Parenting - November 2006

I make 42,000 a year and I live in Hawaii which is very expensive. I have 4 other people living in my household and 3 of them are children. I work 60 hours a week and I have no time for anything. I am always barely making it every month. How do you people survive and taking care of 3 children?? There are soo many times I just want to quit.

2006-11-11 13:13:38 · 6 answers · asked by Go For Broke 3

I.E ,2-3 months paid leave, Flex time, Being able to leave early to take Johnny to soccer or just not come in because Suzy has a cold.These benifits take away from profits and so others pay and leave the rest of us to pick up the slack left behind. Having children is an expensive *time consuming hobby* I don't think should be "Others" responsibilities.Your thoughts?

2006-11-11 12:12:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you consider diapering for a long road trip? If so, how would you explain it to the kids (They aren't teens yet). It helps save on time, and all the extra stops that would have to be made?

I remember we did this back in the 80's when our family went on long road trips.

I'm asking because we're going to be driving through really rural parts of New Mexico, Texas, and Arizona and some parts don't have a rest stop for over an hour and a half.

Is diapering a good idea? They wet sometimes, though it's maybe once every few monthes, if that. Also if they have to make poo, it could help?

2006-11-11 11:31:09 · 6 answers · asked by Kristy 1

You are humming the music from thier toys
YOu reach into your coat pocket and find a little hat (used to be plastic bags for your dog...)

any additions?

2006-11-11 11:24:14 · 19 answers · asked by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3

I love my niece and nephew but they are some very bad kids. They come over my house and swing from the furniture. They break all the windows and dishes in the house every time they visit. Sometimes my nephew even urinates on our dining room table just to see the "waterfalls", I love them but I do not know what to do about their behavior. I try spanking them but everytime I do this they just wind up beating me up to a bloody pulp with their homemade whips and chains. Is ther anyting that I can do to stop their behavior??

2006-11-11 11:22:35 · 15 answers · asked by flushing06 2

How would it affect his personality? I mean unreasonable things like when he throws tantrums, cries for unknown reasons (not the nappy, not hungry, not hot, not cold, etc.), or when he falls down by himself. I know the latter may be a bit cruel, but I'm just curious, you know. Not being a parent yet... By the way, we're talking about children aged 2 and above, not babies. Toddlers, I guess. Psychologists' and paediatricians' views are welcome.

2006-11-11 11:12:17 · 21 answers · asked by espers_cypher 2

My son is a high school senior and last year he was just ur normal teenager but since his senior year has started he has not been going to school, we have caught him smoking, we have taken his cellphone but whatever we say to him he just says he doesnt care and we truly dont know what to do does any1 have any tips on how to deal with this, thanx for any help in advance

2006-11-11 11:11:41 · 19 answers · asked by tironsi84 1

There just never seems to be anytime for my marriage. Kids go to bed at 9 and dont actually get to sleep till almost midnight. By the time kids are sleep i am so tired i just want to go to sleep. I am told once you have kids there is no private time for parents. Why should we have to put all whole lifes on hold for our children? Why is it absolutly everything we don has to be about our children? Parents need parent time to be just themselfs.

2006-11-11 10:46:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am always stuck in the middle between my husband and children. My husband is a very controlling man. When he wants somthing done he wants it done now. He gets yelling a screaming and always the kids run to me.He likes things his way or the highway. He is always saying go to mommy shell give you what you want she always does. It dont help when his sister is always saying that we let the kids do what they want. I do not believe in hitting my children but his sister is forever saying theres nothing wrong with a slap on the ***. Weve tried that it dont work. As my oldest son gets older their fights are more like brother fights then parent and child. I feel like my husband is very childish. My oldest son wouldnt clean his room so my husband picked everything up off the floor and threw it in the garbage. Of course my sond yugioh cards where part of that clean up and that started a fight. Then i had my parents phoning me and says what right does he have to throw my oldest sons cards out.

2006-11-11 10:43:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am writing a paper for school and need peoples opinion on what the differences of raising kids in the 70's and now.

2006-11-11 10:21:23 · 11 answers · asked by Shirleen T 1

I soon will seperate from my hubby. I am currently thinking that because of my limited budget I will only be able to afford a one bedroom apartment. How can I give us both privacy and comfort when it comes to the living arrangement. Especially the bedroom arrangement...single bed or double bed? loft bunks ?

2006-11-11 10:03:21 · 17 answers · asked by Karina 2

My son says its more cool to wear boxers, but his father and brother both wear Hanes white briefs. Boxers are a lot more expensive--I don't want him to feel uncomfortable--what should i do?

2006-11-11 08:05:33 · 26 answers · asked by hawaiisurferw1234 1

Why is it that we as a society put more effort into training people to drive cars than we do into teaching parents how to parent? I know we have voluntary classes, but nothing manditory. Cars are deadly - but parents can be too, when they are abusive or neglegent. So what are we? Are we too full of pride to believe that some extra learning to understand what goes into being a decent parent could be a good thing? What do you think?

2006-11-11 08:02:13 · 5 answers · asked by puzzleraspie 3

he's not even born yet, but im still worried. i dont want him to join the boy scouts n all that crap, i think its really stupid. but what if he wants to? should i tell him from the day he's born that theyre evil n blood thirsty killers?

2006-11-11 08:01:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

When it comes to naming your kids, is it best to tell the names you have picked out to family and friends or to keep them to yourselves?

2006-11-11 07:52:14 · 12 answers · asked by Yeah It's Me M 1

in this 3 years we had a child who is now 2. I have been a stay at home mama since his birth and his dad has worked out of town (trades). We are now fighting about custody...how does this even work? btw we live in canada.
I am ready to walk to walk out with my child, but he is telling me to sign my rights over and get out and leave the child with him.
Do I have the right to take our child until a judge decides custody?
He is saying I am entitled to nothing at all, no belongings,money or our child.
He makes well over six figures yearly and tells me I wont get custody because I dont work...(due to him being very controlling during our relationship)...I want out, but not without my child and it seems really unfair for me to stay in this only for my child, like livin a lie. What do I do...any advice is appreciated.

2006-11-11 07:06:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 16.I live with my 3-year-old daughter S. and I'm pregnant in 6th month.S's father doesn't want to hear about us(and so we don't) and the baby I'm pregnant with doesn't have a father(we didn't know each other).I work on the internet,which helps me continue my studies and earn enough money to run the family.I'm writing here because I need someone who I can talk to,someone to share with.I don't have reliable friends and I just need someone who understands what it is like to live like that.My email is azsymthebest@yahoo.com May someone who can give me any advice on parenting write me?

2006-11-11 07:06:38 · 4 answers · asked by Kateline F 1

What do you think about the parents on here who have a picture of their kid(s) instead of an avatar?

2006-11-11 07:06:12 · 14 answers · asked by Yeah It's Me M 1

any reasons? specific countries?

2006-11-11 06:01:59 · 14 answers · asked by 2 days after my B day :) 2

How many hours does a seven (7) year old need?

2006-11-11 05:55:25 · 8 answers · asked by Vencio 2

my daughter is 19 and i love her but im getting to the point when i look at her now in rage. because she has become so rebellious toward me, im a single parent and has raise her on mine own since she was 5.well lastnight i got up at 1;30am to do lundry. i was up all night. she slept on a cot in the living room never dawn on me that she would'nt be there. so i waited until 7am to wake her up for work. and i kept calling her. and she never answer, so i went over there to the cot and she had the bed made up like she was in it.. i was blow away. when she wasn't there. she came walking in the house at 8am.because i rang her cell phone seem like a thousand time . then she knew she was busted.to get her self out of hot water. she point finger. im so overwelm with her.as a parent i can be a little protective at time. but that because i care what happens to her,she hang around thugs alot. that teach her bad habits.and she is nineteen but not experience. have shelter her from the cold world,

2006-11-11 05:50:02 · 6 answers · asked by dark44chocolate 1

I have a 4 year old that will not sleep in her own room.It has came to the point where i had to put her toddler bed up in my room, cause she would come inand lay i my floor and gp tp sleep. She will not get in the bed with me so i guess that's a good thing. but she is 4 and if i plan on having a baby in the near future i want her to sleep in her room, theres no way a crib an a toddler bed are going to fit in my room. she can go to sleep in my room and then i can pick her up and put her in her room, when i wake up in hte morning there she is in my room. WHAT CAN I DO!!!! do you think that it has to do with being breastfed. because i breastfed her for 3 months when she was first born??? H E L P ............

2006-11-11 05:44:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I defiantly know that this isn't right, nor do I approve of it. However, I am kind of between a rock and a hard place right now. My cousin who is a mother of three, decided three years ago when her daughter was two to start spanking with this pvc pipe, I don't think that it was so much her idea it was her husbands who is a total control freak, anyways, she constantly does this, when I am over there it just breaks my heart to watch her do this, and how the kids just scream and call out my name for me to come and "rescue" them so to speak.
My Mom and Dad Spanked us kids too, however these days you just don't do that, not with all of the laws, expecally with this PVC, I have told her I don't like it, in fact I pretty much stormed out one day d/t the fact that I hate the way they raise there kids. I am a mandated reporter, I just don't know if I should get involved being that I am her cousin, and we are very close. I just care so much for the kids....I could really use your opinions.

2006-11-11 05:34:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-11 04:58:26 · 16 answers · asked by justwondering 1

My son who is 8 has known his father always sleeps naked and insists on doing the same. Is this something I should encourage or not? If he does this how can it be done if he is in his pajamas always after bath at night?

2006-11-11 04:52:59 · 8 answers · asked by prelawkate 2

I'm 17 and I study in high-school.My daughter R. is 3 years old.Her father is unknown.We live with my mother(I don't have any other relatives).My mother works all day and I go to school.We don't send R. to kindergarten because I prefer to spend more time with her.But recently she is obstinate and her behavior is driving me mad.She is probably bored being alone at home for 6 hours while I'm at school but that doesn't mean she has to behave like that.She doesn't listen to me.I punish her,spank her,I do anything and she still doesn't listen.Any ideas how to make her listen to me?

2006-11-11 04:26:07 · 7 answers · asked by Natalie D 1

i've have talk to him about it but he still do it in the classroom , how or what can i do to stop him doing it ?

2006-11-11 03:58:52 · 11 answers · asked by Dayan 4

2006-11-11 03:17:10 · 16 answers · asked by shepsterno1 1

Ever since my son has turned 15 he has really starting to rebel. Lieing, repeatly getting F's on report cards, back talking. Took my vechicle without permission. Just really pushing his limit with me. I know this is what alot of teens go through. As a parent I am very concerned with the road he is heading down. Recently he has told me he wants to drop out of school and there is nothing I can do about it. I so badly want him to at least finish High School, at the very least. In Missouri is it legal for me to revoke his license at anytime if I feel fit.....unitl he turns 18?

2006-11-11 02:36:57 · 13 answers · asked by L J 1

There are multiple reasons why a person may be a single parent (male or female) yet politicians/commentators/media etc all perpetuate the story that single mothers are the cause of many societal problems (yet as some studies suggest it may be the accompanying phenomena such as low income which can lead to the detrimental behaviour in question not always the single parent household itself..) such as delinquency.

As a single parent it irks me no end that as a good, responsible mother the notion is forwarded that somehow my family is disfunctional because there is no male in it.

FTR like most single parents, single parenthood is not a choice in so far as if the option of having a loving, supportive partner was available ofcourse that would be preferable.

Yet raising a child alone, whilst being rewarding is very challenging and so to face this additional prejudice is unfair in many cases.

At the same time, absent fathers never make the headlines even when abandon their children

2006-11-11 01:38:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous