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I caught a few boys stealing from the store where I work a few weeks ago. They stole an energy drink, candy, and a few toys. We had to let them go due to lack of evidence and we found all the evidence after we let them go. I found out later that day that one of the boys lives across the street from me. Since this happened whenever he sees me in the window reading a book or doing my nails he freaks out and goes back inside. lately his mom is becoming suspicious of him not playing and it's only a matter of time beforeshe makes he connection that he's afraid of me. More than likely she will want to ask me what's going on. What should I say to her? I know I have to be careful or she can sue me and the store.

2007-09-02 07:04:59 · 14 answers · asked by christigmc 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

i doubt the kids will ever come back to the store. They know that if they comeback I will have my eye on them.
We didn't call the police, we usually don't when it involves kids because we feel that the punishment mom and dad are going to give is worse than anything the police are allowed to do.

2007-09-02 07:12:11 · update #1

I'm not going to approach her. I'm going to wait until she approaches me. She's getting suspicious of her son freaking out each time he sees me in the window.
There is no video evidence. The only evidence we have is what 2 co workers saw and what her son said when we confronted him. 5 of us heard what he said an we have the evidence to prove it was a lie.

2007-09-02 07:16:49 · update #2

On the otherhand she should know because there is another store nearby that her son and his friends might start stealing from. we figured the boys had been stealing stuff from us for several weeks prior because we kept finding empty boxes of the toys they stole. The other store is a lot more aggressive about shoplifters. They have security guards and have been known to get physically aggressive and call the police. I'd rather have mom spank them then a security guard tackle them and cart them away in a police cruiser.

2007-09-02 07:25:21 · update #3

I'm one of the managers in the store. When the 2 employees saw the boys stealing they told me.

2007-09-02 07:32:02 · update #4

14 answers

sry I read the question wrong instead.... only tell her that he was found stealing the stuff but you let him go with a warning and thats whyn he's afraid but if you know that she's the kind of person to sue someone and only believe that their child was right then I would think twice

2007-09-02 07:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 0 1

This should not be your issue. The store manager should have called these kids parents! Then this would have been dealt with inside the family, and not dumped on you.

If this mother approaches you, you need to say in front of the child, for her to ask her son the details, and then make sure he tells the truth. Be friendly and positive, saying you assumed he would be able to tell her about it. And that you don't know what the store's policy is or why. Refer her to the manager if more info is needed about the incident.

Stay out of it as much as possible. You are an employee, not the owner of the store. The store needs to consider their liability for NOT telling the parents - what if this child goes on to become a habitual thief, or gets shot while stealing? The parents could say that if they had been contacted earlier, they could have gotten help for this child.

2007-09-02 14:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Still Me 5 · 0 1

She can't sue you or the store..her son is a thief...

You should go over and confront her, let her know what happened and when - maybe she will want to deal with her son, teach him right from wrong or punish him....then again maybe she will be like not my little boy hes an angel...

but by telling her the truth and before she is worried you sexually assaulted her son or something else along those lines..you are putting the ball in her court to parent her son properly, and taking the sons fear out of the "closet' so to speak and putting it out in the open so he can cope with (what I hope is his guilt)

Good luck - be strong if she blames you - take it to heart that you did the right thing

2007-09-02 14:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Finchy 4 · 1 0

If she asks you, just tell the truth.

Say, "I work in the store down the street. A few weeks ago, I saw your son and a few friends in there. They looked like they were stealing. I confronted them w/ a co-worker. However, we could not prove that your son stoled anything. So we let him go."

Just be honest. You didn't do anything wrong and she can't sue you.

Don't be scared of this mother. You did nothing wrong here. So be honest and that's all.

2007-09-02 14:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1 1

i'd wait until she approaches you. I think the boys need to feel some guilt for themselves. Just always have the evidence ready so when she comes to ask you what's going on you have the proof.
Just be cautious. I have a creepy feeling that she might believe that the you did something (You fill in the blank) to her boys when she first makes the connection.

2007-09-03 01:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What do you have to be careful about? Her son, a juvenile, committed a crime. He knows he did something wrong. Talk to your boss, or if you are the boss go over there ring the doorbell and talk to her. Be matter of fact about it. No add ons, no suggestions for punishment, just tell her what he did and leave it at that. She can't sue you for you telling her her son stole from your store. If she doesn't believe you offer to show the tapes or whatever evidence you have.

2007-09-02 14:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Frenchghost 3 · 1 1

Absolutely, if she asks you, tell her. If the boy gets away with it, he'll always steal from your store. Besides, if she asks you whats going on, what else are you going to say? Ofcourse you should tell her. But be cautious. Don't just approach her and tell her. Wait for her to approach you.

2007-09-02 14:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

If the police were involved, then have them go and speak to her. I would just say to her, that you caught him stealing, and as it was the first time you let him go, that way you make it sound like you were being generous, and if it happens again then the mom is aware.

2007-09-02 14:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by ellen d 6 · 2 1

I think you need to give the boys a chance to come clean. Tell them that if they dont tell their moms within a week you will.

2007-09-02 14:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by givemeadoller36 1 · 1 1

I wouldnt say anything, she might just get mad at you and not believe you and then she might think its not your place to say anything. Just let her catch her son in trouble on her own.

2007-09-02 14:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Betrayed and Insane 5 · 0 1

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