My grandaughter is the centre of the world so everyone must move out of their way for her, right?

Question

My beautiful 4 year old grandaughter is the centre of the universe in our family. She is healthy and happy little girl and we make sure that she gets the best of everything! We buy her whatever she wants including the most expensive toys and clothes!

How angry I and my family was at the country fair the other day when we encountered a young woman who would not give up her seat at the picnic table for her.

There weren't alot of seats at the picnic tables but we spotted an empty space next to a young lady who was sitting all alone.

****Without asking if the seat was taken****, I directed my grandaughter to sit right beside the young woman who was looking around as if waiting for someone to come back

The young woman politely said to my grandaughter that she was sorry but her boyfriend was sitting there and he had just gone up to get a coffee and that he would be back in 1 minute.

Well, I just was appalled. Because my grandaughter is a child and she must always come first!

Instead of kindly asking the young woman if she could sit next to her, I snapped at the young woman and told her that she's a child and should sit there!
The young woman said that if I had kindly asked her, instead of snapping at her, she would have given up the seat for my grandaughter.

Answer 1

I really do hope this is a fake story. Any child that is raised like this will be horrible for teachers in school, horrible as a teenager who thinks she should have everything she wants and horrible as an adult who will most likely have a hard time finding a husband that will deal with the spoiled rotten high maintenance attitude! I always thought the rule was that kids gave up seats for adults? I have a 3 1/2 yr old daughter and if there were no seats she would sit on the ground! AND she wouldnt complain because she isnt a spoiled little brat!

Answer 2

Puleeze!! How unfortunate that you feel that you and your family have all the rights in this world. You are teaching your granddaughter that she has the right to walk all over other people and that they are less important than she is. Continue making her feel that her very existance makes the world go round and that she can have whatever she wants whenever she wants it. You are creating a monster and when she shows the traits you have helped her to exhibit, just remember, it is your fault. How dare you expect people to change their seating arrangement just so your granddaughter could have a seat at their table. The woman politely informed you that the seat was taken by her boyfriend and you had the gall and bad manners to tell her that your granddaughter must always come first. You are an ill mannered person and are raising a child to be just like you are. You got angry??? What nerve!! Go on displaying your ignorance and see how many true friends you have. Your granddaughter will be a very lonely child with many things which won't mean anything to her when she is left out of the loop because she is a spoiled, self centered and selfish child (apparently just like her grandmother!) You need to get a grip and take a good look at what you are doing before you damage this child any further. You should be ashamed of yourself but, probably don't even recognize how shallow you are.

Answer 3

My daughter is almost 4 yrs old so I understand your feelings. But we are obligated to teach our children and grandchildren about the world in which we live. The best way to teach by example. I’m sure, after the fact, you realize that ‘snapping’ was not the correct way to respond.

I see this as an opportunity lost to teach your granddaughter manner. To follow the rules of courtesy you should have asked if the seat was taken. If there truly were no other seats available and the woman said her boy friend was coming back, perhaps a statement such as, “Let’s sit here for now and perhaps the gentleman will give his seat to a little lady.”, would have taught both your granddaughter and the young woman much about manners. If the boyfriend refused to relinquish his seat, then you should move and explain to your granddaughter that the seat belonged someone else, it was his turn to sit there, and you will have to wait your turn or find another place to sit.

You will do your granddaughter and the world a great service if you teach her manners and then when she grows up she will be willing to give her boyfriends seat to the little 4 yr old girl. :>)

Answer 4

A child should be the center of your world, but at the same time you need to make sure you balance the scales.

A child should learn they cannot get everything they want. If you give them everything they want then you will teaching your grandchild it is ok to be selfish.

Buying your grand daughter everything that is most expensive will teach your grand daughter to be disappointed in life when she grows up, and cannot afford the most expensive things in life.

A child should not always come first. They need to learn that coming in 2nd or 3rd is ok also.

Take A Child By The ..
Take a child by the hand,
and show him the way,
Lead a child each morning,
into a beautiful day.
Take a child by the mind,
and give him the strength,
To fight every challenge,
and go to great lengths.
Take a child by the soul,
and let God be known,
It is by his mighty grace,
that so big they have grown.
Take a child by his sight,
and show him wonders galore,
Teach him curiosity,
and the need to explore.
Take a child by his smile,
so beautiful and sweet,
And tell him of all,
the friends he will meet.
Take a child by his wonder,
of the life all around,
Let him savor each flavor,
and hear each new sound.
Take a child by his dreams,
and say it's all-right,
To follow those dreams,
as far as he might.
Take a child by the heart,
and teach them to love,
For there is no greater gift,
from our creator above,
And after your child has grown,
and alone they now stand,
Watch and enjoy as they take,
their children by the hand.


I also think you need to take that poem listed above and apply it to life

Answer 5

To some extent I agree with U. My Little Grandson almost a year old and I wonder how I ever got thru a day before he showed up. Follows me everywhere, bubbles and squeakes, pees and farts all over!

However, Its not good in their long term interests to give in, bow too much. Yes, shes only 4, but also becoming very much aware of her place & will come to expect too much and ultimately pay in grief and tears! So spare her the embarressment and discomfort of such actions and teach her consideration and to care and think of others.

After all at the end of the day, its grandparents who bring / give the tinsel of life to their grandchildren.

Finally, If I may respecrfully conclude, I beleive u missed an important lesson for your Grandaughter to observe!

U forgot in your truly good manner - to first politley and kindly address the young lady and inquire if the seat was empty.

Thus you dear little Grandaughter learing (by observation) that one always poliltely askes, never assummes in the company of strangers - or even the family.

Impart it yourself - she will follow!

Good luck!

Answer 6

I detect a note of sarcasm here. As a grand mother my self I would not assume the sort of rights for her that you seem to be assuming. In fact I think you are the young woman who refused to allow that child that seat.
In any case, the grand mother was wrong to infringe upon the "young woman's" RIGHT to save her boyfriends seat. One persons rights end where the next persons rights begin. Next time put something on the chair to show that it is "taken".

Answer 7

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you, but your grandchild is going to have a lot of issues when she gets older if you and your family keeps treating her as if she was a queen and expecting everone else to play along. This is not healthy. Wait, when she starts school, she is going to expect the other children to give her everthing she wants and demand a lot of other people. This is going to cause her to push other kids away instead of helping to make friends. She is going to be the kid that causes problems for the other kids. If you don't stop this soon and slowy turn the family behavior around and teaching her more balance in respect and the fact that the world truely doesn't revolved around her, your going to have hell on your hands.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Respect for elders, Manners, I am afraid your Granddaughter is learning nothing of these. A child has to learn that you cannot always have what you want - when you want it. You should have asked the lady if the seat was taken, especially if you could see that she was obviously awaiting someone's return. Children do come first as far as food & shelter come, but they still must learn manners and respect.

Answer 10

I'm not sure if you are serious while asking this question because I detected a sense a sarcasm. Anyway, if you are serious about you said, then NO NO and NO. I understand and admire your love for your grand-daughter. However, if you insist that she is always the center of the universe, she'll grow up thinking that she is. She'll just become selfish and will not succeed in life. Please, teach her compassion and sharing, instead of raising her as goddess.