How is it snotty to send your child to private school or worry about their education?

Question

I asked a question about private school. I wondered what was best for my children's education with the decline of quality in public schools. Someone emailed me saying it was snotty to even think about sending my son to private school. I was so shocked. I would be giving up an awful lot of money just to do that for the quality of my children's education.

Do have preconceived thoughts about kids that go to private school?

Why would someone automatically assume the only parents who are interested in private school are wealthy?

I never knew there was a stereotype for kids who went to private school. Can someone please explain what the problem is?

What's wrong with being concerned about education for your children?

My husband is an Airman in the Air Force. We don't have much money but really would like to find a private school that will give our children the best education out there. Of course we'd research beforehand making sure it certainly is better then the public school in the area we were at.

I honestly do not have the money to send my kids to private schools but would be willing to sacrifice for them. How is that at all snotty?

Answer 1

I don't think it is snotty. Unfortunately in education we pay more to the coaches sometimes than we do to the teachers. Wih a private education you are saying to the state and feds, thanks but I got it.

Our kids will be going to Catholic schools when they start kindergarten. I don't think this is snotty, but smart. The best schools aroud here are charter, private or alternative. The public schools are starting to file Title I all the time, and with No Child Left Behind pushing the controls we feel that it is in our children's best interest to go private.

Congrats on making a wise choice and don't let anyone tell you how to raise your kid in this arena. You are their parent and should be making those choices for them.

I Hope This Helps,
Amy

Answer 2

It's tradition in my family to become either a nurse or a teacher...and even the teacher's agree the schools are going downhill. I don't think it's snotty at all to worry that your child isn't getting a good enough education...and then take steps to make sure they are. I think it's good parenting. Personally I know that my family probably won't have the money for private schools and even if we did we wouldn't enroll our daughter there as they are only religiously affiliated ones in our area. But there's nothing snotty about wanting your child to have the best education you can afford to get them. And state testing doesn't accurately show the education being provided to children...it just shows that they can memorize what's going to be on a test and know how to take standardized tests. Additionally we ARE leaving children behind all the time there are just loopholes to make it so they don't count in the government statistics.

PS There are spoiled rich kids everywhere not just at private schools.

Answer 3

I went to a private school for 3 years and then went to public school. You get away with alot more in public school let me tell you. The only reason why I switched is because my parents could not afford it anymore. If you can afford to send your son to a private school then I would. You just gotta know that your still going to find the same things in private school as in public school. Theres still going to be the fighting and the drugs (once he gets older that is) There is nothing wrong with wanting the best education for your child. And just because you send your child to private school does not mean that your weathly or anything. If your not sure on which you want to send your child you can always research the private school your thinking of and the public school in your area. Find out what its ranked in the country and the class sizes and so on. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, it is seen as snotty because you have to pay (usually a lot of money) to send your kids there so obviously, people with little or no money won't be attending that school. And contrary to popular belief, private schools are not necessarily better education-wise since they are not subjected to the same rigorous state tests that public schools are. Personally, I'd only send my children to private school if we lived in a bad neighborhood and I was concerned about my child's safety.

Answer 5

I don't Think you are snotty for wanting to send your kids to private school. Did you ever attend a private school? Be careful, I went to a Christian school through 8th grade and when I was then forced into public school, I didn't know what was going on. Kids in private school tend to be really sheltered and not know how to react to regular kids. It took me years after school to catch up socially. The education in a private school is way ahead of public, for example we were doing algebra and geometry in the 4th grade. I caught up with it in public school in 10th and 11th. However, socially I was so far behind that I couldn't relate to anyone all the way through high school. I think that if you participate in your child's education, and make sure they are learning and striving to reach their potential your kids can get a good education in the public school and not grow up to feel like an outcast. Your kids will have to eventually enter general society, whether it is in school, college, or the work place. Social life is just as important as education.

Answer 6

A lot of people who think it is snotty either have no concern for their childs education or not the funds to send them there.
As a child I went to both private and public schools. After going to public school after private school, a lot of kids thought I was a rich snob, which was certainly not the case. My family had the money to send me there, and cared about my education.
I wouldn't worry about what people say. As long as you are doing the best for your children, that is all that matters!

Answer 7

Snotty is the assumption that a private school is better than public schools.

Kids expelled out of public schools often have to go to a private school.

Wealthier kids that go there tend to have attitudes about being privaleged and entitled to things. And the assumption is that if you can afford to send them to private school then the kids expect you to buy them the Mercedes for their 16th, and the designer clothes for parties and hold big birthday parties at the country club and pay for expensive spring break trips to Mexico. After all they're just as good as the other kids in the school, at least that's what you've been telling them, right?

The students tend look down on those on scholarship and from lower income homes. They also look down on parents and adults. The rules don't apply to them. I live near three major private schools. Sorry, I don't like kids in uniforms flipping me off when they run a stop sign and wonder why I honk at them. I've turned them into the police many times, as well as sent letters of complaint to the principals of the school. "We'll discuss it in our next ethics class."

Private schools are not necessarily required to be acredited and to meet the state's standards. (Check your state's regulations to find out.) Teachers may not even be required to be certified. Salaries and benefits are usually not that competitive, so you end up with the teachers that the public school system wouldn't take.

My kids go to public school. Of course it is ranked in the top ten High Schools in the country by US News and World Report. Entry is through a lottery system and it does not cost anything, other than providing your own transportation.

And kids have to grow up to work and deal with real society, not a sheltered special environment to protect them. A public school offers them more time to learn from their mistakes and become well balanced and able to work with people from diverse backgrounds, just like in the real world.

Answer 8

I watched hero's and the Blondie chick hardly had any money and she sent her child to private school. If I had the money I would do it in a heart beat. Public schools in my area aren't the best and the teachers try to fit with the popular kids and outcast the non popular kids. So when a teacher is getting paid more to educate I think that they want to do better. I think it is wrong to brag about private school, which you are not doing, but my sister in law told me that her friends are sending their 4 children to private school, and in the back of my mind I'm thinking, yeah right. This woman couldn't even afford to pay for a serpentine belt 3 months ago, how is she going to pay for 4 kids in private school. My sister in law tells me that her friends are doing so great and they are making 8,000 a month and they are going to retire. Here i am thinking my husband makes 4,500 a month, we have a car note and a mortgage. We save 1,500 or more, we have two children. What a crock of sh*t. My dad makes 10,000 a month for being a independent truck driver with his own truck and trailer, but heck he's lucky if he gets 5,000 back, from all the maintance on it. He isn't retiring anytime soon. I should post something like that. LOL.

Answer 9

I went to a Private School from the age of 4 and I would not consider it snotty at all, I have friends in both private and state schools and got decent GCSE and A-Level results.
Its all down to the child, private schools arent miracles and if the child is not bright then private school wont make all that much difference but they tend to get rid of children that are too disruptive so your child can get his head down and work. I have nothing against state schools but they are generally over-run with children so the teacher/pupil ratio is not as favourable.
Ultimately its your choice, you pay the fees and its your childs happiness, my parents were slated for sending me to my school but gradually more of their friends started sending their children there also so do not listen to anyone but yourself on that matter.
Good luck

Answer 10

that is not snotty at all! in fact, my hubby (who is also in the military) and i plan on doing whatever we have to, to send our daughter to a private school. the quality of education at a private school is much better than that at a public school and we want the best for her. no matter what we have to give up for it.