I'm not sure if it's a teething thing (she's yet to cut one) or if she's just dealing with separation anxiety, but I can't put her down without her screaming bloody murder. She doesn't want to go to anyone else, even daddy. What do I do? Can I "train" her to get used to me putting her down?
2007-09-09 06:00:22 · 10 answers · asked by Walking_Food_Source 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am happy that she's totally loving me... don't get me wrong! I just need to get things done around the house and can't when she's screaming all the time. And even when I hold her sometimes, she screams!? It's so bizarre.
2007-09-09 06:06:16 · update #1
she loves you
you should be happy about this
she only 6 months old..give her a break
trust me, when you get older she will want nothing to do with you.
2007-09-09 06:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is totally normal. The best way for her to get over this is if you let her know that you're always there for her, then she won't feel the need to be so clingy. She'll understand that when you put her down you're coming back. If you try to 'train' her by not picking her up, she'll get more upset and likely more clingy. The most clingy child I know is a four year old whose mom was barely around during her childhood, spent most of her time in daycare and with nannies. So pick up your kid and love her! What about getting a sling to carry her around while you do some cleaning and other things around the house?
A tip for getting her to be with her daddy is to get him to take her, distract her, and take her to a room where she can't see you. If she can see and hear you, she'll likely want to be with you and not with her daddy.
2007-09-09 20:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by sila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she's 6 months old. Crying, etc is the only communication she has right now. Yes, it could be that teething is making her anxious. I had a tooth come in when I was in my 30s...I vowed never to be impatient with teething babies Ever after that. What is her environment like? Alot of noise, loud music, shouting in the house? Babies react to that. Also, as a new mom, you are, no doubt, a little stressed yourself and she will pick up on that also. Assuming that she is not sick or otherwised traumatised, try getting her into a routine of sorts. Remember, you can train the baby or the baby can train you. If in the past, you ran to pick her up at every whimper, then she is now reacting based on what you have done. If she is in her crib, trying patting/rubbing her tummy while softly talking to her. That lets her know you are there for comfort, but the pick up option is not necessarily going to happen every time. When she is sleeping try to get some time for yourself, even 10 minutes of quiet. Finally, welcome to the wonderful world of parenting. Be consistent and patient...it will get better.
2007-09-09 13:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by mlwjah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there isn't really an overnight thing you can do... I suggest giving her some toys to distract her when you put her down. If she isn't crawling yet, it will probably get better once she i mobile. My daughter is 9 months old, and ever since she became mobile she only wants me when she is hungry or tired... other than that I let her explore. If distracting her doesn't work, you could always get a harness to keep her close while you do your housework. You cant move as fast, but you can at least have two hands to work. Good Luck, it will probably get better in a couple of months.
2007-09-09 13:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tiggy's Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This brings back memories. My boy was the same way. I couldn't eat, sleep or go to the bathroom. I had carpal tunnel syndrome and I'm a single parent that had to earn a living.
I went right back to my weight before his birth, I had terrible sleep deprivation. My son would not sleep at all, he'd doze and if I tried to set him anywhere, even to the side of me, he'd fully awaken. I threw Q-tips out of the bed each time he fully woke up and found out that he awoke eight to eleven times per night.
When he was born, he went into NICU and I slept over at a friend's home. He screamed so badly that he was ruining the vital signs of the other troubled babies. The nurses had to clean out a separate spare room for him.
All I could do to support him was make telephone calls and order inventory from manufacturers and then deliver it to various venues for sale. He finally let me set him down for a short period of time in a car seat as long as the car was moving. He would not sit in a stroller or a wagon. I had to wear him on my back in a backpack and he would bury his two hands in my hair and twist it all up. He never slept in a crib and it took me years to get him out of my bedroom and into his own room.
At four, his preschool teacher referred him for I.Q. testing. I wrote out his entire history including the above information and they referred him to a developmental optometrist and a pediatric occupational therapist. He had developmental vision problems and sensory-motor problems. They think the reason he demanded the holding was because his sensory system was off. I did see issues involving separation. The separation issues may have stood alone or they may have been because his systems were not functioning well.
As he grew older, he still had a need to know exactly where I was in the house. If I walked outside unannounced , he would panic. If he couldn't hear me respond when he was shouting for me, he'd rush to a neighbor's house. Not being able to tolerate slight separations built up more anxiety in him. I could not go outside and pull the garbage cans in.
Now that he's in middle school, things are more normal. I hadn't realized this until I read your post.
2007-09-09 13:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL she sounds like my daughter at that age.... they do grow out of it but for the time being give her the attention she needs....but from experience do not let her sleep in your bed LOL you will never get her out ;) when she falls asleep as you are feeding her or holding her put her in her own bed.... my daughter was a year old before she let her father hold her withought screaming bloody murder...........and now you cant even get her to cuddle with me ;( enjoy it while it lasts cause they grow up too fast
2007-09-09 13:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by ilymds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 7 months old and i am going through the EXACT same thing...it is really hard to get things done..im a full time online student and its hard to even do my work with me holding her....my 5 year old was so independent so this is a totally different spectrum ...the only thing i can do is work with what i've got and try to show its okay to be without mommy for a few minutes a little each day...it takes alot of patience...good luck....you just have to learn to be patient and deal with it....
2007-09-09 16:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to let your baby cry sometimes. You can't hold her all of the time. Make sure there is nothing wrong with her (fed, dry, not hurt) then go ahead and put her down and let her cry. It will be annoying but she needs to learn that it is ok to be away from you. The biggest worry is that she won't even go to her daddy.
2007-09-09 13:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She could be not feeling well. I wouldn't try to "train" my baby to do anything...lol :)
The only advise/suggestions I have are:
1. Let it all go, babies grow up fast everythign else CAN wait :)
2. Put her in a sling, snuggly...anythign that can make your hands free so you can get things done.
I've done both..lol
2007-09-09 13:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten916 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
arrrr thats sweet, maybe you should get her a cuddly toy, or even when you have put her down, talk or sing to let her know that you are still in the room with her
2007-09-09 13:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bumumble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋