Who is right? POLL:?

Question

My friend took her 3 YEAR OLD daughter to get her
ears pierced .

And ask me why my 4 year old as never had them done.

i said i will let her get them done when she is 13 or over and ask me herself not before.

i told my mate she was wrong doing this at such a young age kids should be teens for things like this to be done to them and ask not have parents force things like this done to them at a young age.

her reply was in later life her daughter will thank her for getting them done at a young age.

i think she is bang out of order

what do you lot think?

regards x kitti x

Answer 1

Children should be allowed to enjoy a 'childhood', a period of life during into which nothing adult is allowed to intrude.

Ear and body piercing is an adult activity and should be avoided during childhood.

How long is childhood? It's from the moment of birth to the onset of pubity.

Your decision to wait until your daughter is 13 is correct. No matter what pressure comes from other children and/or adults, ignore it and carry on as you are.

Childhood is a time of growing up and of innocense.

So many children today are denied a proper childhood and the result of this is they simply start life as adults and miss out on so much.

Believe in the Tooth Fairy, Father Christmas etc for as long as possible.

And, even when you are my age [66] never doubt that your childhood of innocense stood you in good stead.

Answer 2

Having a child's ears pierced at 3 is more for the benefit of parent. The child is too young to appreciate or want it themselves.

I believe you should wait until the child wants it done.

I had my ears pierced when I was 7, but that was because I asked my mum to have my ears pierced.

If my son wants an earring when he's older I will let him but I wouldn't get it done for him.

Answer 3

Piercing ears for Ornamental Use has been Age old practice and every woman likes to decorate herself when she grows and grooms herself.

Tender age has tender body and piercing is not so painful and taking time to heal. More Over at this age the Mental faculty to be worried over self image and ridicule is not developed. If any one makes fun , also she too laughs with those who make fun.

When piercing is done at age 13 or afterward, she may feel clumsy awkward not accepting the piercing, resisting it mentally. This may delay the healing and again she may have to get used to use of earrings and all jewelery

till 13 she will not be able to use any jewelery she may not look attractive also. But these are all female traits .

Parents need to ensure that each stage of life is properly taken care with due diligence and care.

Answer 4

I think both of you are wrong for having an opinion about each other. I don't know of a single girl out there that doesn't want their ears pierced... so I don't think there's anything wrong with her getting her 3-yr-old's ears pierced. I personally am going to wait until my daughter is old enough to ask and then we'll go from there... I know I'll wait until at least kindergarten. I must say that you know you're in for it with your daughter for making her wait until she is 13. You're going to hear it from her for YEARS before she turns 13. But again - I don't think either one of you is wrong. It's pretty much inevitable that all girls will get their ears pierced at some time in your life. In the scheme of things it doesn't really matter when it's done.

Answer 5

I hate the idea of small children getting their ears pierced, her daughter might very well thank her later in life for getting it done who can tell but what's next a tattoo? because then you could justify it by saying yes well she was only a baby so she wont remember the pain will she. She should let her child decide when she wanted to poke holes in their body as far as I am concerned she took away her daughters right to choose. Not only that but it looks tacky, children should be allowed to be children not little dolls for people to dress up.

Sorry I know it may seem a bit strong but that's how I feel

Answer 6

Personally, I dont think its fair on the child, but a friend of mine took her daughter at about 8 months. I feel, the immunisation needles they have as youngsters are hard enough, but its each to their own at the end of the day. In some cultures the babies have their ears pierced at a very young age! I remember getting mine done at 13 ( ouch!!), so, on the flip side, if its done as a baby, the baby involved will probably not remember having it done, like i remember having mine done! So, you are both right, its up to the parent, you'll just have to agree to disagree! xx

Answer 7

I think having a go at your friend for asking a simple question is out of line. You are each entitled to your own style of parenting and your own opinion on parenting. Save the arguments for something that really matters. For all you know her 3 year old wanted them done. When I was 3 I wanted to grow my hair. Mum said I could if I kept it neat and clean. This worked quite well until I was about 13 and went through that refusing to wash hair phase. Then she got it chopped off. So I started washing my hair again! Bloody kids :)
I'll let my daughter get her ears pierced when she asks and I think she's old enough to look after them during the healing period, or at least let me do it.

Answer 8

I wholeheartedly agree with you. Of course a 3 year old cannot make such decisions,to be honest I dont think it should be allowed - then that would take the 'choice' away from the Mothers. The problem is too many people think that children are possessions/fashion accessories so they dress them a certain way and decorate them a certain way. Of course children growing up want to mimic their parents and wear jewellery, make up etc - but what is wrong with the plastic sets you get (you know they are going to get broke or lost anyway) and clip on earrings. Parents do this to their children and then when they get to their teenage years wonder why the kids want to behave like adults - smoking - drinking - dressing older and inappropriately. Let kids be kids for as long as they can be innocence is taken away early enough!!
My parents refused to allow me to get my ears pierced until I was 15 and I moaned and groaned about how unfair it was but I thank them for that now as they wanted me to make a decision for myself when they felt I was old enough.
Good for you for sticking to your guns re your 4 year old - whats your friend gonna do when her 12 year old tells her she wants a tattoo or belly button pierced or whatever?
To those who say - you cant remember the pain if you get it done young - I was 16 when I got mine done and I dont remember the pain - I dont think it is that painful to remember!
A 3 year old does not know her own mind!!

Answer 9

I think that it's the choice of the child and not the parent. If my three year old wanted to get her ears pierced I would probably try and convince her to wait but I see no harm in a child having it done. I would wait until my child asked to have it done but wouldn't be too worried if they wanted it done when they were young. It's not like I've ever heard a woman say that she regrets piercing her ears and it doesn't stop you from getting a job.

Answer 10

She is right for doing it at such a yong age. In my place, they got them done as early as less than a month so as to reduce the pain to doint it during adult age. As female children get their ear peirced in early days, so also the male children get circumszised within seven days and at least with one month if circumstances beyond the parent control. This is basically done in the early becasue as the child grows, the body became stronger and when its been done later the pains will be more severe.

Answer 11

I had mine done when I was 3, I can still remember the pain and how terrified I was (it was in the days where they used a needle to do it) my Mum gave me no choice in the matter and when I was older I had to ask permission to get them done a second time.

I don't agree with very young children and babies having their ears pierced because it's something they should decide for themselves when they are old enough.

It's also quite dangerous, not long having my ears pierced, one of the earrings got caught on a twig and my ear lobe was ripped off, that experience also haunts me!!!

Why will her daughter thank her anyway?