Parenting - September 2007

2007-09-02 08:54:05 · 17 answers · asked by Aliana 2

My kids dad and I have ben divorced for almost 6 years.We both are remarried,and still talk to each other about the kids.We also have joint custody,one week with him,one week with me.I have noticed as the kids get older,(they are 9 and 10)that whatever I say no to,he will let them do when they are with him.I have talked to him and asked that we both follow the same rules,same bedtimes,ect.But he does his own thing,he told me during our last conversation that since he is their father he should have the final say on what goes on.I am almost ready to go file for sole custody,but the kids seem to be better with this agreement.My son,(the 9 year old)is bipolar,and there are rules that have to be followed.Should I talk to Dad again,or just go find an attorney?

2007-09-02 07:18:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 11(12 in about a week) suggested that we purchase white tee shirts and markers to make tee shirts for our high school football team games. I told her no, that I didn't have time to deal with the mess right now. The next day my husband took the kids to the Dollar Store, she purchased tee shirts and food coloring. When she came home she took these items into her room and proceeded to decorate the tee shirts with food coloring (all of this was without permission). Our 5-year old just found the mess that came of that experiment. The 11 year old got food coloring on the sofa in the bedroom, the carpet, and several pieces of brand new school clothes (unfortunately those school clothes belonged to the 5 year old).

How would you handle this? I am really angery because she ruined so many items, disobeyed me and manipulated my husband. My husband does think it is a big deal because the carpet is somewhat old and the couch, while not very old, isn't very atractive.

2007-09-02 07:08:20 · 11 answers · asked by db2437 3

I caught a few boys stealing from the store where I work a few weeks ago. They stole an energy drink, candy, and a few toys. We had to let them go due to lack of evidence and we found all the evidence after we let them go. I found out later that day that one of the boys lives across the street from me. Since this happened whenever he sees me in the window reading a book or doing my nails he freaks out and goes back inside. lately his mom is becoming suspicious of him not playing and it's only a matter of time beforeshe makes he connection that he's afraid of me. More than likely she will want to ask me what's going on. What should I say to her? I know I have to be careful or she can sue me and the store.

2007-09-02 07:04:59 · 14 answers · asked by christigmc 5

2007-09-02 02:33:02 · 12 answers · asked by shiningStar 2

Mine have already started with the lists of bikes, gadgets, designer labels, etc, etc, etc.
Myself, I asked Santa for a win on the Lottery! How about you?

2007-09-02 02:28:48 · 15 answers · asked by Sonja 4

My 5-year old son wants to take ballet dancing with his sister. I tried to steer him towards the tap/jazz end of the class, but he insists he wants to be a ballerina. I myself have no problems with this, but am still concerned. At some point, someone is going to tease him and I'm guessing it will probably even be his own Grandfather. As much as I want him to follow his dream, I also don't want him to be totally crushed and to have to endure being ridiculed. What do I do??

2007-09-02 02:07:23 · 29 answers · asked by hotmel_007 1

I have two under five year old children as well and I never get any sleep as I dont feel very secure about being in the house on my own with my little ones.

2007-09-02 01:47:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-02 00:04:25 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is19 months old and I have been at home every day with him almost. The only time my parents or his parents watch him is if Im sick or have something like a doc. appt. Ive asked my mom before to watch him while I got my hair done and she said no, she always took me when I was little. Its not that I dont love every sec. with my son but I would love just to go to the store by myself or go get my hair done by my self. Or go for a jog or work out or just sit at home at watch tv other than barney. I feel like b/c my mother never asked for help i sholdnt either. I dont even know where to start to find someone to watch him for a while, Then I would pay them and feel guilty for spending my husbands hard earned money while I stay at home all day. Does any one have any advice? We dont have any friends with children or I would child swap. Then I think I want more kids but Im affraid to ask for help because people will think I cant handle it. ANy one else in the same boat? HELP me

2007-09-01 16:50:58 · 16 answers · asked by Angela C 1

I have a friend in his twenties. His wife cheated on him, took everything he had, including their child. Got an outrageous court settlement causing him to have to pay so much in child support that he couldn't afford even a single room apartment so his parents said he was welcome to live with them, in fact they didn't like it when he finally was able to move so he took them up on their offer. Now after 15 years his mom made the comment "MOST PARENTS CHARGE THEIR GROWN CHILDREN TO STAY WITH THEM". Is this true, you have a son or daughter who has been betrayed by his wife, left with nothing and needing help, is it a matter of love for the son or daughter to help and not even bring up or expect money or is this world so cold that if he could have paid he should have? When his parents are old and can't take care of themselves he's always said he would take them in and take care of them.

PAY or NOT? This isn't a bum, it's a blue collar worker who had no place to turn to.

2007-09-01 13:50:10 · 15 answers · asked by swsAnswers 3

and bawled her eyes out for a good half hour. I tried to explain the so called "cycle of life" but I felt real sad for her. How did you handle it, it being the first time your child saw a dead animal up close?
She was real upset because the squirrel's eyes had been eaten, and she said "I could see right through his head." Also, she said she wanted to take it home.
For those of you who know me here, you may think this is some kind of joke, but it's really not, it's a pretty serious question because I don't want things like this to cut our park time short.

2007-09-01 09:51:15 · 15 answers · asked by Guinness 5

2007-09-01 09:10:29 · 25 answers · asked by Like 2

that I breastfeed my 3 1/2 year old daughter? We are trying to conceive another child and I will breastfeed him/her as long as possible. Why is it anyone else's business? People love to criticize me for it, but I am doing the BEST thing for my child, and it is obvious they are jealous and have their own guilt issues.

2007-09-01 08:39:27 · 20 answers · asked by jrawls 2

2007-09-01 06:47:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

And sadly I have to qualify this by saying that these are just pecks on the lips and nothing more. But does it make you uncomfortable.

2007-09-01 05:13:55 · 31 answers · asked by Ellinorianne 3

I have a 4-year-old boy and a 3-year-old girl. They enjoy baths together and it saves me time, but I was wondering what age we should start bathing them separately. What have other parents found worked best? My boy and girl "notice each other" and are sometimes curious but nothing beyond that. Is it ok?

2007-09-01 05:00:30 · 3 answers · asked by Veritas 7

My son is 12 years old, and only has a few chores that he has to do, and they only get done when I tell him to do them. We have been struggling financially in the family here lately, and my husband called to inform me that he got a $300 bonus today from work and when he gets home we'll all go shopping. It's been soooo long since I went shopping for pleasure. I told my son and he said, "How much will I get?" my husband said that if he behaved all day and didn't argue with me, he'd give him $10. My son got mad and started crying. He says he should get at least $20 and I said, be grateful for what you have, $10 is more than you had yesterday. Then my husband got mad and said if he won't be happy with $10 I'll just keep it! My husband pawned a ring yesterday and got gas and cigarettes then bought my son a game for his PSP with the rest so it's not like he never gets things. Shouldn't he be grateful for $10 or should we give him more? I know $10 isn't a lot, but it's something!

2007-09-01 04:49:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anybody remember those childrens books that came out in the mid 90's that taught children morals and values, im trying to find some for my daughter, and i dont remember who wrote them. Can somebody help?

2007-09-01 04:40:14 · 11 answers · asked by Mintjulip 6

i know this is up to the individual, but i'd like to know what you guys think, what the age gap is with your kids? if they are close etc

2007-09-01 04:28:58 · 48 answers · asked by mzp21 2

My beautiful 4 year old grandaughter is the centre of the universe in our family. She is healthy and happy little girl and we make sure that she gets the best of everything! We buy her whatever she wants including the most expensive toys and clothes!

How angry I and my family was at the country fair the other day when we encountered a young woman who would not give up her seat at the picnic table for her.

There weren't alot of seats at the picnic tables but we spotted an empty space next to a young lady who was sitting all alone.

****Without asking if the seat was taken****, I directed my grandaughter to sit right beside the young woman who was looking around as if waiting for someone to come back

The young woman politely said to my grandaughter that she was sorry but her boyfriend was sitting there and he had just gone up to get a coffee and that he would be back in 1 minute.

Well, I just was appalled. Because my grandaughter is a child and she must always come first!

2007-09-01 01:22:47 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, come on! We all like to brag about our little angels, sure, and we're here to offer advice and opinions, but when I see a question, and all it's doing is stating what a brilliant choice this parents supposedly made for their children, which the rest of society should look up to and follow, I'm left wondering if these people are genuine!
Do you think they're really that clueless, or just making it all up?

2007-09-01 01:19:07 · 6 answers · asked by Sonja 4

I read this paragraph about instilling respect in children, and it got me thinking. How many children now a days seem to act so disrespectful to everyone, and think it is there right to act this way. I know if I ever acted as disrespectful like that to anyone I would be in alot of trouble with my parents as a child.

Do you think it is because of lack of time? television raising our children, videos that teach our children, society as a whole excepting this behavior? is it because the whole village is not raising a child now a days- people dont want to get involved?

It seems a sad day when you see these gangs controlling the street and people afraid to step up to these CHILDREN OF THE STREETS and say hey you are being disrespectful and need to learn how to treat others with respect.

Just was wondering what others think of this?

the article i referred to is in this link listed below
http://www.tparents.org/Library/Unification/Books/RCoP/RCoP-4-03.htm

2007-09-01 00:14:20 · 7 answers · asked by snowwhite_in_a_glass_case 3