I have a simple question,my friend has a 6 year old son and she and her husband firmly believe in spanking him when he needs is.
Because it has been so hot here recently,they allow him to wear only his boxer shorts or briefs when he is in the house,I have seen him get spanked in his boxer shorts as well as his briefs,what I have noticed and his mother has as well,is that when he gets spanked in his boxer shorts,he seem a lot more scared and he reacts to the spanking a lot quicker (cries sooner,harder,longer and louder) than he does when he gets spanked in his briefs,he is spanked the same wether he is wearing his boxer shorts or briefs.
Has anybody noticed this with either their young sons or other young boys?
Courtney
2007-09-11 10:39:02 · 19 answers · asked by Courtney P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To actually answer your question, rather than argue about whether or not spanking is child abuse, the spanking must hurt more with boxer shorts, since they are typically made out of a thinner material than briefs.
Rather a strange question...
2007-09-18 06:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by vh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
spanking does not work. It teaches violience. I was spanked all the time and now whenever I get angry I hit people. I don't mean to but I was spanked every day weather I was good or bad to teach me disipline. the only thing I learned is that hitting is the way to solve things. I am 13 now. But I have broken my habbit almost, I still hit when I reach to EXTREME anger or frusteration. But I watch the little kids at my school every day after school for an hour. The best thing that works is a time out and/or take away thier toys. if this dosent work make them clean or something. You should always tell a child [[when they are bad]] what they did wrong and what they need to do to fix it. Don't yell unless needed. If he/she is laughing and thinks it is a joke, simply say, I am serious, then take them to thier bedroom and put them to bed or make them clean. Take away all thier favorite toys. Make them think that you threw them away then give them back when he/she has beed good for 4 days or more. Watch supernanny on TV to get some more hints and tips!
Hope this helps!
xoxo
Heaven
2007-09-18 15:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has to keep spanking him, it's not working. Spanking should not be a daily occurance at 6 years old. He's not learning from being scared and hit by his parents. She is punishing him not disciplining and teaching him. His boxers are probably a thinner cotton material that is woven and the briefs are knitted thus making them thicker. So, punishment hurts more when he has on his boxers. Perhaps you should find a good parenting class for them instead.
2007-09-11 11:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lenora2 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a baby I acquired the whole thing, time outs, spankings,toys taken away, grounding, then a few peculiar ones right here and there like writing "I is not going to placed paint in my hair" three hundred occasions. The peculiar punishments continually labored high-quality And I do the whole thing BUT spanking. My mother acquired a bit of too violent every now and then so I'm in opposition to it for my loved ones.
2016-09-05 10:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by hodgkiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend so much time with these people that you see this kid getting spanked so often that you know his response to the spanking based on different types of clothing he's wearing at the time?
Either you're watching your friends kid be abused, or you're full of crap and doing it yourself. My gut tells me it's the latter.
If not why do you let them hit this kid so much in your house?
2007-09-19 03:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess they are really hitting this child hard for him to be screaming, maybe they should try a different measure of punishment because it seems to me he is getting spanked alot, so it obvioulsy is not working. Why would you want your child to fear you?? I never understood that. I use the time out method for my son, and it works, without the pain of putting my hands on him!
2007-09-18 02:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by ashie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boxer shorts tend to be a lot thinner especially for little boys at that age. Briefs while they don't offer much protection they're somewhat thicker.
2007-09-13 00:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by brown_eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Less cushion in a boxer.. in briefs, everything is a bit more compact and held together.. in boxers, the skin is more relaxed.
2007-09-18 19:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking only works for parents, so they can vent their anger and powerlessness.
They only thing spanking does (especially when done regularly) is building a feeling of distrust and resentment in children towards their parents.
I've seen it many times.
Edited:
Oh, I've just read your other question about spanking. You're here asking for tips. I would recommend parenting lessons for you guys.
2007-09-11 11:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Pitusi 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I guess the boxer shorts are thiner and it hurts more
2007-09-11 10:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋