basically you are lying to your children...I don't think it's right, do you?
2006-12-07 05:19:07 · 25 answers · asked by Flower 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No let them have some imagination, you only live once and thats one of the biggest parts of christmas and being young ,when you have kids it brings back the magic.
2006-12-07 05:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by 19years_young 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is lying. The Santa "myth" or story dates back in my church 6 or 7 centuries. He is a Saint. Hence the term Saint Nick. Now do I come into your house and tell you that you lie to your kids when you dumb down the news about the death toll in Iraq, or how exactly was Jesus killed? No I don't.
Santa is that magical part of the Christmas season, he shows us to give without any thought of receiving. Just like Jesus did. He is a good example and to let your children believe enhances the magic of this great time of the year. Mine know Santa as well as Jesus. They know the story, they know they need to be good etc.
Jesus is the reason for the Season, Santa brings the message home.
Amy
2006-12-07 05:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not lying, you are telling your children about the spirit of Christmas. My 22 year old daughter still "believes" in Santa. She understands that it is the spirit of Christmas. Not every storybook you read to your child is the truth, some of it is fiction and make believe. What is wrong with a child having fun with make believe and imagination? Nothing. I never pushed the "be good or Santa will not bring you anything? myth, that I don't approve of and do consider that lying. Just use Santa as part of the spirit and fun of the holiday season.
2006-12-07 05:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very touching subject with most moms. My son told his half-brother (during his dad's weekend) that Santa is not real. My son is 12 and half-bother is 4. His dad yelled at him for it. I didn't know what to say except to my son that it was wrong to let him know that is the place of his mom to tell him the truth.
I reminded that once he believed in Santa and that he didn't like it when older children around him told him there was no Santa, in fact, I didn't want my son to have to grow up so soon but eventually he out grew Santa.
2006-12-07 07:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old and one on the way and my husband and I tell my son there is a Santa, but that Momma and Daddy are the ones who buy the presents then Santa picks them up for us. That way he doesn't think he can get everything. That's how my parents did it and when I found out Momma & Daddy were Santa I didn't feel like I was really lied to
2006-12-07 05:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by askywalkersmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childhood I have learned thru my husband is when we want them to experience the specialness and happiness in life, before the reality really sets in.
I don't think its wrong to tell a kid . This fantasy world we pay for every Christmas costs alot.
Sadly enough, every kid is going to be disappointed that the fat man who gives out toys doesn't exist until they are not into toys anymore.
Some kids, are able to figure it out themselfes. The smart ones.
Don't feel guilty about being realistic or idealistic. Just enjoy
your children and try to keep them happy, There is more to Christmas than Santa Clause anyway.
The true meaning iis celebrated for Christ anyway, and giving and sharing and remembering the people we love. St Nicholas is just a fairy tale from Europe for rich kids.
2006-12-07 05:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by icegypsy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fight this over in my head and with my husband all the time. I don't know the right answer. I don't believe it's right to tell your kids that there's a god either, so why would I tell them there's a Santa? In the end my spouse wins and the kids get toys from Santa. I don't like it one bit though.
2006-12-07 05:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by blondes tease, brunettes please 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To each his or her own. If that is what you wanna tell a child then go for it. But please don't go around telling other persons children your beliefs. I didn't raise my son to believe in Santa or any of that. But he still enjoys Christmas all the same. It is about the child enjoying Christmas not anything else.
2006-12-07 07:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by the pregnant lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy subject. And if you think it is wrong then yes it is wrong for you-Because you are feely guilty about it and your conscious is getting to you. If you are a christian, make sure that you teach your children what christmas is truly about. Jesus's birth. Dont let the santa thing take over the importance of Jesus.
2006-12-07 05:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they already think santa exists. don't ruin the fun, just play along. it's magical and everyone needs to believe that miracles can happen. play along until they get older and ask you flat out, then discreetly tell the older ones and ask them to not say anything to younger siblings. the first christmas that i figured out there was no santa was heartbreaking. don't let that day come any sooner than it has to.
2006-12-07 06:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by chingona1027 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think letting childrens imagination run free when they are young is no bad thing.
I eventually sussed out about Sant when I was about 7 or 8 I guess - and sure I was a bit dissapointed - but I remembered how much fun and excitement it had brought me when I was younger.
Lying to children? I think letting them enjoy a harmless fantasy is nearer the truth.
Deprive them if you must - but don't delude yourself that you are doing anyone any favours.
2006-12-07 05:35:04 · answer #11 · answered by Mark T 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋