ok.....so ive known this guy for about 2 yrs through a good friend of mine. he lives in a different city. ive never talked to my parents about him. they dont know him. hes coming to visit me today, and i know when he comes pulling up in the drive way theyll want to meet him and all, but do u thin since they dont know him theyll let us go hangout some where? hes really sweet and nice, he a good guy, not the kind that try to pressure you into anything. iono if theyll believe me when i tell them this, cuz they dont know him.
2007-09-29 09:24:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ive never met him...just talked to him over the net.i really want to me him.
2007-09-29 09:25:56 · update #1
hes my age. and hes my friend on fb..hes not sum predator, and my friend that dated him, always saids good things about him.
2007-09-29 09:35:35 · update #2
im 17 and we talk on facebook
2007-09-29 09:45:00 · update #3
You really can meet a lot of good guys on line. I would say, that give it a shot, tell your parents where your going (make it a public place) and actually go there. You really don't need to be anywhere too privet until you know him better. If your parents ain't ok with that, invite him in, and ask if your parents will join you in playing a bored game or something. I know it sounds lame, but put your self in there shoes. They will probably recognize that that isn't the regular you, and that you really do want to try to get them to like him, and they will respect that. And if the guy is as cool as you say, not only will he understand what your doing, but he will make a good first impression. If that doesn't work, or your parents don't want to partake, take the new guy into the kitchen and make some lunch and eat it in the kitchen. Your mom and dad will linger around outside the kitchen ease dropping on everything you talk about, so make a good first impression that way.
If the first impression is good, they will trust you more when he comes over the next time.
2007-09-29 09:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by kris5449 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
way to go. you're ignorant.
You think that just because you talk to someone on facebook and they say they're the same age as you and they act nice behind a computer, then they must be an awesome person to meet? You're one of those many ignorant people who shouldn't even touch a computer. you're one of the people with parents who will blame myspace, facebook, the internet in general for the fault of you being raped and murdered.
ANYONE can act like a nice person and pretend to be the same age as you on the internet. It doesn't mean it's true. They could be some 50 year old pervert. Hell, I could even tell you that I'm 15 years old. I go to high school in the state you live in. and I work at Chuck E. Cheese. In reality, I'm 21 and graduated. Get the point?
My daughter would not be meeting someone from online or anyone I don't know for that matter. I would also be a parent and teach my daughter about the dangers of being online before she even touched a computer. Seems like your parents failed, because you're one of the most ignorant person I have ever come across. And i'm not trying to be mean, but it's the truth. Just think about what you typed.
2007-09-29 14:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you first? Thats a big part of it. If it was my daughter and she was meeting a guy from the internet for the first time I would want to meet him and plus I wouldn't let her leave with him. I have met a lot of guys off of the internet when I was underaged and my mom didn't know until after the fact. Most of them were in their 20's too. I know that when I was a teen I did sneaky things and just that fact I would know better as a parent. I don't think it is a bad thing to meet people from the internet, even while you are underaged BUT you need to be sure that you are not alone and you know who they are. Even ask to see their ID or license... you can do that in a non-obvious way too. Don't only worry about what your parents think about it... also worry about your gutt instincts and what you know to be best and safe. Even tho you have been talking to him for 2 years on the internet he is still a stranger. Don't be fooled and keep yourself safe. Even if your parents were to say it is okay to go off with him it doesn't mean you have to. You can hang out at your house with your parents home for the first time you meet... if it goes well THEN go out somewhere.
As for my daughter... I wouldn't let her meet anyone from the computer until she was 16 and then I still wouldn't let her go off with someone until I hung around them a few times myself. And still there would be a limit on how long they were out and where they could go.
Please keep yourself safe girl! No matter what you do.
2007-09-29 09:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by ϑennaß 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a parent.
My answer would be a "NO"
Sorry - but the first time you meet someone who is completely unknown, it really REALLY has to be in a well-lit public, busy place. You HAVE to have your own way there and home, and you have to have let other people know exactly where you are going and when.
Preferably, meet him with a group of people in tow - have him meet up with you AND a group of your friends at the food court in the local mall for lunch or something.
2007-09-29 12:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by L A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion as someone coming from the same generaion as your parents I will warn you that meeting people through the net is generally a strange phenomenon to us, so this will be cuase for concern on your parents part, as in you may think you know this guy but without actually ever meeting him how well can you really know him.
Ideally you should have talked about him sooner but since that is not n option heres how I think they will react as average concerned parents.
They WILL want to meet him they would be crazy not to,this might involve a bit of ground work on his part to gain their trust and yours since it is your first time meeting. If they are satisfied that he is a nice guy and that they can trust you and him they will probably let you hang out.
I know if it was my teen daughter(and I don't know how old you are but she is 13) I would meet the guy and if I liked him I would allow her to hang out with him with other friends close by for an hour or two tops. He would be very welcome to stay as a guest in our house but there would definitely be know 'private' dates with him for a long while.
Hope this helps good luck and trust your instincts on this one.
2007-09-29 13:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? How old is the guy? How good of friends are you with the person who knows him? I would ask your parents to go to a restraunt and he can meet you there and your parents can be nearby if he turns out to be a creep. I was in the same situation when I was 15 and I was glad that we went to a public place because he really turned out to be a creep. Now that I am older and a mom I would definately meet in public the first few times. If he really is a good guy he will understand.
2007-09-29 09:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by graceandgreyhounds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BAD BAD BAD idea.
You've never met this guy, except online, your parents don't know he exists, and you're going to take off with him somewhere?
You may know him online - but in reality he is a total stranger. People misrepresent themselves online all of the time.
This sends up huge red flags for me. I wouldn't go anywhere with him alone - he may be exactly what and who he says he is, but he may not. No, I'm not being paranoid, I'm being realistic.
Why can't you guys visit at your house first - with your parents there? Why have you not told your parents, when you knew he was coming in from out of town to see you?
Not wise, mature decisions on your part so far here.
2007-09-29 09:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
So you've only talked to him, not met him. Do you know how many girls go off with guys like that and don't come back...or worse? You really don't know him, you've just talked to him. Personally, if my kid (boy or girl) did that, I'd go through the roof. No, if I were your parents, I wouldn't let you go out with him. I would be open to letting him hang out at our house so we could get to know him too, and then maybe let you go out with him if we approved of him. But to let my daughter go off with a guy SHE doesn't even know? No way!
2007-09-29 09:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by SoBox 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In the interest of safety I would get to know him in person before you go anywhere alone. Maybe you could go out to a busy mall or something? That would also depend on your age and his age.
If you were my daughter the answer would be no. Not because I don't trust my daughter, but because I don't know the guy.
How well does this friend know him?
2007-09-29 09:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't let my daughter go out somewhere with a stranger, which even though you have talked to him for a long time on line, you haven't met in person and therefore imho he is a stranger. Me and my husband would have to meet him a few times actually. He would be welcome to come and hang out at the house or we would all go to dinner something like that.
2007-09-29 09:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by his wife 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋