I'm only 20 i work 40hours a week, and my parents want me out of there house, but i'm not ready i was planning on going to college next year, and now i gotta move out and make it on my own. Do you think this is wrong?
2007-09-09 19:10:51 · 16 answers · asked by Chris l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you want to stay at home, I suggest you work out some kind of arrangement for paying board and doing your share of chores. It's pretty unreasonable for them to be supporting an adult who is working full time. Perhaps they'll let you stay if you do your own food shopping and cooking. I, and my siblings had all moved out by 20 and we went to uni. Thank goodness for student loans or none of us would have been able to go. Our parents couldn't afford to pay, even if they had wanted to (and they didn't.)
2007-09-09 19:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the age of majority is 18, they're right to force you out. You can still go to college, but you will need to work harder to do so. I know people who have gotten their degree by working 40 hour weeks and taking classes on nights and weekends while living in the cheapest apartment they can. I don't know what "ready" means, but when I was your age I couldn't wait to be on my own. If I had to stay at my parent's house if I was between jobs, I bought all the groceries and ran all the errands to earn my keep. I also cleaned the house. How have you been helping out? After 20 years, your parents probably need some kind of vacation. They want you to be a self-supporting individual and this is probably the only way they can get you off dead center.
2007-09-10 00:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have a 19 year old son and he is at home with me till he finishes uni/college for USA, we are in Australia.
I would never ask my son to leave till he finishes his law degree. I would not want him to have the added pressure of moving out etc.
My son pays board $100.00per week. For that i buy all the food, wash his clothes iron them and i make sure he has his dinner on the table every night.
Do you pay board? If not then you should. Work out what you can pay your parents weekly. Once you have worked it out call a family meeting and tell them that you really want to concentrate on your studies and you have come up with a plan to pay them board.
I don't know if your mother is like me, do you think if you pay her would see do your laundry etc? Maybe pay her a fair amount toward this. This will take some of the pressure off you and they/your parents, will feel you're doing something constructive in the family home.
Unfortunately in this world you get what you pay for so make it worth while for your parents and that way you get your needs met too.
Good Luck!
2007-09-09 19:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Purity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, and the key word you used was 'THEIR' house.
Your 20 and yes, you want to go to college and I am proud of you for that, But there are a lot of people that do not live at home and go to college and work and support themself.
You could try living in a dorm. Or getting a roommate.
2007-09-10 00:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are 20 and work full time, you can afford to live on your own.
You parents could have kicked you out at 18... 17 in some states.
If your parents want to evict you, you have 30 days to find a home before they can call the cops.
Grow up, you are a man now... you are 20, not 15.
2007-09-09 19:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ozymandias 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not just no, but HELL no. You are of age and they deserve a life without kids. I got married and had kids at 17. My kids are finally out of the house and I'm getting to know my lover(husband) again. Think about it and get out. Let your parents find each other again. Let them have the life that you have had for the past 20 years. See if you have been my child you have had a freebie longer than your mother. Good luck and get a place of your own. I'm guessing they will help you along the way if you can't make it. They just want some privacy.
2007-09-09 19:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Nope, its not wrong. You're 20 years old, they're giving you warning that they want you to move out. If you work 40 hours a week, you should be able to find a place.
(BTW - have you been paying them rent? Helping out around the house? Being respectful of their rules while you lived under their roof, even though you're legally an adult? I'm just trying to figure out whether perhaps something about your behavior is causing them to want to make a change.)
2007-09-09 19:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by sarah314 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
they only have to take care of you till your an adult which legally is the age of 18, and no i don`t think it`s wrong it`s their house, your a big boy now and should be able to take care of yourself, the fact that your 20 means you`ve had a year to goof off go party with your friends when you should have been going to college, so what were you doing in that time? scratching your butt? you got some money saved go get an apartment. stop looking for pity online, and oh yeah welcome to the real world the rest of us have to live in
2007-09-09 19:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by crypt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey man,
I hear you. And I wanna say this -
GROW UP
If you said you were 18, had no job, were just starting college, yeah, I'd say your parents are wack. But you are 20, and you work 40 hours a week. What's your deal? Get an apartment. Be an adult.
You can still go to college (after you learn how to spell). It is their house, not there house. Yes, they live there, but it's their house. OK, now you can go to college.
Ever hear of going to college part-time. People do it all the time.
2007-09-09 19:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Probably. But that's not the issue here. It IS your Parents house, and you are old enough to take care of yourself. Moving out would probably be the BEST thing you can do- in the long run. It's NOT "fair"- but, WELCOME to Adulthood! (And besides, being on your OWN really IS the BEST way to be...). How you handle your Parents after you move out- is up to YOU! :)
2007-09-09 19:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋