My sister in laws husband is 12 yrs. older than she is, so whatever his ideas r she agrees...I could care less, that is until my niece told my son that "Daddy's buy all the presents" and "There is no Santa"When I asked my SIL about it ,she acted like this was normal. "She said ,that their kids know who really brings the gifts"I kept trying to tell her that her kids would eventually know the truth, so why spoil it for them just so her husband can feel like king ****. I know I should mind my buisness, but I don't even want her family around for fear of what her kids may say to mine...All of our children r 8 an under.Please help
2006-12-07 04:46:13 · 16 answers · asked by jbay06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am in the same boat as you. I have 2 sisters with children and they never have done the Santa, tooth fairy, Easter bunny, etc. thing. I do do it with my kids (for those of you that think that is lying to my children.... OH WELL!). I just told my daughter (my only child old enough to understand) that anyone that doesn't believe in Santa, tooth fairy, etc. doesn't get anything from them. That way if the other children told her Santa isn't real, she would think that they don't believe and that is why they don't get presents from him. Works very well for us. Good luck to you.
2006-12-07 05:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
In general, I think you should just let it go. It isn't affecting you or your children, AT THIS POINT, so why worry now? My son knew there was no Santa when he was 3, but didn't tell us that he knew until he was 9 (little ****!). He is 13 now and I still put gifts from "Santa" under the tree. Why not? It's the spirit of the holiday-Santa and reindeer, cookies and milk, yadda yadda.
There is no easy way to let your children know that Santa isn't real. I was quite lucky to not have that conversation with my child, he just figured it out when I accidentally wrapped a few gifts from "Santa" in the same paper I'd used for gifts from the dogs. Best of luck with whatever decision you make, but please keep in mind that your children finding out there is no Santa would be better than keeping them away from their cousins in fear of what MAY happen.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-07 05:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that its the parents choice if they want to tell there kids about Santa or not. We work hard for those gifts that the kids get and I think its fine to tell them that we buy them and there's no such thing as Santa. I don't think her husband is doing it to feel like king **** I just think that he wants to make a point to the kids that nothing is free and things cost money. However, I think that as parents who do tell there kids there's no Santa they need to make it very clear that the other kids do still believe and need not ruin it for them. Alot of kids are okay with that but some kids like to spill the beans too. Talk to your sis and tell her that you DON'T want your kids knowing that there's no Santa and would like it if her or her husband would have a talk with the kids. Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our children know the truth but they know "mommies and daddies buy the presents", they also still participate in the whole Santa Claus thing, kinda like you and I do. I still get excited when I see him. I think you just don't like your brother in law. No matter here's what you do, when they say there is no Santa to your children, you play dumb. Say, "Well who brought all those toys, and who was that I saw in a red suit last night? Sounds like your cousins will be getting coal next year. You don't want coal do you?" I still love Saint Nick. An entire world in love with a fat guy and his fat wife, oh, yea, that's what I'm talking about!!!!!
2006-12-07 04:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually won`t have been angry with the BIL for reinforcing the fact that we don`t swear. The fact is, sometimes kids heed stranger`s words better than a parent`s words. I would certainly have reiterated the facts with my daughter, despite what BIL had said already, but I would not have been angry. Maybe he was really just trying to help. Some families are raised that ìt takes a village` That he badmouthed you to your children is an absolute deal-breaker that loses him the privilege of seeing your children unsupervised. That crosses the line and your husband should be on YOUR side of this one. Will he like it when his brother starts badmouthing him, too!
2016-05-23 03:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pauline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mind your own business. Santa does not exist, and I think her husband is just keeping it real, and not doing it to feel like a king. My parents told me when I was 2, and I have not suffered any emotional harm.
It's better for the kids to know that there is no Santa, than to be disappointed when they find that Santa does not exist after they've believed for years.
2006-12-07 07:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to let your kids believe if they choose and your right after a certain age they will know the truth. My son is 12 and he knows mama and grandma buy the gifts and live for black friday.LOL , I would just tell your kids that not to worry santa comes to your house. and redirect them from the negative to the positive.
2006-12-07 05:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by froggielover72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think her husband does it to feel like a king. I would have to agree with her i will not teach my kid of Santa, the tooth fairy,etc it just sets a child up for disppointment and it's all lies,why lie to your children?Kids are going to tell your kids one day that there is no santa anyway,all your kids may do is ask you if it's true or not and you can make the decision to lie to your child or not.
2006-12-07 04:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mindless Mishap 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
They're family and if you're going to a family Xmas party they'll probably be there. I'm not sure how you can avoid that. They aren't the only kids who can tell your kids that it's parents who buy them the gifts. They could hear it from other kids in school. You could always discuss it with them first if you want to. Good luck.
2006-12-07 04:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that Santa is o.k. for babies, but I think kids should know who ST. Nicholas was and why we say what we say about Santa, and basically all the truth about all of it. And if they want to continue the Santa thing, great, but it is just a disapointment to those who truely believe.
2006-12-07 04:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not teaching my kids about Santa Claus. Generally speaking, it's not your business. Just because you think that's a wonderful thing doesn't mean everybody else has to go along with it.
As far as your kids learning about it, your 8-year-old is going to start hearing it at school pretty soon anyway, if he hasn't already. That info is inevitably going to trickle down to the others.
Personally, I think you're overreacting to this episode, but it sounds like you may have other reasons not to like him. If so, go with it and find ways to avoid mingling with them.
2006-12-07 05:01:04 · answer #11 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋