why do moms have to spank kids with paddles and implements?

Question

i am 13 just wondering why

Answer 1

I very rarely use anything but my hand when giving a spanking.

There is a mistaken belief that using a hand to spank confuses the child. Some advocate using a "neutral object" so that the child does not confuse a normal touch with a spanking.

That is easily solved by establishing a process for spanking. I put the child over my lap, take down her panties, and then spank her. I never slap her everywhere except her bottom. I never give a single smack to a standing child. I never spank as a surprise; she always knows before the 1st spank that she is being punished.

Of course, if the child needs something harder than a hand then a paddle is an option. That should be rare as only appropriate with older kids or when it would be through clothes instead of bare bottom.

Answer 2

I don't think giving a spanking implement to a child as a gift is in good taste. Grandma most likely is from a generation where spanking and paddles were part of a normal upbringing. She might just have thought her granddaughter's behavior was less than stellar and believed the paddle would be a message for her and a hint for her parents that a little applied discipline might be the best gift her granddaughter could have for her future well being. I remember once traveling with my parents through Missouri to vist my Aunt. I was bored and whining "When are we gonna get there." Dad pulled into a gas station where we had a little break and he purchased one of those souvenir paddles. He told me it was my souvenir gift from our trip and he would show me how it's used if I didn't stop whining..... naturally I found a way to occupy myself quietly until we arrived at my Aunt's.

Answer 3

Parents wanted to hurt because if it hurt then you might not have ever done that bad deed again intimidation is what it was. But some of us used to have to go and pick out our own switches from trees and bring them back then get the whipping of a life time.I have spanked my kids but NEVER with a weapon,only with my hand.I believe a belt was made to hold up your pants, not to beat a kid.If you are hurting your hand then you are hitting too hard, with a weapon you can never tell.I do believe that a swat on the back side is needed at times but not going over bord is the key.My boys are 13 and 11 they have only gotten the hand maybe ten times their entire life. Now I just take away their video games and T.V.

Answer 4

I don't think they should. Now I do pop my children on the bottom or leg occasionally when time outs and restrictions just aren't quelling an action that is going to hurt them worse than a pop would. But my children are very young and I don't have to pop them hard at all to get their attention. At 13 years old, your mom shouldn't be spanking you period. If she hasn't raise you to the point of being able to stop your actions with grounding or restrictions then she did something wrong.

Answer 5

They don't have to, some parents just choose to, which is sad. One of my husband's cousins does this and I'm sure she's not the only one in the family - at the family reunion when he 2.5 yr old was cranky (probably tired) she threatened him with a belt and when he kept whining she spanked him with it. She did it a few times throughout the day/night and it made me sick that this poor kid just wants company and attention and he gets a belt on his butt. My husband and I have spoken about it and know we will never do this with our children and if anyone tried to spank our kids with a belt they would probably be in the hospital before they could ask why....

Answer 6

tim e you should not be telling kids to do that, spanking is not illegal, if you called the cops on your parents for spanking you it will make you look bad it will also get you in more trouble with your parents and it could get your parents into trouble, spanking does hurt , and there are many differnet opinions about it, but dont be a brat by saying if you spank me im gonna tell someone! you might end up losing your parents just because you didnt want to get punished!!!!!

Answer 7

They don't have to, some of them just think it's the most effective method of discipline. And no, it's not child abuse. Not unless it leaves bruises or causes injury. I've been spanked with implements before, it certainly wasn't abuse.

Answer 8

they feel its not hard enough. i alwaysused my hadn cause i have a hand you would not forget. i know some use other stuff and sometimes if they are boys maybe they need it but on the butts only. but time outs work out fine i have seen it and wished i had that whent hey were small.

Answer 9

They shouldn't as that is abuse. If your parents are doing this to you, you must talk to a teacher or another adult about it. You do not deserve to be treated that way if, in fact, it is happening.
These parents were probably beaten the same way when they were kids and never considered it wrong and so never tried to find out how to parent properly.
Anyway, if you ask around, I think you would find that there are alot of kids at your school who are NOT spanked.
There are also kids' phone hotlines to call in order to talk with someone confidentially.
Good luck and God Bless you.

Answer 10

Yeah, my mum used to do that too, it sucked, Id rather be smacked with a hand on the butt when you least expect it, shock value not humiliation. Im sure she loves you otherwise she probably wouldnt care enough to notice that you needed a whoopin.