when you guys are not living together or anything like that of the sort and there is a court order that he is only to call and talk to the child and he doesnt even do that and all he does is lie about that kinda of thing and also detearmed to let his girl friend be involved in the childs life when they are not eve think about marriage when in my case my marryed and how could they do that when im nt bugging his dad at all i dont care what goes on there only when my child is there
2007-09-11 06:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If it affects your childs welfare it is his business. Sorry...
If, however it is about things that do not then no its not his business. Him not being married to his girlfriend is irrelevant in whether he has them spend time together. If his calls ARE harrassment and he is court ordered NOT to call and speak to you then document and report. Its all you can do. Some states it is legal to record a phone call if only ONE party is aware of it.
2007-09-11 06:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who's in a similiar situation and the father of the child is a real jerk. He threatens her and tells her that he doesn't want her to have other guys around her, and yet he's allowed to allowed to date anyone he wants or hang out with whoever. I do see an issue with that. Now like the 2 people before me said...If there is an issue that the father knows about (maybe drugs, alcohol, etc.) then it would be ok because he's just watching out for the wellbeing of his child.
2007-09-11 06:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jaydensmommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I was a parent, I would consider first whether his complaint is valid. Are the folks who hang around your house wholesome, hardworking people, or just lazy do-nothings who smoke and drink around the baby?
Most of the time when I hear this complaint, the guy really has a reason to complain! You chose to have a baby with him, so try thinking like a responsible parent. At the same time, if he wants his girlfriend to be involved, that's his choice.
2007-09-11 07:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you...as the child's father he DOES have the right to be concerned about any influences he may conceive to have a negative impact on his son.
However, he may not be going about it in the correct way. If he has a concern about the welfare of his son, and the court has stated he is not supposed to call your house, he should really be taking his concerns to his lawyer, not calling you about them!
2007-09-11 06:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the child is in danger or if his/her well-being is in jeopardy then yes, I would say ANY parent has the right to get involved. But if it is simply because they don't want you to date somebody else then no, they have no right to tell you what to do and who to do it with. It's your house, you pay the bills so you run the show.
2007-09-11 07:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RECORD every call he makes.
REPORT every call he makes that violates the word of the court order.
That he wishes to involve his current bedmate in YOUR child's life, you have no control over that, unless you can prove in court that (s)he is a danger to your child's health and well-being.
If you have a case worker from CFS, pre-emptively discuss with him/her your ex's complaints and attempt to control *your* life.
Incidentally...That is one heck of a long SINGLE sentence with no punctuation, or "sense" to it... It makes you sound like you're drunk when typing it. I am NOT trying to be offensive. but it took a few minutes to puzzle out what you were asking.
2007-09-11 07:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 09:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by calandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has every right to be concerned about who is around his child. You guys had a child together and you are always going to be connected because of that.
2007-09-11 07:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by MyMichelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first person who posted... its not like he's some random dude, he's your child's Dad - and he may have reason for concern.
2007-09-11 06:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its your right to protect the welfare of your child.If your girlfriend will do this thing be sure it is not seen by your child.Otherwise it will affect her.
2007-09-14 12:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋