What is the best age gap to have between your children?

Question

i know this is up to the individual, but i'd like to know what you guys think, what the age gap is with your kids? if they are close etc

Answer 1

I have the 2 boys that are 17 months apart, then my eldest daughter 2 years later and the baby 5 years after that...for me personally i think the first 3 were Too close together as although it was fun life was non stop...with the age gap of 5 years between the girls i am able to enjoy my 3 year old so much more...i notice much more of what she is doing...when baby no5 comes along (baby dust on myself) hopefully they will be 4 years apart...

I like bigger age gaps

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I cannot say from personal experience that the age gap between my children is the best because I am currently pregnant with my second child, but my girls will be 18 months apart. I have heard it both ways, a bigger gap is better because of this reason and a smaller gap is better because of this reason. I say that it is very individual depending on your situation. We planned to have our children close together in age because we wanted to have them grow up together, go to school together, be friends and have the same friends. They have a built-in playmate when they are young and a built-in bestfriend when they are older. This situation will work well for us as we are emotional and financially prepared for two children close in age. I do not at all agree with people who think that there should be a certain age gap in order for the first child to not feel neglected. I do not agree that my first daughter will suffer and receive less love becasue she has a younger sister that is less than two years younger than her. So I believe that an age gap of 1 1/2 years will work wonderfully for my family.

Answer 4

2-3 years

Answer 5

ive got 3 kids the oldest is 4 the middle has just turned 2 and the youngest is 14 weeks nearly it was alot easier when i had my second child the age gap is 2yrs and 4 months between the middle and youngest theres only 21-22 months and is not so easy im still running around after the 2 yr old and changing 2 lots of nappies noty easy so id say 2+ yrs the best gap

Answer 6

I have 3 children, 1, 3 and 8, the youngest are 19 months apart and they play together really well, they enjoy the same toys and going to the same places, I feel really bad for the 8 year old as he trys to play with them but is too rough without realising. Parties and days out can be a nightmare, he wants to go on rides for example and if your alone you can't do it as someone needs to watch the buggies. When I take the younger children to friends houses he is understandably bored and doesn't understand that younger children don't necessarily behave the same as him. It is hard work at first having them close together but the pro's outweigh the cons by far. Plus the hand me downs are still in fashion!

Answer 7

I want three kids --- have the first, wait about 5 years, have the second, and then the third would come along about 2 or 3 years later.


This way you have the oldest child to be the big sister/brother to help watch out for or help out with the other two, and the younger two are close in age, so they can rely on eachother (plus they will be in school together, 1 or 2 grades apart).

Answer 8

There is 16 months between my 2 and I think its perfect! There is no jealousy at all and they are great company for each other. I was still in "baby" mode when my daughter was born so I didnt know any different. My childrens ages are 4 and 2 1/2 and the thought of starting again with a newborn would give me nightmares. So there is a disadvabtage of having them too far apart.
Hope above makes some sort of sense :)

Answer 9

My kids are 4 years apart and I'm very happy with that. Originally I would have opted to have them a little closer but it didn't work out that way. But now that I have it the way I have it, I am glad we waited as long as we did. I just think it's so much easier to explain to my oldest what is going on, why she isn't the center of attention anymore. And since she understands better, she is very helpful. She is really protective over her little brother. She's always telling people..."That's MY baby!" She's become quite the little mother hen around the house. She always makes sure he is getting everything he needs. I think if I were to have them two years or three years apart I might really have my hands a lot more full!

Answer 10

Hi there
I have a boy and a girl, my boy is the eldest and there are 2 years between them. They get along really well, but i also have a friend who has just had a new baby and has an 11 year old girl. This works fab as the 11 year old is really helping to look after bay!! i think you're right - its individual and all families are different, best wishes.