my son`s teacher .....?

Question

my sons teacher is realy making me feel down , everytime she see`s me waiting outside my sons class room with the other parents after school she keeps coming over to me and starts talking about my son infront of ppl ,they can hear her ,stuff like "my son wouldnt listen to her at p.e time "and that "he kept running around " my son is only 4yrs old and has just started her class on the 19th sept,she says she expects him to start reading by now,then she had the cheek to say"maybe theres something else wrong with him?"this teachers know`s my son has hearing problems,and he may have glue ear which a simple operation will help this,!the other teacher is just as bad ,when im leaving the school she stands at the school gates (to make sure the children are leaving with an adult)and as im leaving she will say "my son has been hitting the other children today "she tells me this when theres other parents behind me waiting for me to get out the way to leave,they can all hear her , ---------

-------- i feel realy upset that she does this , why carnt she tell me in private?my son is a great kid, he`s just a very happy boy,sometimes he can get over excited at times but usualy when he`s over tired, 9am to 3pm is a long day for little children and he is still getting used to it.and if he has been nawty id rather them tell me in private,i feel as if my son is being picked on by them ,my sons teacher does poke her nose in alot,she told me that he should be reading by now, and that he is going to have problems as he goes into year 1 +.should i complain to the head teacher?

my son is not bad kaze ,half the children in that class kick and punch my son doesnt !! if proberly some other child may have pinched or hit him first without the teacher looking maybe my son has hit him bk !and gets caught by the teacher

my son is not bad kaze ,half the children in that class kick and punch my son doesnt !! if proberly some other child may have pinched or hit him first without the teacher looking maybe my son has hit him bk !and gets caught by the teacher

lol stifflergal haha

lol stifflergal haha

Answer 1

You said it yourself 9-3, at 4 years old????? That's nuts. I am assuming your talking preschool right? Try and get him in a 4 hour class maybe twice a week. I have never heard of a group of children being able to read at the age of 4, one or two sure, but reading and COMPREHENSION usually come in the 1st or 2nd grades. I think you may want to research some other alternatives to this school.

Answer 2

First, is your son in pre-school or kindergarten? If he's in kindergarten it seems normal he'd be more of a handful. I think you should schedule a meeting with her asap. Tell her politely you would rather her discuss your son with you in private. But you need to tell her how you feel! I know it can be difficult to talk to a child's teacher, especially when you don't want to cause a conflict. But you and your son's schooling is important. The way you feel about your child's teachers, school, & education will always be a reason to say something. He will pick up on your feelings sooner or later. If you talk to her and it doesn't change, speak with the principal or whoever else.
Again, is he in kindergarten? If so, you should look into the benefits of starting boys into it closer to the age of 6. Depending on his birthday. There are a lot of studies that suggest they just plain do better all around. I don't mean to sound preachy, but 4 would be young for any normal child. Boys seem to be different at first in school than girls. Take it from me, (I know from my experience as a child), if school is not started according to the child, it can affect the years to come. School should always be enjoyable for your child at that age. And you! Maybe volunteer as a room parent once a week, see how things work. Tell the teacher you want this to be a wonderful start to school for all three of you. Parents and teachers should work together! Every year is going to get more interesting. I had an issue with my oldest's teacher last year, and it was hard to talk to her, but I put us first! Good luck!

Answer 3

My word he is only four years old. Relax your kid is still growing up and discovering how to act and play with other kids. If he misbehaves tell him what he did wrong but i would not expect much from a four year old. As he gets bigger i am sure he will learn and improve so no worries. Also his hard hearing may make him frustrated and act out due to him not being able to understand what is going on so the operation should help.

As for the teachers they do not sound very constructive or helpful to me. Perhaps it is time to consider a new school. If not organize a meeting with the respective teachers and explain to them you do not feel it is appropriate for them to talk about your child in public places and if they wish to discuss your child in future they can arrange a meeting with you.

Answer 4

I am a teacher- for 10 years in kindergarten. You need to talk to the teacher and let her know that if she wishes to speak with you- she needs to do so in private. No matter how your son is behaving, it IS inappropriate to have this conversation in front of other parents.

I hear some doubt in your question. If you hear it from more than 1 teacher- perhaps you should pay a surprise visit to the school- without your son knowing you are going? Visit on Gym days, visit when you know he is having issues in the classroom- there is usually a pattern by now.

If all else fails, speak to the Principal at the school and let him know that his teachers are not acting in a professional manner. You NEVER ever talk about one child to a parent in front of other parents. EVER.

You need to become proactive with your son. Instead of denying what is happening, check it out. When you see it, pull him out of class and correct him- and firmly. When they say he has made improper choices, he must lose a priviledge at home- and he must earn them back by making good choices for 2 days at school- and so on.

It can be done. Do not use your son's hearing as an excuse. Our son has autism and ADHD. He earns 90's in school and his behavior is excellent. We are firm. We are consistent. We are telling him everyday that school is his job and he will receive a consequence for poor choices. He's had one bad day at school in 5 years. ONE. I know he has issues- but all kids have something. He is going to grow up and must be able to function in society. Handing a child an excuse when they have a zillion they come up with on their own is very, very bad for a child.

So, there is a lot going on here- and you must step up to the plate in all areas and get proactive. You will see changes in your son in time once you do so.

Answer 5

I had a teacher like this when I was younger and she just thought I was a bad seed. Maybe theres something she doesnt like about you. . . Or shes tired about your son not paying attention to her. Either way the teacher needs to be patient with your son because hes still young and he has a hearing problem.

You should ask the teacher to keep the information to you and herself in person in a closed space. Teachers are not aloud to talk bad about another student infront of other people without your consent.

Answer 6

It is best to get with the teacher and set up a parent-teacher conference. Both the teacher and the parent need to come up with a way together to help your child with their education. Let the teacher know that you don't feel comfortable with her discussing behavior or the level your child is at in general public. If this does not work it is also good to get with maybe an assistant prinicipal or prinicipal. Hope this helps..

Answer 7

Try setting up an appointment with the concerned teacher. If she refuses, then go see the head teacher. If none in the school seem interested in helping you, that means you have to start looking for another school. Your unpleasant experiences with his teachers might soon be picked up by your son and might negatively affect his attitude towards school and studies.

Answer 8

This is total rude and unacceptable... there's a lot of different ways to deal with this -- first and most obvious.. different school... if that's not possible -- trying talking to them-- perhaps they don't realize how tasteless and rude they are.. ask them if they have any issues if they could address it in a more private matter. or thirdly go to anyone ahead of these women... hopefully they don't run the program -- if not phoning your concern to a superior wouldn't be out of the question.
if all else fails run them over with your car.. .when the children aren't looking of course. :)
Good Luck!

Answer 9

By the facts you said, it's like the teachers want to embarrass you and your son in front of others. Never be offended because of that. If it continues to happen, I would say tell the headmaster. If the headmaster does nothing, I suggest you change schools.

Answer 10

pshh...4 is young to be reading already. i wouldnt worry about that but its never too soon to start learning. while this sounds like stuff you need to be informed of so that you can have a talk with your son and reprimand him it is very rude for her to make this information public. you are both adults so you need to talk to her and tell her that you dont appreciate her making your bussiness public and if she needs to talk to you about problems involving your son to give you a call or set up a time where you can talk in private. hope things get better.