Parenting - December 2006

It's "normal" for kids to misbehave in public.

It's "normal" for men to be uninterested in parenting.

It's "okay" for kids to potty train at four.

It’s “normal” not to have family meals.

It’s “normal” for kids to watch TV before two years of age.

I don’t know about you but I’m so afraid of all the parents excusing their children’s behavior as “normal.” While it’s “normal” shouldn’t people strive and expect for more then average behavior in both themselves and their children? Do you settle for “normal” behavior? When did parents decide normal should be used as an excuse? What expectations do you set for your kids and yourself as a parent? Have you encountered parents like this?

2006-12-07 05:54:01 · 10 answers · asked by .vato. 6

I'm expecting to become a first time father in March 2007. I'm employed, making $25-30K/yr. and she collects SSI disability, has 2 children with deadbeat donors. I intend to be a father, not a donor.

2006-12-07 05:47:27 · 9 answers · asked by Tyren M 1

What do you do to make your guests feel comfortable. What do you feed them. Do you take them places all day everyday. It's our first time entertaining a family from across the country and want to make their stay fun and pleasurable.

2006-12-07 05:42:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

basically you are lying to your children...I don't think it's right, do you?

2006-12-07 05:19:07 · 25 answers · asked by Flower 4

My sister in laws husband is 12 yrs. older than she is, so whatever his ideas r she agrees...I could care less, that is until my niece told my son that "Daddy's buy all the presents" and "There is no Santa"When I asked my SIL about it ,she acted like this was normal. "She said ,that their kids know who really brings the gifts"I kept trying to tell her that her kids would eventually know the truth, so why spoil it for them just so her husband can feel like king ****. I know I should mind my buisness, but I don't even want her family around for fear of what her kids may say to mine...All of our children r 8 an under.Please help

2006-12-07 04:46:13 · 16 answers · asked by jbay06 2

We've been having such a rough time financially this last half of the year that we won't be having Christmas. My son is 8 & my daughter is 4. He has been questioning the existance of a real Santa for sometime but still believes. Yes we have taught him the true meaning & he tells me all the time that Christmas is about Jesus and giving but that still won't change the fact that there will be nothing under the tree Christmas morning. How do I tell them so they won't be totally heartbroken?? How would you tell YOUR CHILD before it happened that he/she had to wake up Christmas morning to nothing??

2006-12-07 04:35:21 · 26 answers · asked by mindy m 2

My 15 year old step son was caught looking at porn. I caught him, he said he wasnt. It was still on the screen! I understand that teenagers, boys and girls will want to know. But what else can I expect? Oh, and a parental lock is going on that computer.

2006-12-07 04:31:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't spank my children. I feel them well. I volunteer at their school. I take good care of them. But I feel I can be better...what about you?

2006-12-07 04:19:01 · 18 answers · asked by Smiles 4

my sister in law told me that her friends are sending their 4 children to private school, and in the back of my mind I'm thinking, yeah right. This woman couldn't even afford to pay for a serpentine belt 3 months ago (I work at the shop she got her car fixed at), how is she going to pay for 4 kids in private school. My sister in law tells me that her friends are doing so great and they are making 8,000 a month and they are going to retire. Here I am thinking my husband makes 4,500 a month, we have a car note and a mortgage. We save 1,500 or more, but we have two children. How could someone afford to pay for 4 kids private school? Do you think my sister in law is just trying to get on my nerves about this. When she is talking all I hear is " I'm better than you, our Quixtar business is doing great." Who knows about Quixtar, is it crap? My husband and I tried it, but we got scared since his brother works and talks like a machine.

2006-12-07 04:17:57 · 21 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5

Do you buy the kids shampoo and conditioner for your child or use your own on your kid? For my 10 month old son, i use johnsons baby bath and on my 8 yr old daughter, i use the kids stuff and my stuff when it runs out.

2006-12-07 04:16:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm doing a sociolog project and I need positive implications on a social problem (children in foster homes).

2006-12-07 04:13:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tgink it is a brilliant name. My partner wants to name the baby after the TV chef Gordon Ramsey. I think Gordon is a foolish name for a little girl - it sounds like a man's name. Perhaps Gordona is a better name? I still like Morkswa though.
Do you like Morkswa or Gordona?

2006-12-07 03:56:51 · 39 answers · asked by monkeymanelvis 7

I have non identical twin boys and were're not sure where the twin thing comes from is it the maternal side or the paternal? My father has twin cousins non identical boys so I assumed they were from my line but a lot of people have said non identical twins run down the fathers line is this true? I also suffer from polysistic ovary syndrome which affects my fertility levels to be up and down and thought this could also be a factor although the doctors were never really sure on that

2006-12-07 03:53:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked a question about private school. I wondered what was best for my children's education with the decline of quality in public schools. Someone emailed me saying it was snotty to even think about sending my son to private school. I was so shocked. I would be giving up an awful lot of money just to do that for the quality of my children's education.

Do have preconceived thoughts about kids that go to private school?

Why would someone automatically assume the only parents who are interested in private school are wealthy?

I never knew there was a stereotype for kids who went to private school. Can someone please explain what the problem is?

What's wrong with being concerned about education for your children?

2006-12-07 03:34:27 · 20 answers · asked by .vato. 6

2006-12-07 03:33:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My six year old nephew Jack was diagnosed with autism at the age of three, he gets frustrated very easily and when angry goes into these terrible temper tantrums, my sister is on her own with two children and shes finding these quite difficult to manage hes genrally a loving little boy and usually cheerful but when he goes into one its quite hard to calm him down, someone mentioned about fish oils and how they were good for autistic children but the problem there is he will only eat toast and honey so its proving hard to get him to take the tablet has anyone tried these fish oil tablets and do they work?

2006-12-07 03:19:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

A gay female friend of mine has asked me if I would be a donor for her and her partner so they can have a child. She said there is nobody she would rather have as father to her baby & couldnt with someone anonymous.

I have no kids yet and would like to one day, but with someone I love and as part of a family.
She said I would have no financial responsibility & I could see him/her whenever I want, and even wants them to have my surname because she doesnt like her own.

Im flattered that she would ask me to do this, but its a life changing thing. She hasnt slept with a guy for 18 years, but would with me to have her baby.

I dont think I should do it, but Im 34 now. I know thats not old, but time is still ticking & what if I dont meet that right person for me and dont ever have kids. Will I regret saying no in the future?

2006-12-07 03:03:37 · 16 answers · asked by Wings 2

Are you or were you a teen mom?
I'm a 22 yr old mom of 3 doing research for a school assignment on teen pregnancy and education. Please take a minute to answer a few questions to help me with my research. Thanks.

1.How old are you?

2.Are you married/ in a realationship?

3.How old were you when you had your first baby?

4.How many children did you have before your 19th birthday?

5.Did you finish /are you finishing high school?

6.Did you/ are you planning to attend college or university?

7.How many months did you take off school for maternity leave?

Serious replies only. Dont answer if you are a man, had your children after your 20 birthday . thank you.
I need 57 more answers so I can complete this project! Please fill out for your self or someone you know. Thank you!

2006-12-07 02:30:08 · 14 answers · asked by binglejells2003 3

2006-12-07 02:12:04 · 8 answers · asked by aju t 1

What would you do?
I'm talking about no proof but bruises (which can be claimed from other activities, like, falling off a skatebord, etc)

2006-12-07 01:42:45 · 23 answers · asked by JASNJ 2

Or if you are a stay at home Mom/Dad. Sometimes I am so busy with my kids during the day that I don't realize I'm still wearing my pajamas by dinner time!!

2006-12-07 01:37:50 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked a question yesterday (you may look it up) about a problem with my neighbor's son visiting my home and acting very rougish and failing to listen to even the most basic of requests. Anyway, I went and talked to the mother in a very neutral fashion, and told her about how her 3 year old comes over and calls me names, tells me to shut the hell up, and says things like "yada yada yada!!" really loud when I am trying to speak to him or even my own children.

I simply told her, "whatever he does at home is none of my business, and how he treats you is none of my business (he goes off on his mother worse than he speaks to me. PLUS his mother only finds the behavior cute and does not discipline him) but when he comes in my home, I expect him to respect my home and my rules. At my house, we don't walk on dining room tables, speak sideways to adults, swear, and swing from shower curtain rods like spider monkeys...."

Well, she says that's how kids are SUPPOSED to act, and laughs?? WTF

2006-12-07 01:26:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son was being picked on on the school bus yesterday afternoon. Some bullies were calling him names and some were even kicking him in his throat. The bus driver witnessed the entire thing happening and put my son off the bus 10 miles from in the middle of a snow storm. My son had to walk all that long way by himself. I was outraged. My son was cold, bloody and bruised by the time he has walked all that way.
I went up to that school to complain this morning about what had happened. The principal told me that the driver was within his rights to put my son off the bus as part of the new "man up" law that went into effect on December 1st. He says that this new law states that if a child doesn't man up and defend himself while on the schoool bus then the driver has the right to put you off for your own safety. Is this right? Should my son have been treated like this?? He is only 6 years old. Help please

2006-12-07 01:26:46 · 14 answers · asked by mamabag06 2

2006-12-07 00:24:36 · 21 answers · asked by serephina 5

I dont have any children but I do have a child that is basically mine..so do you always have to have children to be a mom?

2006-12-07 00:22:06 · 12 answers · asked by --; cookie. 4

i went shopping with my mother in law a few weeks ago to buy a x-mas gift for her step neice. well, i have to get something for her too. we went to target and found those little cheerleading sleeping bags on sale for $6. BUT, they look so cheap. i didnt want to get it, but MIL said i HAD to get it, it was just so cute and so cheap. REALLY CHEAP, in my opinoin. any wayz. my son is 3 months old. i havent gotten to 1 year yet, lol. i have NO IDEA what one year old do. i've already spent $6/7 on her, so i dont want to spend much more, can you think of anything else she would like or play with for just $5/6? a movie maybe? like i said, i dont know....

2006-12-06 23:20:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-06 21:44:46 · 12 answers · asked by wrongjon 3

so you can have time to save up money and dont have to worry about rent or bills?

2006-12-06 21:22:37 · 18 answers · asked by chris l 1

Ok I got pregnant and had a lot of problems out of my babies DONOR which was my b.f at the time.. We split up and he left adn told me that he hopes the worsst for me..well then he told me that he know the baby isnt his or is dead b.c his mom wasnt have any cravings(thats is the dumbest thing I heard) then I got all of these calls saying he was goign to cme and take her and I would never see her again.. and he was going to get custody and all that and he threatened to kill us..

well then I got with this other guy when i was 2 mo pregnant and he was there for me through all of my pregnancy and the other guy stopped callin at about 6 mo and then never called again.. until she after she was born and while i was preg. my mom was calling and telling him what was going on..then he said not to contact him or his family..

so when I gave birth to her I let my new b/f sign the birth cert. knowing he wasnt the father..so now heres the ?s

what can the real dad do
does he have ne rights

2006-12-06 21:12:14 · 7 answers · asked by your babies mama 1

2006-12-06 21:01:04 · 4 answers · asked by zura 1