Anyone else have a child that doesnt' like to answer questions? Example below:?

Question

My 7 year old is happy and playful and imaginiative. She is well behaved and very well like. BUT she is VERY private. If someone asks her 'are you excited about your baby sister?' She will just say no. If someone asks how much she likes her school, she'll say she doesnt'. If someone asks if she helps her mommy alot, she will say no. Often times she will just not answer at all and just stand there. In this society it comes across as rude, but I can see her point. These people are well meaning, but are asking questions that ask her to share how she feels with the secretary at a store, or to the doctor, or to some cousin. She doesn't think it is any of these people's busniess how she feels. I dont' want to promote lying, but if she would say 'I dont' answer questions' or something like that. It would seem rude because the questions are common questions. She expresses herself more to those that are close to her. Does anyone else have child like this?

Answer 1

It's sad alot of people think they are entitled to know exactly how a child is feeling, but would give a measure of privacy to an adult. I would make sure there isn't a reason she feels she needs to keep secrets, and if that isn't the case, just let her keep to herself. If I asked a child a question and was basically told that was none of my business, I think I'd respect that. I don't have a right to know what someone wants to keep private, no matter their age.

Answer 2

Well, I do know of a very similar child, however, that child is autistic. I don't know very many children in this age range well enough to judge appropriately.

However, I'd presume that your child is shy. At her age, it's pretty much a "Kids Say The Darndest Things!" stage; if she does not answer questions very thoroughly, or doesn't like it and shows that, people won't really mind much. Some might press for information, but as the parent, it's your place, and job, to change the subject if you need to. When they open their mouth to speak, you can simply break out with, "Oh, and I almost forgot! The other day, the funniest thing happened...." Then, proceed to talk about something funny at work, or something like that. It'll easily take attention from your child, who is probably uncomfortable due to shyness, and the person you're conversing with, most likely, won't be offended in any way.

I'd say, give her time. Let her be, and eventually, she'll probably open up, more. But for the time being, don't worry about it. There are a lot of children like this; it's common enough that it shouldn't present a problem.

Answer 3

Yes, my stepson used to be like that but I have spoken with him about it and explained to him that well, it is actually rude. I don't know about your daughter, but it was not a privacy thing with him it was a lack of social skills (as he is very young) and needed to be corrected. If your daughter is private and doesn't like to talk about her feelings with strangers saying "no" to every question is not the answer I don't think. I actually would be a little taken aback by a child who just stood there and looked at me when I asked a polite not out of the way question. I'm sure your daughter is a wonderful little girl she sounds it, maybe she just needs some advice on practical social norms put in a seven year old's language.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

My children were always told not to talk to
strangers. I guess both mine did the same
thing as yours is doing.
When they would not answer, I told the person that they are not allowed to talk to
strangers. In todays world, don`t you agree that smiling faces sometimes are not trustworthy?
Most of the people we incountered were very agreeable and thought it was a good idea. Some who didn`t were either too worried about themselves and not any children or in my opinion, up to something.
As long as they see how you act with strangers, do not worry about their social
skills. I would rather my kids not talk and
be safe than the other way around.

Answer 6

No, but teach her to say "I'd rather not say." Or perheaps a polite "Yes or No" with a smile. It is rude for her to act like that, and if she is silent you can jump in and say "Of course Marissa is excited about her new sibling!" Or "Lanie is feeling a bit shy today." She will need to learn to act polite to her elders, don't promote lying.

Answer 7

my daughter is almost seven and is the same way. I dont know why. for example she told me she didnt have any friends at school and then at open house her teacher told me she had a group of friends that she played with everyday. when I asked her about it she said she was just playing a joke on me..but who knows.. its nice that she isnt the only kid like that tho

Answer 8

Well, I'm 14 years old and I'm still like that. I don't like people asking me how im feeling, or anything like that...I sort of act like that to everyone though.. ??

Answer 9

My daughter is 16 and still like that around people she doesn't know or isn't close to.

Answer 10

She's probably shy. Saying no wil get people to quit prying into her emotions faster than saying yes and having to go on and on about it.