Ever since my son has turned 15 he has really starting to rebel. Lieing, repeatly getting F's on report cards, back talking. Took my vechicle without permission. Just really pushing his limit with me. I know this is what alot of teens go through. As a parent I am very concerned with the road he is heading down. Recently he has told me he wants to drop out of school and there is nothing I can do about it. I so badly want him to at least finish High School, at the very least. In Missouri is it legal for me to revoke his license at anytime if I feel fit.....unitl he turns 18?
2006-11-11 02:36:57 · 13 answers · asked by L J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, you can have his license revoked.
http://www.dor.mo.gov/mvdl/drivers/forms/4811.pdf
2006-11-11 03:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally you can't revoke his license. As a parent you are within your "rights" to take his car keys. As a parent you can ground him and remove other privileges. As a
parent you have the right to haul his back pockets to the
nearest counselor for help. You can continue to fight your
teen or you can outsmart him. Sit down with him and
have a little reality chat with him. Show him what life
without a high school diploma will get him. Have him
read the rooms for rent ads in the paper. Do some figuring on minimum wage, taxes, costs involved with
living on his own. Then tell him if he really wants to drop out then he has so many weeks to : A. find a job
B: find a place to live C: get his own car insurance
because he'll be on his own after a set date. Then stand
your ground and carry it through. After all is said leave him to his own thoughts. Good luck.
2006-11-11 02:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he has been going through this "stage" for quite some time...
Things like this just don't develope over night, and I am betting that he even "pressured" you into letting him get his drivers license too!
He sounds like a spoiled brat and needs counceling, and you should also get some counceling for being an "enabler"...
You MADE him this way, and enabled him to get this far in his tirades...
Apparently when you "now" try to clamp down on him, he is just going to rebel because he is already "used" to getting away with this type of tantrums...
First tell him he is no longer permitted to drive the car, and if he refuses to comply, tell him that you will have it reported STOLEN and he will go to jail...(it is your right as an owner to let whom ever it is to drive, only with your permission). He WILL go to jail! And, if your smart, you will let him "sit there" until he starts to come to his senses... (A few days in jail wont hurt him, though, I pray that he won't come to too much harm, but if he does, then he will learn a valuable lesson from it). Talk to your local law official and see if they can straighten him out, since you and your husband are not able to... Sometimes the "threat" is enough, and maybe they will even take him down to the local jail and "show him around"...make him aquainted to what he is asking to get into so hard...
Taking priveledges away from him is a good start, because if he "doesnt earn" them, he is not entitled to them at all! Nothing is a "given" in this World, respect must be earned, and its a two way street.. Now, make sure that your on the right Path, and set him on the same one...If not, then you may find him making a U-turn and going straight to jail for a very long time...
(Also, check his room for drugs, if there is a sudden behavioural change...then it maybe attributed to that).
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-11-11 02:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally no. You don't have any legal grounds to take it away but as a parent yes. Does he have his own car? If he is driving a car that is not in his name you have the right to not allow him to drive it. If he takes it you can take legal action and have him arrested for stealing the car. You could also try to get his license suspended and cite that you fear he is a danger on the road but other than that you just got to hang on until he gets out of this phase. Also I don't know about Missouri but in Minnesota you can't drop out of school until age 18.
2006-11-11 02:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give him his drivers' license - the state did. Only they can revoke it. However, you can go down to motor vehicles and ask them to do that.
Lock up your car keys and any other valuables (like cash and jewlerey)
Don't let the kid drop out of school. Just because he says there's nothing you can do about it doesn't mean it's true.
He's testing his limits with you. I'd recommend counseling for him and possibly the rest of the family.
You need to set up consequenses for his bad grades and bad behavior. And better it come from you than from the court system - they are much less forgiving.
best of luck to you
2006-11-11 02:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can at anytime revoke is priveledge to drive your vehicle... If he takes it without permission report it stolen by your son... If he decided to drop out of school let him know in no uncertain terms that means he will be moving out of your house...
Your son obviously feels he controls the house and can therefore dictate the rules.. I.e. taking your vehicle without permission, telling you he wants to drop out of school and there is nothing you can do about it... It time to show him exactly who is in charge of the house...
If he doesnt get good grade (C's or above) he doesnt get privledges (telephone, television, access to the outside world outside of school, driving, etc.) While every parent wants thier child to complete HighSchoo; at ;east, it is ultimately the childs responsibility to learn the information provided at the school and get the grades that will enable them to graduate (F's won't cut it)...
When you lay down the law and stick to it he may very well threaten to move out... When he does tell him "Son I love you, but these are the rules of the house, abide by them or don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you."
A 16 his options of vehicle are fairly limited... Usually just the parents vehicle... It doesn't matter if he has a drivers lisence if he doesnt have permission to drive your vehicle and you are willing to back up your "No" with a call to the police should he steal your car... You have as good as revoked his lisence...
Lay down the law and stand firm don't allow him to manipulate you with threats of dropping out of school etc.
2006-11-11 03:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't drop out of school legally. If he does, report him to the truancy officer. As far as the license, you need to call the DMV and ask. If you legally can't do it, then revoke his driving privileges.
2006-11-11 02:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what good it will do you. He is already rebelling against you. Taking his license away isn't going to matter much. You really need to open up communication with him. I really don't know what else you can do. Just hope he matures soon and sees he really needs and education.
2006-11-11 02:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, and I would definitley do that. Go down to the DPS office and talk to them about it. Tell them the situation and see what they say. Otherwise, just take the car keys away from him. Hide them somewhere he will never find them.
2006-11-11 02:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u can take away or give him whatever u want until he turns 18 thats your job as a parent dont let anyone tell you different!
2006-11-11 02:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by lita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋