At work several people were talking and someone mentioned the name of a man I don't know.
One of the women pointed out that this particular man, while a boy was sometimes dressed as a girl, by his mother, within the boundaries of the house and garden only, because she originally wanted a girl.
She mentioned the son was happy wearing the clothes, but I still feel if instigated by the mother and not the son it is inappropriate.
Do you?
2007-09-14 09:28:22 · 18 answers · asked by locknroll 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
poor guy. this is definately wrong to do to your child. She should be happy and accept her son for who he is, her son not her daughter.
2007-09-14 10:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by laceyluedwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, its inappropriate. My son is 5, and once in a while wants to be a princess or a mommy, so I let him dress up. Its just silly role playing, and its normal for all kids to do it to find their identity. Its not likely that it will happen much anymore, he;s in kindergarten now and has started the "girls are yucky" phase.
Actually, I really think the most inappropriate thing in the whole situation is that someone would spread rumors, true or not, about this man. Very rude, in my opinion
2007-09-14 16:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No harm, no foul, apparently. In the "old days" boys routinely wore dresses until a certain age. But yes, it was inappropriate for mom to take out her frustrations on her boy by pretending he was a girl. Could have been worse, some parents actually raise their kids as the opposite gender and never teach them any different.
2007-09-14 17:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate to do that to a child. I really get annoyed when people dress their children up a different sex just because they wanted a girl or boy instead. My dad wouldn't let me wear dresses because he wanted a boy so I wore blue for a long time. Took me a long time to learn how to be "girly" because of it and I got made fun of in school. It is one thing if a boy chooses to dress like a girl but it should be abuse to make a child dress like the opposite sex like that.
2007-09-14 16:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My god yes, an ex-friend of mine would dress her son (when he was a baby) in his sisters clothes for "dress up" like bikinis, dresses, ect. Now he will put on his sisters dresses and wear them around the house (hes 5 or 6)
I think it is bizare, and wrong that the mother does this!
2007-09-14 16:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong... Mom is mentally abusing this child! It would have been different if the boy picked out his out fit by himself. But even then mom should have stepped in and said something. My thinking is when you are 18 you can wear what you want until then if I don't approve then you will wear what I want! I have a son and would never have let that fly!!!!!
2007-09-14 16:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by kewpiedoll0409 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have heard of these instances, where the issue sounds as disturbing of dressing a boy like a girl. contrary to that, it will not scar him for life, it will not make him gay, or a crossdresser, or anything unless if he chooses to later in life. even then there is no correlation.
if he's happy with it, then no problem. and he didn't have to worry about others since he was only dressed like that in the home only.
but it is not appropriate to gossip about him right in the middle of public where every Tom, Dick, and Harry can hear and stare.
2007-09-14 16:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by jm7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. That could cause huge self esteem issues because it gives a child the impression that they're not good enough for their parents. And I'm sure after a while he did like wearing the cloths because as children we learn to like doing what makes our parents proud. That's really a disturbing story.
2007-09-14 16:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda N 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was inappropriate to dress the child like a girl and it was inappropriate for the woman to talk about the man in question. Girls should not dress like boys and boys should not dress like girls. You should be happy with whatever ALLAH(SWT) gives you.
2007-09-14 16:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is and it would be wrong to make a girl dress in boy clothes as well.
2007-09-14 16:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's inappropriate if she MADE him dress in girls clothes. if he wanted to then it's perfectly normal and healthy. i also agree with the person who said it's inappropriate that people are spreading rumors about this man. from your wording it sounds like you're all adults now so you need to grow up. rumors are for middle school, not the work place.
2007-09-14 16:39:23 · answer #11 · answered by Amy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋