Parenting - September 2007

2007-09-12 02:56:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 02:07:10 · 12 answers · asked by Michael S 1

To parents out there; We have just moved and my childrens' old school is at least 40 minutes away. I tried the first week to get them up and ready in time but it is really stressful for all of us.
In addition, there is a middle school and a primary school right across the street from us, literally. We went to see these schools yesterday and they seem ok. However, I feel like a terrible parent taking my kids away from all their friends.
Because I'm in academics, we have moved several times over the last 12 years. The longest my eldest daughter has stayed at a school is 3 years.
I wonder how this will affect my children, especially my eldest daughter. However, I just cannot imagine making the 45 minute trek every morning. Across the street would be so much easier and less stressful. What would you do?

2007-09-12 01:03:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I believe that in a few years time there are going to be major problems with kids who have been raised in daycare.
I HATE DAYCARE. It messes with kids. My childrens kindegarten teacher says she can spot a daycare kid - they are 'institutionalised (her words not mine)
It is not good for kids to spend so much time in daycare. If you have no choice eg single parent then I feel sorry for you. But I absolutely hate it when I see new 'mothers' out without their kids . I even know one woman who put her daughter into daycare so they would toilet train her - the epitome of laziness.
It saddens me so much to see a whole generation of children being raised by strangers who dont love them.If parents want their kids to be 'socialised' they should join a playgroup or something where they can attend with their kids.
They go to full time school at 5 - why cant 'mothers' give up 5 years of their life to raise their own kids?
Is there anyone on here who actually went to daycare and enjoyed their time?

2007-09-12 00:50:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was wondering if any parents forbid their children from eating sweets at school during birthdays or other school parties? Do you know of any that do? Do you tell the teacher not to let them eat it? Diabetic children exclused of course.

2007-09-12 00:00:05 · 18 answers · asked by billy f 2

yes ! i know you love them,

but do you wish you waited longer, what age did you have them and what age do you wish you waited for?

2007-09-11 22:15:47 · 39 answers · asked by Bumumble 3

We want to raise our daughter to be independent and to be able to do things on their own and not have to rely on a guy to do things for them. We want our daughters to be smart and make good choices in life.

But we also want our daughters to not do anything with out their parents permission. We raise our daughters (and sons) telling them what to do 24/7, when to eat when to sleep, when to do work around the house and when they want to 'stop out' on their own we freak. When they want to make choices on their own we say 'no, you did not get our permission.'

We want our daughters to listen to us and do what we say with out question because we are their parents, But when/if they date a guy that is this way we call him abusive.. Or worse when they are attracted to a guy that tells them what to do cause that was they way they were raised(someone telling them what to do 24/7, we freak even more.

How do we raise our daughters (and sons) with out this messing them up. ?

2007-09-11 19:46:02 · 16 answers · asked by LadyCatherine 7

Okay Im 18 years old Im 36 weeks pregnant Im still working and everything that my baby has I bought with my hard earned money. My baby's father doesnt do any thing but sit around with his friend and smoke and drink. Im tired of everything we have be split up for a month and two weeks. I dont want him back he is bringing me down I just want him to be there for his son. I tell everyone he cant wait til the baby gets here but he aint doing a damn thing for my child. I tell him he want see my son and he aint welcome to the hospitial because I am doing it all by myself he aint helped do nothing and i feel that he shouldnt even try to come around when the baby gets here because he wasnt there for me while i carried his son. I dont know what to do I thought about taking child support out on him but his parents will pay that for him so he will get out easy again. He doesnt have a job he is just a very sorry person.

2007-09-11 16:39:38 · 14 answers · asked by Proud Mother 1

then u grew up and stopped getting sick and once your mother decided to tell u she told u that the reason your father never came to see u in the hospital is because he believed you would be better off if u were dead?......im not saying this happened to me im just saying

2007-09-11 16:37:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay I know this question sounds so goofy, but i really am interested to know.

I breast feed my boys but never pumped or anything like that. When they went to a bottle, they wouldn't drink it until it was really warm. I was thinking about it today and thought someone might know!

2007-09-11 16:05:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

his friends are all going as dead skate boarders for halloween and I'm totally against it...I think its morbid and negative. he is only 10yrs, what should I do?

2007-09-11 15:55:55 · 25 answers · asked by kimmer 3

ok so my dad had some friends over at our beach house for the weekend and her kid who is a complete brat.. so she told him to go watch Denis the mence on TV to see how michevious and naughty he acts and I was this close to saying " Billy makes Dennis look like a perfect little Angel."
man the kid has no respect for anyone. his parents complain how their cellphone battery goes down fast cause he plays games on it, and hes only 3 he dosent know what hes doing because he deletes files. When his parents talk to him he just says no and the mother sighs and walks off and thats it. When he hits his older brother his dad tells him not to and he just runs after his dad and goes to hit him.

He threatens to shoot and punch people. when everyone was watching t he stood infront of the tv. then when I said to move so we could see the tv baby. he says "im doing something!" nd won't move.

Hes only 3 and i think if his parents keep this up hes not going to grow out of it. his parents need to

2007-09-11 13:45:30 · 11 answers · asked by newbie ice hockey fan & TV serie 3

I have a simple question,my friend has a 6 year old son and she and her husband firmly believe in spanking him when he needs is.
Because it has been so hot here recently,they allow him to wear only his boxer shorts or briefs when he is in the house,I have seen him get spanked in his boxer shorts as well as his briefs,what I have noticed and his mother has as well,is that when he gets spanked in his boxer shorts,he seem a lot more scared and he reacts to the spanking a lot quicker (cries sooner,harder,longer and louder) than he does when he gets spanked in his briefs,he is spanked the same wether he is wearing his boxer shorts or briefs.
Has anybody noticed this with either their young sons or other young boys?
Courtney

2007-09-11 10:39:02 · 19 answers · asked by Courtney P 1

Or anything in general

2007-09-11 10:10:04 · 10 answers · asked by Cssr 1

2007-09-11 10:02:26 · 22 answers · asked by Emily 5

I recently had a son (3 wks ago), and have realized there is an apparent tension between working and stay at home moms. I never considered being a stay at home mom (solely my decision, influenced by no one else). My parents were quite nervous that I was going to quit working when I had my first child. I know they would be very disappointed in me if I abandoned my career. Has anyone experienced this?

2007-09-11 09:20:16 · 11 answers · asked by chicabonita 4

Studies show that most parents like to keep a much closer eye on their children than they did 10, 20 and 30 years ago.
Is the world really a more dangerous place for children, or is it just perceptions that have changed?

2007-09-11 08:59:14 · 29 answers · asked by Ricecakes 6

2007-09-11 08:23:33 · 8 answers · asked by Phlowa 2

A poll, from me.

2007-09-11 08:10:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who is currently going through this and she is so depressed. I don't get involved with their business, but I could not imagine my husband telling me he is too busy to watch OUR child. He does this to her all the time and as a matter of fact we were supposed to hang out this weekend and couldn't because one again, he had something to do.

I would never suggest this to her, but would it be wrong if she decided to act like she was going to the store or if she put the child to sleep, got dressed and left the house and that way he wouldn't have a choice to keep his own child?

Has anyone ever been in this situation?

2007-09-11 08:02:55 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I would like to introduce a saturday/sunday night, family night with my 2 kids, as i think it would be really nice to spend some quality time all together.
The problem is, their ages, my eldest is 7, and youngest is 3.
The 3 year old cant play the older ones games, and the older one, thinks that the youngest ones games are too babyish.

What games can we all play together, to enjoy our time together, and also would encourage my 7 year old to take turns?

Thankyou in advance.

2007-09-11 07:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6

I am a SAHM(kids 9,3 yrs), and there are times during the day when I let the phone ring. Like, about 30-40 mins when I've just got my 3 yr old home from preschool, or just picked up my 9 yr old from school. Or, when we are doing some activity together. Then, non-kid related activities like if I am researching something on the web, planning a vacation online.

So, in short there are some slots in the day when I don't take phone calls. Sometimes, I can say 'will call u back', and sometimes I just don't pick it up. Friends think I am taking this SAHM-but-I-too-am-busy-at-times thing too far.

So, if you are a SAHM, do you have times when you check caller-id and decide not to pick up. Or sometimes don't even check caller-id?
My friends know they can call my cell-ph for an emergency, or leave a message. These are old friends, and we laugh about it, but I'd like to hear from other SAHMs?

2007-09-11 07:33:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

when you guys are not living together or anything like that of the sort and there is a court order that he is only to call and talk to the child and he doesnt even do that and all he does is lie about that kinda of thing and also detearmed to let his girl friend be involved in the childs life when they are not eve think about marriage when in my case my marryed and how could they do that when im nt bugging his dad at all i dont care what goes on there only when my child is there

2007-09-11 06:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sons 1st birthday is the 21st of October I am looking for party ideas such as food and themes. There are not going to be any young children there. Mainly adults and the youngest child will be 9, besides my son.

2007-09-11 06:15:28 · 6 answers · asked by megan t 2

I am a single mother of 3 and went to apply for assistance, ya know a little bit of food stamps and some medical insurance. I work full time and have a few other incomes coming in. They added all my incomes and hours and told me I make to much. Only my kids are eligible for medical, which is fine by me, but what I dont understand is why they have to struggle to have good nourishing meals? The caseworker said that because they havent raised the minimum wage guidelines, that is what is hurting us. Basically minimum wage used to be 5.15 an hour, now it is 6.85. Waitresses made 2.13 an hour and now make 3.43. So the 3.43 isnt far from the 5.15, so it makes it look like we can afford more. Who do I contact, to email or send a letter? Congressman, senator, mayor who would be the one to inform that ppl who want to work still need help? I am very desparate. I am struggling with bills, rent, gas, and food. I work and cant make it. Who do I tell? Thanx in advance to those who care!

2007-09-11 06:07:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for many, many years. He is a good man - employed, no drugs or drinking, comes home every night, we really don't fight much, nice guy, etc, etc,etc.
Problem, he is really not that good at being a father - he does not hurt the kids - just kind of uninvolved in their lives.
Question, can I still remain married, (the kids are young and still need to have their father around), but act more as a single parent?
My family and I are more than willing to be there for the kids, and husband can be there as much or little as he chooses. Does that work, how do you tell the kids? Or let this kids decide what they want from Daddy?

2007-09-11 06:00:46 · 7 answers · asked by missygoodytwoshoes 1

would you say yes?

when would you go back to work? how old would your children be?

do you think that stay at home moms work more or less than working moms?

thank you!

2007-09-11 05:48:58 · 23 answers · asked by Pat mami x2 4

Does anyone know of a good travel system stroller that will work well in grass and uneven ground?
I'm shopping around for a stroller for baby #3, ( who's due in 2 months!). I have two joggers that I LOVE, but the problem with them is that neither will work with an infant carrier or hold a newborn well. I've looked at the new baby trend brand jogger/travel systems, but I'm not happy with them because they seem cheaply made.
I'm looking for something that holds one child, cost less than $250 and will hold an infant carrier. It must work well on grass because I walk my older daughter to school everyday and part of that walk is over a grassy hill to reach the sidewalk. I know joggers, but I'm not fimiliar with the four-wheel kinds and most customer review don't mention anything about the ease of use in grassy terrrain.
Anyone have any suggestions?

2007-09-11 05:35:05 · 4 answers · asked by judever 2

She has legal custody, the biological mother has serious health issues. She said that she was going to designate the child to come here if anything happened to her. She has recently had to move to a small rental room where her husband and the two children (the 3-year old and a 11 year old girl) are living all together. She is having problems paying for child care (2-weeks behind). She has discussed that we should spend more time with the child so we would know each other. She doesn't seem to be able to afford her needs now, and if DHR knew they would probably take the kids away.

So what could I say? I would like to offer to take her now, but how do I do that without sounding offensive?

2007-09-11 04:30:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I spanked my son this morning HARD for losing his glasses...first off i shouldn't be spanking him. I am trying to quit. they say its bad for your kid. So i am trying to reserve spanking for really bad things....he has been doing awesome in school. I feel like crap...

2007-09-11 03:37:42 · 33 answers · asked by bhbghgjbvmnbncvb 4