Parenting - September 2007

At work several people were talking and someone mentioned the name of a man I don't know.

One of the women pointed out that this particular man, while a boy was sometimes dressed as a girl, by his mother, within the boundaries of the house and garden only, because she originally wanted a girl.

She mentioned the son was happy wearing the clothes, but I still feel if instigated by the mother and not the son it is inappropriate.

Do you?

2007-09-14 09:28:22 · 18 answers · asked by locknroll 1

I have a 5 year old child who is just starting Kindergarten. her name is Katherine and for a long time we called her Kat. But now she wants us to call her pussy as in pussy cat, and insists that everyone calls her pussy. How do we tell her what pussy really means?

2007-09-14 09:25:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an 11 month old and a baby due in May and I just want to plan ahead whether I will need to purchase another crib or if my daughter will be out of her crib by the time the baby is 3 months old.

When did you moms move your kids into toddler beds?

2007-09-14 09:07:21 · 19 answers · asked by addisonsmom17 2

I have a 2 year old daughter and a 3 year old son. They have a table with their tv on it in their room. I have changed the table many times to higher and lower to try to get them to not climb on top of it, but they keep managing to climb on top.

2007-09-14 08:25:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husbands ex found out she was pregnant again with child #3 (only the 1st child being his ) she wanted their son to come and live with us. We had written and notarized a agreement with BM that we would take care of him. When he came to us he was in the 5th grade, now he's entering High school and now she wants to take him back..... She's been secretly telling him that after Jr High school he would be coming back to live with her. - That was never discussed with us & we would have never agreed to him staying with us if it was gonna be for only 3 or 4 yrs. In my husbands own words "I would have rather paid child support than to let him be here for such a short time" I tend to agree with him because my Step Son should not be treated like a disposable item. and then retrieved when ever the notion hits. My SS really loves his mother and his other siblings as they see each other regularly and since our school is a track system, he goes to his BM's every summer.

2007-09-14 07:37:06 · 13 answers · asked by Sheba 2

I know everyone has an opinion on this, I just wanted to see where the majority stands these days.

(Looking for ages please, not explanations like 'if they're not financially ready they're too young' or anything like that, just anumber please!)

In case anyone's wondering, I'm 19, and I had my daughter when I was 19 as well.

Thanks!

2007-09-14 07:27:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

After taking care of my Step Son for over 12yrs...He's 14 now - His BM fought us in court for Full Custody & lost. We have always willing taken care of his needs with no help. She now wants to give him money (about $50) everytime he goes to see her. I told my SS that I was not comfortable with him taking large amounts of money to school every day. So what ever she gives him - I put it in an envolope and he signs off on a sheet a paper with a running tally of the remaining balance. I'm doing this because I don't want her to every say or think that we in any way is spending the money she gives him. I'm sure she's gonna ask him how or who spent his money. Trust me the small amount she gives him will doesnt even put a dent in his expenses. But I want him to feel good about what she's trying to do- but I want him to be able to say with confidence that he has spent his own money.
Am I being Petty...???

2007-09-14 07:05:37 · 15 answers · asked by Sheba 2

How would you state in a contract if you had a trampoline and another child was to get hurt.
I am trying to put a contract together so that my family can not beheld responsible if another child was to get hurt while jumpying or playing on the trampoline. Mind that these kids would be over the age of ten and they are boys, so I know most parents know how some boys at this age can get with the wrestling and trying to act cool. I can supervise as much as possible but not that often as I have a younger child, and these boys know how they are suppose to act while playing on the trampoline but you know how it goes one will try to do what they are not suppose to do.

I am just asking if any parent has made one of these contracts and how they stated it or how would any one state one?

Thanks

2007-09-14 06:36:53 · 9 answers · asked by medevilqueen 4

she can afford to stay home with her children (hubby makes plenty) yet she chooses to work? The children are 2 and 4. I listened to this debate this morning on the radio as I was driving to school..what do you think?

Thanks!!

2007-09-14 06:14:30 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

with no references? I'm a stay at home mommy and want to get a job for the evenings and weekends. My references are long gone and over 6 yrs of age.

Thanks!

2007-09-14 06:06:13 · 7 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

my son is four and an only child. hes not very social. he doesnt like playing with other kids at all. that is also a problem. the main problem is he cant or wont focus. he just started school three weeks ago. this is also his first time in any class room hes always been at home with me. so hes very shy and likes to play alone and doesnt share well. hos teacher says he is add or adhd or has aspergers disease. i read the signs and he doesnt really have any, so how do i teach my son to focus sit still and be quiet, . he understands he is supposed and tries too, but hes used to free play

any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated. my child is a loner not retarded, i hate that teacher hang an adhd or add diagnose on an active child its not right

any advice on dealing with the teacher too, i feel shes giving up on my child and not giving him a chance

2007-09-14 05:59:59 · 6 answers · asked by kleighs mommy 7

My husband died a few years ago

I took me a long time to get to the point I not feel guilty about his death.

Yesterday, I said something to my mother inlaw, that was wrong to say
When I saw saying I should not said that
My mother inlaw told me that my husband would still been alive if he was with her. That she would of saw it was sick, and took him to the hospital. That I caused his death

My brother told me, I should not be mad. That All mother will think they can take better care of there child then anyone else

I think she did it to hurt me. It took years for me to get to a place where I could start living again. That I even almost died, because I was so upset, I did not reallize I was bleed to death.

Today, I can not function, and back in the dark place

My question is, do you think all mothers would say that, or was she just being mean, and did not care how it would effect me

2007-09-14 05:43:44 · 18 answers · asked by Halo Mom 7

just curious

2007-09-14 05:32:33 · 15 answers · asked by natsta 2

What is the youngest age you have traveled with a new born? I was told at 6 or 7 weeks a baby should be ok to travel. Once my baby gets here and he goes to his first doctor appointment which is when he is two weeks old Ill ask his doctor of coarse. but just wanted to know your experience on traveling with a new born and how old was your newborn..by the way the drive would be from maryland to north carolina about an 8 hour drive. Not considering the stops I would have to make to change him..feed him and to let him and I strech alittle of coarse....Thanks for all your help in advance.

2007-09-14 05:06:13 · 14 answers · asked by miss lady 1

About 3 days ago my 11 month old son started shaking his head from side to side through out the day I was worried it was because he was autism or has tourettes, So I took him to the Dr She said she thinks its just a behavioral thing but to me i still fee weird about it. I have seen other kids do things over and over like rock back and forth ect never shake there head. I don't know if im over reacting being a first time mom, Does anyone have any answers to help easy my mind.

2007-09-14 04:40:58 · 20 answers · asked by ashley b 1

I am doing this program (it is due by Christmas time) where I adopt-a-family for Christmas. 2 girls and buying for the mom. One girl is 3 and the other is 12.

I am giving them each 3 books (inculding mom), 4 toys or games (the mom will get a CD player and CDs instead), clothes, and a bathroom basket they can have there stuff inside it and the basket has there name on it.

Any ideas on what clothes, toys, and bathroom supplies they will each need? I also want to do a joint-gift. What could it be? And for the 12 year old should I add sanitary products in her bathroom basket?

2007-09-14 04:23:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think what I really want to know is, is it too much trouble to bother using cloth nappies instead of disposable ones? Do the nappy liners work to prevent too much mess? Do the plastic pants prevent too many leaks? Are they easy to wash? Did you give up in the end?

I don't like the idea of the expense of disposable ones, as well as the fact that they are dreadful for the environment. Is it worth it?

2007-09-14 03:38:49 · 9 answers · asked by bumshelf 3

with kids unbelievably stressful? Esp as you are not used to having your kids 24/7!
Honest, answers please, obviously I'm asking this question in light of kate mccann's diary! But I am not in a million years suggesting that anyone else in this world would drug their kids to go out for a meal! (IF THAT'S WHAT HAPPENED!)
Please don't take affence at this question, I have 4 kids and have always stayed at home, so I am interested how mum's who work cope when on holiday!?
When my husband is on holiday he loves every moment with the kids if their good or not.

2007-09-14 02:12:22 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do children bully other people in the common ways? If your child was bullied by another child/ other children and he felt hurt, what action will you take against him/her? Does your child/children bully or get bullied by others? What will you do if you caught your child/children bullying other people? Do you think female beats or bully other people too?

2007-09-14 01:56:29 · 6 answers · asked by Agent JipST 3

What do you do about that issue? Right now, he's only seventeen months so what age do you be talk to children about what's real and what's not. Elmo is so sweet, and seems like a real monster, but one of these days my son is going to know that he's not real and then I'm afraid it will upset him. How does that work exactly? My parents raised me to believe in the Easter bunny and Santa Claus and when I found out that they weren't real it made it hard to trust my parents. I don't want my son to go through the same thing.

2007-09-14 01:20:02 · 16 answers · asked by crymeariver 5

but in the future will some kind of illness will pop up

2007-09-13 23:59:09 · 5 answers · asked by Brenda m 1

Mine was when once I bunked class and my teacher told my mom.After getting five swats from the paddle I found myself on my mothers lap bare butt getting a 5minute spanking by the timer.At night mom made me sit on the toilet seat with soap in my mouth for a long time......this was the worst punishment of my life!!!!(I got spanked 5 mins daily along with the soap routine for a whole week!!!)What was yours??Do you think it was worse than mines???

2007-09-13 23:47:36 · 13 answers · asked by roughdude_16 2

its my sons first birthday on sunday and we have arranged a massive party for him theres about 70 ppl coming it should be good i know we have gone to far but it only happens once
the problem is ive just thought what the hell am i gona do when everyone gets there ive never done this before
help help help

2007-09-13 23:29:21 · 8 answers · asked by JAMIESMUMMY 1

i read around 14months you see how told she/he will be-anyone know in the UK?

2007-09-13 20:41:06 · 14 answers · asked by HUNK 3

Just curious...I know my parents never tried anything and all my siblings are smart. Now my friend whose dad was a hippie, well hes not too bright. And other adults I know who were big partiers now have children who aren't too booksmart. Do you think that smart peole stay away from drugs in general and procede to have smart children? Or are children born dumb becasue mom and dad smoked too much pot?

2007-09-13 20:09:36 · 9 answers · asked by the answer 3

My husband and I have been foster parents for many years now, but we have just recently moved back to Portland, where his family and mine live.
Anyway, my family are constantly going on about the way we have taken in 'someone elses child', and they are starting to intefere big time in our disciplining of them. When I asked my SIL recently to let me handle my children, she informed me "they're not really yours, they're someone elses".
Do I explain yet again that while we parent these children, WE are the parents, or should I just ignore it and start restricting the access my family has to our children?
Other suggestions are also welcome!

2007-09-13 18:57:31 · 14 answers · asked by Sonja 4

My Mom is 65 and I would like them to walk to her house instead of paying a babysitter. I feel like the babysitter uses my kids to take care of the younger ones and it bothers me to pay her when my kids do a lot for her. I have used her services since they were babies, so I am torn on what to do.

2007-09-13 17:26:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was on the computer the other day just playing online and my son was laying in my bed playing game boy.All a sudden my son tells me he doesnt want to get older because he doesnt want to die.I got up and went to lay by him and talk to see what was bothering him.He said he was thinking about his gp which was my dad that passed away a few months ago.I told him that you dont die and that you live even after death with jesus and I said gp isnt dead either,and he said he aint?I told him gp is in your heart and your mind and pointed at them.I asked him if he remebered gp and he said yes,and I said see he still lives in your memories.He then made the comment that jesus could make him live again if he wanted.My son has said this a few times and I dont know how to answer that one either.Did I explain it alright to him?

2007-09-13 16:57:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I co run a child care. We have children from all kind of backgrounds and cultures. We invite their parents to come talk to the kids about thier culture and even bring foods or items to show the kids. we have asked all parents if they are ok with this and every single one has said yes and that they think its great that the kids are learning about other people and how they live. Well we had our yearly visit from the state. It happens that day we had a parent from Norway come visit the kids and was doing a craft with them. The lady from DHS took me aside and told me i was NOT to do that anymore and that i was to take down the posters that show people from other countries. I told her that the parents really liked what we where doing. She did not care. Do you agree with this or not? thanks!

2007-09-13 16:12:31 · 10 answers · asked by carriec 7

i am 13 just wondering why

2007-09-13 15:15:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous