Okay Im 18 years old Im 36 weeks pregnant Im still working and everything that my baby has I bought with my hard earned money. My baby's father doesnt do any thing but sit around with his friend and smoke and drink. Im tired of everything we have be split up for a month and two weeks. I dont want him back he is bringing me down I just want him to be there for his son. I tell everyone he cant wait til the baby gets here but he aint doing a damn thing for my child. I tell him he want see my son and he aint welcome to the hospitial because I am doing it all by myself he aint helped do nothing and i feel that he shouldnt even try to come around when the baby gets here because he wasnt there for me while i carried his son. I dont know what to do I thought about taking child support out on him but his parents will pay that for him so he will get out easy again. He doesnt have a job he is just a very sorry person.
2007-09-11 16:39:38 · 14 answers · asked by Proud Mother 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't know what to do about the loser you decided to make the father of your child, but you might want to take an English course.
2007-09-11 16:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by cole2585 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
why not seek child support it took two of you to make your son so it will take 2 incomes to help care for your child,by you not doing anything is sending him the message that it is okay that you aren't doing anything for your child and that is not right, he does have the right to see his child if he would like never keep a child from his father, your son will grow up to know what type of person his father is if he is always in and out of his life ,you are a strong woman to make sure your child has the things that he needs but either way the ball bounces a child needs both parents. good luck
2007-09-13 11:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by linda c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so PROUD of you!! You have your head screwed on right.
I am in a loving relationship with 2 year old twin boys, myself. BUT many of my friends are in this predicament or have been.
Chances are that he will not be around when your baby is born. If he is you need to apply for sole-custody! That will stop any rights he has and you will still be able to make him pay child support.
Don't contact him and get a lawyer. If you are Australian, there are heaps of free ones like Legal Aid.
Ring your phone company and have a trace put on your phone as well. One of my friends done this and i thought it was a good idea. Every time he rings, leave the phone line open for 5 minutes. Then hang up and ring the phone company. They will send a letter to not contact you, as well as put a Barr on his phone from calling yours!
Also tell your midwife, or doctor at the hospital that he is not welcome, and they can stop him coming in. They will ask your permission before anyone can come in!!
your son is so better of without a loser like that in his life! Keep your chin up! Please feel free to contact me!
Good luck!!
2007-09-11 16:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, but there's not a huge amount you CAN do.
Make him pay child support. Whether he does it, or his mom and dad, your baby deserves to be well-supported.
You need to work to get out of denial. There is nothing about this guy that makes him seem like he "can't wait til the baby gets here", and telling your friends and family that doesn't mean it will actually be that way.
2007-09-12 10:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts if you take him to court for child support will make him get a job or else he goes to jail.
There is a chance that he might do a 360 when his child is born,but more than likely not and taking him to court would be the best thing.
But if you do that then you are opening yourself to forced visit down the road, if you truly don't want him involved just say you don't know who the father is and raise the child alone
2007-09-12 00:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the movie, "Where the Heart Is" ? I think you might really like it. Similar situation and the girl does just awesome!
I think the thing is - what do you want out of life? What do you want for your son?
Do what's best for you and your son. He'll do whatever he's going to do. Don't waste your valuable time on him.
Next time you date anyone, make sure they deserve you. You are a hard working, decent person and the person you're with should treat you right.
If you can find a way, get some classes in the field you'd like to go into, find a job that will help you get there, utilize any programs in your area for young moms and get to where you want to be.
2007-09-11 16:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Another case of babies having babies. Also he may be a crappy boyfriend and may not be sensitive to your needs while you are pregnant, but he is a kid too. And don't tell him "you can't see my son", it is his son and fathers are very important in a childs life. Also if he doesn't want to be around make sure you get child support, who cares if his parents are paying as long as you are getting money for you child. Kids are very expensive.
and I know it is a little bit late to say this but before you decide to partake in adult activities (this means sex if you don't understand) make sure he wears a condom and you are on some type of birth control. Don't make another mistake, we don't need another woman with multiple babies daddy.
But good luck and a child does bring you a lot of joy
2007-09-11 17:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by itsnotmyfault 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you pick the wrong person to have a child with.....time to move on make him pay child support and make him have visitation rights ...cause u never know when he gonna snap that way u have the law backing you up and when he does start acting up which he probably will u need to call the law dogs on him. if you dont use the laws then the law cannot protect you legally
2007-09-11 16:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ray 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatley guys can just be very selfish sometimes. I am in a loving relationship with 2 kids but when i was pregnant (and working) with our first i bought everything for the baby and come to think of i bought everything for our daughter to right down to the paint and decorations for her room. Sometimes guys dont think about these things. Although it really annoyed me i let him get away with it because he is a great dad. Maybe once your ex see's the baby he will realise what a d*ck he is being and sort himself out but then maybe not. Unfortunaltley there are alot of sorry ****'s out there who are to damn lazy to take care of their responsibilities. take his child support money because even if its his parents who are paying it you are going to need every cent you can get. babies are not cheap! good luck and i hope your ex sorts himself out!
2007-09-11 16:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's acting like a kid -exactly what he should be doing at this age. don't expect him to act any differently. consider the option of adoption for the child. this will give you the chance to get an education and become successful before becoming responsible for another life.
2007-09-11 17:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHILD SUPPORT!!!! very simple. But sooner or later he'll freaking grow up and want to be there for his child ( hopefully ). or his parents will drill it to him so much he'll wake up. if not, sit him down and really talk to him about the father son relationship, not you and him.
2007-09-11 17:40:39 · answer #11 · answered by lil mama305 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋