Parenting - September 2007

I have often heard Conservative types preaching about how some poor child has been "saved" from a life of "poverty" with a penniless single mother and adopted by a wonderful middle class couple who can provide them with all they want.

Yet here we have two ostensibly "perfect" parents - middle class doctors - doping up their children and leaving them alone while they go out with their friends!!!

I know penniless single mothers on housing estates who would never, ever do that!

So why do we assume that just because someone is rich and successful they will be a better parent than someone who is poor and disadvantaged?

My cousin and his wife are two wealthy successful career people and their 18 month old son has all the expensive toys etc you could want. Yet he spends up to 10 hours per day *every day* in daycare while his parents pursue their careers. to me thats not good parenting. I don't understand why they even had a child because they never see him!!!

2007-09-09 21:34:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son will be turning 9 friday and everything that can go wrong for me is financially has happened this week. I just broke even with my check to pay the rent on time this month with 24 dollars left over, every bill is due with a disconnect notice, and my car broke down this morning. I planned to spend the day with him on his b-day but the boss just made a mandatory class attendance at work for all day friday and the weekend (which I requested off )so I cannot spend any time with him either on his b-day weekend he will have to hang out with his sitter he dislikes. As a single parent of three I break my neck every year but it has finally caught up to me this year. How can I tell him I cannot afford to do anything this year and make him understand that I probley won't be able to at all do anything. I know this will be hard for him b/c teachers will ask what he recieved for his b-day or what he did how can I make him understand I just cannot do anything about it or when I can.

2007-09-09 20:57:02 · 26 answers · asked by nene 3

This is a question ONLY for those people who believe the McCanns accidentally killed their daughter.
For those who dont believe that please carry on the hunt...beware of Irishmen with a bit of left over tarmac and becareful of the guy doing a survey on how many free windows you would have if they were being given away.

How could two doctors overdose a child on sedatives and how come she died so quickly? They must have had plenty of opportunity to revive her with help... I believe they killed her..just dont know how it happened

2007-09-09 20:50:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-09 19:54:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm only 20 i work 40hours a week, and my parents want me out of there house, but i'm not ready i was planning on going to college next year, and now i gotta move out and make it on my own. Do you think this is wrong?

2007-09-09 19:10:51 · 16 answers · asked by Chris l 1

My friend took her 3 YEAR OLD daughter to get her
ears pierced .

And ask me why my 4 year old as never had them done.

i said i will let her get them done when she is 13 or over and ask me herself not before.

i told my mate she was wrong doing this at such a young age kids should be teens for things like this to be done to them and ask not have parents force things like this done to them at a young age.

her reply was in later life her daughter will thank her for getting them done at a young age.

i think she is bang out of order

what do you lot think?

regards x kitti x

2007-09-09 18:51:41 · 40 answers · asked by misskitti7® 7

I would like some opinions please. My daughter is 3 and each year since she was born her father will go for months with no type of contact then he calls whenever he feels like it and if he gives money and spends some time with her he acts as if he is such a good father. I messed up by not taking him for child support from the beginning. He works and gives my daughter nothing. Me and him always argue also his family are phonies they have my phone number and do not call for my daughter like they should or barely.I understand every child needs a father but I feel if her father really loved her he would care but he doesnt I want to try for the sake of my daughter but me and her father just dont get along and cannot reach a resoloution. I am debating whether to take him for child support now because I need the help but i really do not want anything to do with him EVER. I also want to cut the family completely off as well am i wrong? I just want to wash my hands of the situation.

2007-09-09 18:33:39 · 16 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1

My bf has recently come to the conclusion that his son is a bit spoiled (it's true-he is). He's never had to do chores before for his allowance, and we'd like to introduce some. What are some good ones that a 7 year old can handle, and what are some tips regarding easing the transition?

2007-09-09 17:31:45 · 14 answers · asked by Priscilla B 5

I have twins, 7 year old girls. They'll be 8 in Dec. Anyway, we were fortunate enough until last year to give them just about everything that a couple of little girls could want. They have a ton of toys, video games, movies, and even have 2 computers in their bedroom. They have a hamster in their room as well.

Anyway, we are not so fortunate now as my husband lost his job. The girls have always abused their personal belongings. I want them to have nice things , so I replace them. They continually trash their room putting hamster food and water in their kitchen set and in their rug. They constantly have papers and toys all over the floor. Their dolls are colored on. Their dvd collection only half works because they just throw the dvds on the floor or wherever when they're done watching them. I put them to bed and when I go in their room to check on them, I find them sneaking back over to the bed.

2007-09-09 17:00:28 · 15 answers · asked by robyn_fresh 2

i have a 2year old daughter and i want her to grow smarter that most mothers want to.. how can i raise her up?

2007-09-09 16:45:04 · 9 answers · asked by chikai 1

and, please, don't recommend spanking, because I am totally against that!
they don't back-talk all the time; but, they have moments when it's NO to going to take a shower; NO, to doing their homework now; NO, to eating their dinner.
I know this is very common behavior in most children. I would just like suggestions for effective (calm) approaches for handling these moments.
p.s. thank you for your help, in advance. :):)

2007-09-09 15:57:19 · 26 answers · asked by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7

2007-09-09 08:47:45 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

it annoyed me with my first child now its happening to my second, why do schools have to have R.E i'm dead against this and have always wanted my children to 'find' their own 'religion' 'belief' or whatever...does it annoy you

2007-09-09 08:25:54 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ohio mom stopped to buy donuts on her way to work (before dropping 2 year-old daughter w/babysitter). She went directly to work and FORGOT her baby was in the car! She left the baby in the car for 8 hours!

The temperature was just about 100° outside the car! Inside the car, the temperature was 150°. The baby was essentially cooked to death.

The mother is wracked with guilt. Guilt is the key word here. She was not charged with any crime because of the laws in Ohio. What happened to "endangering the welfare of a minor," or "child neglect," or even better: "involuntary manslaughter?"

Too many people are feeling sorry for this mother. Where is the compassion for the baby that died? Where is the outrage at what that poor baby suffered for the 8 hours, or however long it took for her to die?

I KNOW, in my heart, I could never let that happen. If I DID forget, it sure wouldn't be for 8 hours. No job is that good to make me forget my baby's in a hot car. What do you think—jail; what & why?

2007-09-09 07:43:33 · 39 answers · asked by palemalefriend 5

My husband is an only child.
We have 3 children- 2 boys who are 8 and 6 and a baby who is now 12 months old. Our middle son's birthday was last month- and he received 1 gift. The baby received 5- Just "little things" they said they had picked up for her.

Our oldest doesn't mind the gifts and attention they give to our baby. Our middle one does- because for a long time, he was the baby.

I love my in-laws. They are kind, caring, and good people. We get along really well. Always have. I have talked to them about this and my mother-in-law has said, "oh, she is just a baby..." I expressed to them that it hurts the boys and the same reaction.

They are thrilled to death that there is a little girl in the family- I know this, yet our middle son is feeling left out. I have talked to him about it, but he feels Grandma only loves the baby now. Yep, my heart breaks for him.

How can I talk to them to get this point across?

2007-09-09 07:01:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not sure if it's a teething thing (she's yet to cut one) or if she's just dealing with separation anxiety, but I can't put her down without her screaming bloody murder. She doesn't want to go to anyone else, even daddy. What do I do? Can I "train" her to get used to me putting her down?

2007-09-09 06:00:22 · 10 answers · asked by Walking_Food_Source 2

My daughter will be 2 years, 9 months when next baby comes and I'd like to do what I can to prevent jealousy, etc. Any advice?

2007-09-09 05:05:02 · 7 answers · asked by julesl68 5

My toddler is almost 16 months old. Should I give her peanut butter or things with peanut butter?

2007-09-09 04:47:08 · 24 answers · asked by TTC#2 4

I'm not a mom yet but I am a nanny. I have an awful gag relfex when it comes to throw up (not baby spit up, but real throw up) and certain poopy diapers; will I get used to this or is it differet when it's your own child? It's awful and I've always been like this. When someone around me throws up and I smell ot see it I want to throw up myself an often do; and really smelly poopy diapers make my gag.

My hubby and I are TTC and I want to know if it will be different when it's my child or if it's something I'll adjust to.

2007-09-09 02:13:46 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7

I am on an overseas trip and we are just recovering from the jet lag. To my surprise my son turned into a picky eater and only wants to nurse or eat certain foods that he can pick with his hands. There seems to be no regular pattern that I have discovered, yet (but rice worked a couple times and chicken shreds, Gerber puffs and peas were accepted in tiny amounts).

I have two questions.

(1) How do you deal with the frustration? I feel really almost angry that he is not eating. I don't show it, but I don't feel so happy at all when my food gets rejected again?

(2) What other foods would you suggest me to prepare?

(3) What are things that worked for you during a phase like that?

thanks a million...(notsohappymom)

2007-09-09 02:13:29 · 10 answers · asked by happymom 2

I was exercising at a gym yesterday, while I noticed A boy who was about the same age as my 14 year old son, he was maybe 5'5 and he had someone with him. He looked quite odd for his age, he was using the dumbells for bicep curls when he was curling with them, with 35 lb weight on a single arm and it looked like he was doing around 15 reps. There was several veins near his shoulder and his biceps that was perdruding out visibly.

I walked over to him and said "Aren't you a little young to be weight training and shouldn't you be using less weight? He observed me for a second, then said "I know so much more then you in physical training so why don't you just shut your bitchy mouth". I was speachless, as he continued his training, I walked up to the man who was training him, probably his older brother and told him what he said " and he just started laughing and ignored me" And he was an adult probably on the usage of steroids.

Why were they so rude to me, and why is he training?

2007-09-08 21:56:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

And want to cry because you created that child with someone and ITS A MERICALE!

2007-09-08 19:47:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

why / why not?

2007-09-08 18:36:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to find a 3 foot or larger Barney stuff animal (no lol. Not for me).

Trying to find one in a good price budget. I have a hard time getting one for 79.00 that I found on hitshopusa.com on sale!

Anyone have any websites (besides ebay/amazon that I already tried) that could direct me into at least big stuffed animals (Barney)?

or looking to get rid of theirs?

Thank you

2007-09-08 17:02:04 · 3 answers · asked by Mutchkin 6

I am stumped. She has everything. She's into music,photography,painting,movies. CASH is probably the answer. Do you have any cool ideas?

2007-09-08 14:12:39 · 8 answers · asked by unmovingasp 3

I am pregnant with my 4th, a girl. I love the name Noelle as she is due around Christmas. I also like the "elle" at the end. However I cant think of a name to go with it and I dont want to over do the Christmas link. I would like something, or some version of a name, from the Bible. My other childrens names are Gavin Shawn, Gabrielle Rayne and Branyan Isaiah. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks
Shannon

2007-09-08 13:44:55 · 7 answers · asked by Shannon Z 1

2007-09-08 13:40:36 · 8 answers · asked by Outtamyway 1

I have roughly $300 a month to spend on food.

2007-09-08 13:18:32 · 11 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5

I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old up until May they were really great children always listened and mined . Now all of a sudden my 5 year old talks back has become lazy going to the store is hell with them to they wiil not listen they run all over the place. Bed time is the worse they share a room and jump from bed to bed yell and scream. I have tried chore charts simple ones like listen and pick up your toys , time outs spanking on the butt I am all out of options and I really want my children back to they were 6 months ago it seems like they are so out of control . I do not know what more to do with them anyone have any ideas?

2007-09-08 13:05:32 · 10 answers · asked by crazziegrl14 5

My 7 year old is happy and playful and imaginiative. She is well behaved and very well like. BUT she is VERY private. If someone asks her 'are you excited about your baby sister?' She will just say no. If someone asks how much she likes her school, she'll say she doesnt'. If someone asks if she helps her mommy alot, she will say no. Often times she will just not answer at all and just stand there. In this society it comes across as rude, but I can see her point. These people are well meaning, but are asking questions that ask her to share how she feels with the secretary at a store, or to the doctor, or to some cousin. She doesn't think it is any of these people's busniess how she feels. I dont' want to promote lying, but if she would say 'I dont' answer questions' or something like that. It would seem rude because the questions are common questions. She expresses herself more to those that are close to her. Does anyone else have child like this?

2007-09-08 11:35:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous