Bully or get bullied by other children? What do you think?

Question

How do children bully other people in the common ways? If your child was bullied by another child/ other children and he felt hurt, what action will you take against him/her? Does your child/children bully or get bullied by others? What will you do if you caught your child/children bullying other people? Do you think female beats or bully other people too?

Answer 1

I was bullied a lot by boys when I was a kid, got my dress and panties pulled down, got my hairs glued together, got tossed stones....my action?...fought back, better unite with other bullied kids, trust me, the adults won't do anything to help you.

I myself wasn't bullied by girls, but I know the common way is "clique", isolate the victim coz women are social animals....speak ill...etc..

Answer 2

The first step i would WANT to take would be to lay the smack down on the bullies parents for raising such a turd. But of course i wouldn't do that. I would ask my child to talk about it with me. Make notes of the times it happens. Then take all that to the principle of the school. The child that bullies needs to be monitored a little closer. If they watch the bully and see what is going on, then they can call the parents of the bully in for a meeting. If my child were the bully, you better believe it would stop. I would tell them that bullies don't have real friends, nobody likes bullies, and bullies don't get to have any fun. Then i would do some soul searching to see why my child was being a bully. If it was something i was doing that needed to be changed, then i would change it. Who knows. My five year old does bully my three year old, but they are sisters and only two years apart. At first my three year old was her older sisters slave doing all the dirty work. Now the three year old is putting her foot down and fighting back. Big sister does not like that at all.
it's very hard to teach children to turn the other cheek, especially if it's a group of kids teasing them.
I think anyone who bullies does it for attention and power trips. Either they get bullied at home or not enough attention. I was never a bully nor was i the victim of being bullied. Wait, i do remember a time in Elementary school. My mom bought me a rabbit fur coat, and some not so privileged kids got jealous and tried to take it from me. I have never owned a Rabbit fur coat since that time. But it was the 70's, who didn't own a fur coat? I saw a lot of bullies though. I was not friends with them and they all grew up to be losers and very unhappy or unsuccessful adults.

Answer 3

Bullying is just intimidating another. I do not think bullying should be tollerated in our school systems, but believe that it is. I do everything I can to keep my child from bullying others. If I caught him doing it, I would take immediate disciplinary actions. My son would not have video games, spending money, a car, TV, anything that is not a necessity. He would be grounded until he apologized and I honestly felt that he meant it. Females are the worst to bully, I do believe. I think it is do to the constant pressure to fit in. We have always been told how much to weigh, how tall we should be, what we should wear, etc. Some females crack under that pressure and bully others to take the spotlight off of themselves.

Answer 4

I would address the problem with my child first. I would encourage him to use his word to express how he feels. If he is still being bullied he can use a firm voice. IF the other child contunues my son has a choice to stay there and contunue to be bothered or walk away. He always tell him that he he has the power and he is in control. If he chooses to listen he choosed to get bothered if he chooses to ignore he will not get bothered. Now if the bully if putting his hands on him, I would tell my son to defend himself. I believe in teaching children to problemsolve and self control. I also believe that no one has the right to put their hands on anyone. And we have the right to defend ourselves. I think that schools today need to focus on problem solving besides timeouts and punishments or the famous card color pull outs when a child misbehaves. All of these techniques don't teach children what to do or say it just tells the child they are bad and the other children start to look down on that child. I wish teachers were not only trained to teach accademics but also in the social emotional aspect. I'm very dissappointed with out schools in this aspect.

Answer 5

Bullying is wrong at any age and my daughter is told to stand up for herself what ever the means may be.

Answer 6

it can be either sex that bullies. if it were my child i would put the person in time out and maybe really chew this person out. i wold dare him to do it agian and if i found out there would be something bad. i would call the principal and let him know to tell me. i think that would be too good for anyhow to try again.