She says no to everything. Is only nice if you're nice to her.
And worse part is, she gets mad over everything! I mean, everything! She takes everything out of context. A teacher who she likes asks her to go to class and she gives that teacher dirty looks, etc
What should I do?
2007-09-28 14:51:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Other people on the boards have said that all 13-yr-olds act like this. Sorry, not true! No one's perfect, but I know many 13-yr-olds who are generally polite, responsible, hardworking, and well-behaved.
It sounds to me like your girl has the upper hand here. You need to address that. Parenting classes would help. (Note: I do NOT endorse "slapping the look" off her face.)
2007-09-28 15:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by silvercanoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, get a cup of coffee and think back to being 13.... not fun for anyone. Crazy hormones, pimples and desperately trying to fit in. Punishing your parents was probably the only satisfaction you got, because you knew that no matter what they would always be there for you - unlike your peers who are as fickle as New England weather. Try to find a middle ground with her, something you can both enjoy together, give her the space she needs, but at the same time, set some boundaries. Be realistic however, being overly strict will just result in resentment and rebellion. Somewhere deep inside is the cute adorable 4 year old she once was....
2007-09-28 22:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mummum of 3 boys under 4! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of her as a jerk, and start talking to her. She's 13 years old, this is about the time that children get defiant, and petulant, and upset over the littlest things because right now her hormones are reacting to everything. You should talk to her, ask her why she gets so mad at things, as her if she just doesn't like the activities she's doing anymore, or if there is something else wrong. She may be taking things out of context because she doesn't understand how she should be thinking right now.
2007-09-28 22:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that your daughter needs an attitute adjustment!!!
You as her parent shouldn't have to kiss her butt just so that she can show you some respect. Does she even say what the heck is her problem?? At 13 they tend to develop an attitude problem but you cannot let her run over you or your household. She still needs to know and realize that you are the boss. If she continues her attitude then she needs some sort of punishment for example: No shopping, No cell phone ect.... The point is that she will get over it and realize that with you she cannot "play games" like that. Believe me sometimes the "Tough Love" is the best lesson to teach a teen. I had to do the whole "Tough Love" thing with my kids and eventually they just got over it. I tried the whole talking with them to figure out what the heck is the problem but it only seemed like no matter what I said or did---Nothing helped!! So I had to switch it up a bit and let them know that I am the adult/parent/boss and I will NOT walk on egg shells depending on the mood that they are in....I wish you the best of luck !!
If nothing else try talking to the school consulor they have plenty of resources and might be able to help you out too....
Also, has her friends changed? Has her style of dressing changed? Has her taste in music changed?
Best of Luck to you !!!!!
Just be strong / firm !!!
2007-09-28 22:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Honey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most 13 year olds are selfish! Shazam, what a revelation! Nevertheless, sometimes people act out in bizarre ways in order to get attention and affection from their elders. The best thing to do would be to take her to a movie of her choosing at the movie theater, tell her that you love her unconditionally, and give her a big hug. No criticism, no complaints . . . just real acceptance of who she is at the moment.
2007-09-28 22:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by YahooAnswers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lay down the law! you are the parent, and you have the say so. If my kids get snotty with me, they have serious consequences. Slap the dirty looks right off of their faces. It may sound cruel, but they will never do it again, and later in life will respect you for it. That is the problem with parents with teenagers, they let their teens win, and they end up in gangs, and come home with nose piercings, and other gross crap! I have a 10 yr. old, 13, and 16 yr. old. and they all respect me and my wife. I get compliments all the time about how well behaved my teenagers are, and how i do it. Try it, you will see, show them who's boss!
2007-09-28 21:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
its kinda normal for teens to act like that but sounds like she mite be upset inside about somethin.
ask her whats botherin her so much that she needs to be so hostile, she will prolly say nothin but if u stay calm yet keep tryin to find out she will cave and start cryin.
then u can work from there
2007-09-28 21:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is what 13 year olds do ! Nothing much to be done about it.
2007-09-28 21:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by brian777999 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow!! well let her know shes getting out of hand and if that doesnt work take all the stuff she likes away
2007-09-28 21:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will grow out of it. my 15 year old son was in that mode also. it takes 2 people for sure !!! the whole good cop, bad cop thing is invaluable...he's alot better, and i can finally say again that i'm proud he's my son...lord knows he sure tested us...and our patience.
2007-09-28 22:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by bigmha2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋