do you have any sugestions on how to get a 4 yr.old to sleep in her on room...?

Question

I have a 4 year old that will not sleep in her own room.It has came to the point where i had to put her toddler bed up in my room, cause she would come inand lay i my floor and gp tp sleep. She will not get in the bed with me so i guess that's a good thing. but she is 4 and if i plan on having a baby in the near future i want her to sleep in her room, theres no way a crib an a toddler bed are going to fit in my room. she can go to sleep in my room and then i can pick her up and put her in her room, when i wake up in hte morning there she is in my room. WHAT CAN I DO!!!! do you think that it has to do with being breastfed. because i breastfed her for 3 months when she was first born??? H E L P ............

Answer 1

I would start by telling her everyday that she is a big girl. go on a special trip to wal mart for her and let her pick out a pretty night lite that whe loves. then use that to brife her to sleep in her own room. she can only use that light if she stays in her own room in her own bed. This worked for my daughter. then once she is sound sleep and before you go to bed turn it off. and maybe if she sleeps in her own room for a whole week give her a little allowance so she can go to the dollar store or something. My daughter loves money even if it is a penny...have fun while doing it all, dont make it to stressful though or she will pick up on it

Answer 2

First of all this could have been prevented a long time ago. If you co-slept with her as a baby that probably started the problem. Moving her toddler bed into your room didn't help either. You may just have to close your door and lock it at night and she may cry and scream for a few nights, but it needs to be done if you plan on having more kids. I know it sounds harsh, but she's 4 years old now. Maybe try a rewards chart for every night she sleeps in her own room if you want a less drastic approach. After so many days of sleeping in her own room she gets a certificate that you made for her that she's a big girl for sleeping in her big girl room and maybe a treat.

Answer 3

It sounds like she does not feel comfortable in her room. Do you have a light on at night? If yes maybe the shadows make her feel uncomfortable. If you have anybody near you with info on feng sui then ask them about changing the furniture. You can also try making a corner full with pillows and things she likes, help make it into the special corner, where she can feel good and relaxe. Tell her she need a girl corner where she can be alone and just daydream. Maybe you will find her there instead of the floor in your room. Also arrange the furniture different, with her help of cource. Ask her if she had any ideas of making her room more homy. Get her to look at the room as a job well done mostly by herself. Make her feel pride in her room. Invite 1 or 2 other 4 year old for a sleep over, and decorate with her to a theme, like disney or being outside camping. I hope it helps

Answer 4

be persistant, no matter how hard it can be...all parents have gone threw this. let her know that it is THE RULE...she must sleep in her own room. Now saying that....make sure you spend quality time with her at bed time. She should go to bed with a faverite stuffed animal oe doll....have a bed time story...and a dim night light. One thing I always did with my kids is let them *blow out the light* when I left the room. Most have a switch by the door...and I would always tell the kids to blow out the light...they did and as they blew, i would turn down the switch. My kids remember that ritual fondly. If your child gets up and attempts to sleep elsewhere, be firm...but not load, stay calm, move her back to her bed. Let her know that once she shows you that she is a big girl, you have a surprise for her. On the day that she goes to bed and stays with no fuss, plan an immeadiate shopping trip to purchase a new set of sheets of her own choice. Positive encouragment is the key. Drama will just feed the stress and negative attention.

Answer 5

Persistence...I'm afraid.

You need to reward the good behaviour, i.e Sleeping in her own room, and to a certain extent ignore the bad behaviour. It might be ideal to discover why she is doing this (I wouldn't worry, it's nothing to do with breastfeeding,) but it could just be because she loves your company so much!
This may require you to be extra vigilant for a week or two, but it will work in the long run. Make sure you stick to the same routine every night when putting her to bed, she needs to know that it is her room and it's there for HER to sleep in. In much the same way she needs to understand that your room is for YOU to sleep in. Every time she enters your room in the night, very calmly and without eye contact or chat, return her to her bed.

Discuss the incident with her in the morning. Eventually she'll get there and you'll get a good night to yourself!!

Answer 6

Rewards!!! Rewards!!! Rewards!!! Put stickers on a calender for every night that she sleeps in her own room! Do a reward program that every 10 days she sleeps in her own room she gets a toy (has worked for me in the past)...There is so much little girls want these days including little mermaid and polly pockets that Im sure she'll be excited to go to walmart and pick something out on her very own..Dont give her options and what to pick, let it be something she really wants and then she'll work toward it...half the time they pick the cheaper thing anyways..Im sure this will work! Good luck

Answer 7

I am having the same problem w/ my 4 yr old son too I am trying the reward system right now if he stays in his room 4 out of 7 nights( I have a chart) then he gets to do somethibg special It has helped this week

Answer 8

Take her shopping to decorate her room. You don't have to spend much, maybe some border for the wallls, a toy hamper, and some new covers fro her bed. Usually if a child gets to decorate his/her room they will want to sleep in it at night. Although her problem maybe that she doesn't want to be alone, she may be scared of the dark. A night light might be the answer there.

Best wishes.

Answer 9

You're just going to have to remember who the parent is and who the 4 yr. old is.

First thing would be to put her bed back in her own room.

Second, every night put her in her bed and if she gets up then put her right back in it. Do that every time and be persistant. If you give into her she'll never learn how to sleep on her own. Put her back in her bed each time and eventually she'll either tire herself out or give up. Trust me, it works.

Answer 10

First, it has nothing to do with you breastfeeding her. Now, how long has she been doing this? Moving her bed into your room only solidified this behavior. She is certainly old enough to sleep in her own room. Close your door and keep making her sleep in her own room.