single mom can share a room with seven yr daughter?

Question

I soon will seperate from my hubby. I am currently thinking that because of my limited budget I will only be able to afford a one bedroom apartment. How can I give us both privacy and comfort when it comes to the living arrangement. Especially the bedroom arrangement...single bed or double bed? loft bunks ?

Answer 1

If you are very close to your daughter, a double bed might be the answer. However, if she's becoming more independent (usually around nine or ten years of age), she'll want her own space. If that is the case, a dressing screen can be useful in creating a bit of privacy. You might get bunk beds and give her the top bunk- she'll love it!

Answer 2

You could get a single bed for her and a double bed for you (or maybe a day bed for her, if she likes them).

Hang a fun-colored curtain down the middle of the room (there are removable hooks you could use for this in the hardware section of Wal-Mart). That is cheaper than a room divider. To make it seem more like a real wall, set your dressers or some other furniture back-to-back on either side of it.

If you don't want to share a room, you could section off part of the living room the same way. Hang a curtain and set something against it, like your sofa, to make it look more like a real wall. The extra 'bedroom' could be on the other side.

I wouldn't use bunk beds because they are not private at all. Plus who gets the top bunk? You would be climbing over each other to get to bed. I would feel like a seven-year-old myself if I slept in a bunk bed, and if you're sharing a room anyway I wouldn't do anything to make myself feel less of an adult. You need to keep up your self-esteem while you're going through this separation.

Answer 3

I shared a room with my mom from age 7 - 10. It was after she and my dad were seperated and we had a 3 bedroom place with 5 people. We shared a queen size bed and it was fine. After a while, though, I started wanting my own space and then I got my brothers old room when he joined the army.

Answer 4

I think you should keep your stuff in a closet if at all possible and you should sleep on the couch. Your daughter is seven and i know when i was seven i always had my friends over from the neighborhood to play barbies and you have to think about your daughters feeling...would she want to invite her friends over to play in her room that the two of you share. I know you are going through a ruff time but your daughters happiness and privacy should come before you!

Answer 5

You need to check with your local police department or DCF, some states have laws where once a child is a certain age they may not sleep in the same room as an adult.

Where I live a child over 5 may not share a room with an adult

Answer 6

If you have enough room, how about a single or double bed, and a futon so you can use it as a couch during the day.

Or a futon in the living room, or daybed that you can use while your daughter has the bedroom.

Answer 7

It's going to be a tough time for your daughter, so it might be comforting for her to have you close. I'd recommend two twin beds -- you can push them together or use them apart. If she hates it, someone can sleep in the living room.

It's perfectly OK -- in fact, my six year old still sleeps with my husband and me -- and with guests, my 10 year old is temporarily back in the family bed.

Answer 8

get 2 single beds and buy one of those room dividers. or, if the room is too small to have 2 single bed's, give her the bedroom, keep your stuff in there but sleep on the couch (get a sofa-bed thingy).

Answer 9

I would check with your local Department of children services, first. Their are laws in most counties and states that prevent room sharing. Including sibilings sharing rooms. It will also protect you, just incase your husband tries to find anything against you for court, later on.

Answer 10

bedroom for child, pull out bed sofa for mom..