Do you agree with this statement? why and why not
2007-09-28 13:46:58 · 40 answers · asked by Thereyahgo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes and no. You are a product of your environment.
2007-09-28 13:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dublin Mudslide 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't agree with that statement. I believe kids misbehaving is the result of bad parenting SOME of the time. There are so many different variables, so many different circumstances that could make a child act out that it's very difficult to pin it on the parents even OFTEN.
2007-09-28 16:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children misbehaving is often the cumulative result of their entire environment, not just their parenting. Although poor parenting and bad examples often amplify a child's will to misbehave. Children learn from observation. If they have seemingly excellent parents but are allowed to watch inappropriate television shows, daily, they learn from that. So, technically, a good parent wouldn't allow the child to watch that sort of tv program. Right? I guess I would have to agree on your statement, 80%.
2007-09-28 14:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe so for the most part. If you watch any of the silly nanny 911 shows it is not just the child's behavior that needs to be modified. The parent also has many things to learn about being a more involved and responsible parent. It also depends on what age child you are talking about, a younger child is not yet influenced by peers into making bad choices, but older kids have that additional influence on them. And then if you are talking really young ( 2 yrs old) nearly all kids go through a phase of testing limits that is often thought of as misbehaving.
2007-09-28 14:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by funmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. It is not always bad parenting. Children that come from a good parent home, can still come out bad and misbehave. Children misbehave for many different reasons. Children have there own sense of thinking and reacting to things. They learn very easily and quickly. Their minds are not already boggled with the unnecessary things in life, that they can adapt to just about anything and the mimic very well.
My daughter is only 21 mons and she manages to get into everything that she shouldn't. She tries to test me when I tell her not to do certain things, just to see if she can get away with it. It is not due to bad parenting, but the curious mind of a child. Children also pick up things from school and other kids they hang around. It is just the mind of a child.
2007-09-28 14:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nicety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. although "bad" parenting may be the wrong word. Ignorant or lacking in parenting training seems more correct. Babies do not come with manuels which you can whip out to fix what is wrong. Most people just use what their parents used, no matter if it is right or wrong. It is also a product of the parnets problems, that is if the two parents are not getting along, the children will act out. So it is complicated.
Parenting from The Heart is a good book and reasonable with its ideas of raising children.
And one meathod does not fit all. You have to really be alert and change things around if you find your child is doing something to manipulate you!
Children need very strong boundries, but not inflexable. They test then to see where they are. They feel safe if there are boundries. But they will always challenge then. Thats just what kids do!
2007-09-28 14:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. There is a certain degree in all children of how much can I get away with and there is a level of bad parenting. If good parents are going to have kids who misbehave on occasion. The difference in the behavior being parent related is how often is the kid bad. Do they misbehave constantly or on occasion when they think they can get away with it?
2007-10-05 07:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by billie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Kids misbehave whether they have good parents or bad parents. If kids didn't misbehave at times how would they know what is right and what is wrong? You have to learn from your mistakes.
If parents have kids that constantly misbehave that's a problem. Obviously, the kids have no respect for the parents or care about the punishment.
I don't think you can ever judge ones parenting skill from one encounter in lets say a store. It takes time to figure out the kid and the parent.
Misbehaving isn't the part that matters. It's what the parent DOES to disipline the child that does which happens to be the part the majority of us don't ever see.
2007-09-28 13:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes that is true. T
The reason I say that is that is easily explained, I have two kids that I am always being told behave well and also behave well anytime we go out and do stuff. My sister in law also has two kids and she has a diffrent parenting style than my wife and I. We have pushed respect for everyone more than anything. She on the other hand just lets them do whatever and says oh there kids people don't mind. I had to have a conversation with my 6 year old about why her cousins were bad. I don't spank but my kids know that there is consequences for there actions at home as well as in public. While my sister in law does nothing to discipline her kids, which shows every time we are together.
2007-09-28 22:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by jeremy t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can definitely harm their children and turn them into unhappy persons by being inconsistent or not giving them the love and guidance they need. But "good" parenting is not a fail-safe guarantee against children turning out bad. There are som any other influences on children (genes, peers, media etc.) that parents can only try to do their part and hope for the best.
2007-09-28 19:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to an extent. I think most kids will misbehave at some stage, its how the parents react is what makes a bad parent. Its just that some parents dont know how to punish their children.
2007-09-28 13:53:28 · answer #11 · answered by kiwichickie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋