously?

2007-09-28 15:31:16 · 11 answers · asked by i know what im talking about :P 2

my teenage son got grounded for two weeks. But during his grounding he has not come home from school until late and sneaked out twice during the weekend. How can i make him stay home and accept his punishment?

2007-09-28 15:06:36 · 18 answers · asked by cassie 2

She says no to everything. Is only nice if you're nice to her.

And worse part is, she gets mad over everything! I mean, everything! She takes everything out of context. A teacher who she likes asks her to go to class and she gives that teacher dirty looks, etc

What should I do?

2007-09-28 14:51:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you agree with this statement? why and why not

2007-09-28 13:46:58 · 40 answers · asked by Thereyahgo 1

This week a daycare was temporarily shut down because one of the workers was taping a 2 month olds pacifer to his mouth to make him stop crying. Here is a clip of the news article about it.

A spokeswoman for the Department of Human Services says a 4-month-old boy was found in a darkened room in a Jefferson City nursery with a pacifier taping his mouth shut.

Department spokeswoman Michelle Mowery Johnson says the department responded Tuesday to an anonymous complaint that a caregiver in Jefferson City was taping babies’ mouths shut.

An investigator heard muffled whining from the bathroom. The boy’s mouth was taped with two-inch clear packing tape.

The nursery was closed today. It will be served with a suspension order from DHS and a hearing is set for Thursday before an administrative judge.

More details as they develop online and in Thursday’s News Sentinel.

What do you all think about this?

2007-09-28 13:43:30 · 13 answers · asked by Gopu Js 1

used the words penis or vagina, rather than a nickname for that body part? (not that children just walk around all the time talking about these things......)

2007-09-28 13:43:22 · 26 answers · asked by Holy Macaroni! 6

... pregnant about to give birth any day to our 2nd child.

Am very concerned about how we (husband and I) are gonna cope with the two of them. How will I co-ordinate meal times, sleep times. How will I have time to keep my house in some kind of order (because my 22 month old creates a LOT of mess).

I feel really daunted right now.

To make matters worse we are currently in a one bedroom flat - am very concerned that the two kids sleeping in the same room at the early stages will mean that NEITHER child gets any sleep (i fear that the baby crying will wake up my toddler, and my toddlers tantrums will wake up my baby!!)

We ultimately hope to move but its not possible right now.

Any words of guidance, encouragement, support? Anyone been in a similar situation (i.e. 2 children under 2 years old)?

2007-09-28 13:33:54 · 4 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6

2007-09-28 13:28:02 · 10 answers · asked by Holy Macaroni! 6

The kid (age 6?) across the street likes to come over almost everyday to play with my daughter (8) and step-son (17 & disabled).

I don't mind that. But he is just so irritating. He asks 50 million questions, and if you are having an adult conversation with someone or speaking to someone else he will but his nose in.

We also have specific rules for our kids. #1- We want them to stay in the yard at all times. #2 - No riding their bike on the lawn. #3 - Due to problems with the teenage punk behind us we no longer allow them to play in the back-yard unless there is an adult present (this is a WHOLE other topic). And #4 - NO playing in the garage or around vehicles.

He is always talking my kids into leaving the yard. I always catch him riding his bike on our lawn. And just today I caught him about 5 times in my garage with his bike, around my car! And the last time I flipped and yelled at him.

He just bothers me and my hubby so freakin much. What should we do?

2007-09-28 12:03:45 · 18 answers · asked by westvalleycityavonlady 2

okay i just asked how to stop it but i really didnt get the response i needed. Shes 7 years old and chews on her tongue especially when shes concentrating. She started doing at about age 1. But what i didnt mention is that i thought she would grow out of it thats why i left it alone for so long. but it has gotten worse. She now does it more constantly and now she even tries to speak while doing it. It has gotten substantially worse instead of better. I need advice on how to try to stop it. thanx for any help.

2007-09-28 11:38:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very careful about what food I give my 11 month old daughter... i read the labels on EVERYTHING. Not wanting her to have sugar or too much other crap (corn syrup, other gross additives). My sitter always says something along the lines of "when she's older she's going to want it and then get sick because she's not used to it" or "she's so skinny, she needs all the fat she can get" (which is true, she is small for her age, but I want to fatten her up with nutritious stuff not crap) or "she's going to be allergic to it if you don't start her on it soon". I know most of this is b.s., but it's a very close relationship and I don't want to damage it. My daughter loves going there and I love having her there but I don't like her nutrion ideas. Oh and her husband and her 10yr old are very overweight... she realizes it but aparantly doesn't understand the correlation between their junk food habits and their obesity.

Thanks for any advice!!

2007-09-28 11:36:54 · 12 answers · asked by pumpkinseed 2

My daughter is 7 years old and she constantly chews on her tongue. Shes been doing it ever since i can remember, like about a year old. She really does it bad when she is concentrating. Ive tried constantly reminding her, and even putting her in time out. The hard part is she doesnt realize that she is doing it most of the time. any suggestions will be appreciated.

2007-09-28 11:23:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I absolutely can not stand it when adults encourage their children to swear! Either encouragement by telling the kids to swear or encouraging them by laughing every time a child swears! Can somebody explain to me why this is so funny? Now, if you are trying to have your child to say something and they accidently pronounce it as a swear word... I understand that.. but not any of the other instances!

I am a mother... and the father of my child encourages him to swear and it really annoys me! (We're not together by the way)

2007-09-28 08:28:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married what will be 5 yrs soon, I am 25 yrs old going on 26 and my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old(same dad as my daughter).Our divorce is a bit ugly he cheated we seperated i cheated in retalition which is how my son was concieved and we tried to make it work but that did not end well.I worked for about 2.5 -3 years during our marriage as a community college proffesor(adjunct) and HS history teacher.But have now not worked at all for the last 2 yrs except for some babysitting jobs and helping out at my friends bakery.I wont be able to get a job as a teacher this time of year so i need a fill in job?My friend offered me a job as manager/a cake decorator at her bakery for $13.50 4-5 days a week,sometimes sat.mornings, 6-8 hrs.She said the days and hours vary by demand.Do i take the job even though its not a job i ever saw myself doing?

2007-09-28 08:15:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-28 07:56:06 · 2 answers · asked by ms.sophisticate 7

I can't believe that they have to deal with concerns about guns and bomb threats. The most major problem when I was in school was kids smoking in the bathrooms! It's a whole different ballgame for our kids nowadays...

2007-09-28 07:34:59 · 14 answers · asked by angelbaby 7

I am watching a 8 year old after school for a single mother. I watch her for 3 hours , 3 days a week. I want to make this worth my while, but also want to help a single mother out too. ( I was a single mommy for a while and it is hard to find affordable sitters.) Does anyone have any suggestions?

2007-09-28 07:10:35 · 15 answers · asked by matty 2