in this 3 years we had a child who is now 2. I have been a stay at home mama since his birth and his dad has worked out of town (trades). We are now fighting about custody...how does this even work? btw we live in canada.
I am ready to walk to walk out with my child, but he is telling me to sign my rights over and get out and leave the child with him.
Do I have the right to take our child until a judge decides custody?
He is saying I am entitled to nothing at all, no belongings,money or our child.
He makes well over six figures yearly and tells me I wont get custody because I dont work...(due to him being very controlling during our relationship)...I want out, but not without my child and it seems really unfair for me to stay in this only for my child, like livin a lie. What do I do...any advice is appreciated.
2006-11-11 07:06:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is one of those times that you need a lawyer.
2006-11-11 07:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have the right to take your child until a custody order is in place . One thing to do would be go to a women's crisis center for advice.
by the way if you can substantiate that you have lived together for the last 3 years you are considered common law in Canada and actually do have the legal right to half of all assets , that includes money in the bank, belongings such as furniture ( community property) investments even part of his pension contributions. You are also provided you receive custody entitled to child support. Also because you were not allowed to work while you were with him you are entitled to alimony (spousal support) over a period of time in which to gain training for employment. You will be able to get information about lawyers etc from a woman's shelter.
( I'm Canadian as well)
2006-11-14 10:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT leave your child with him! The court can view that as abandonment if you do. He is just playing mind games with you. You keep the child until the court says otherwise. You have every right to do so. And you ARE entitled to money, maybe not belongings, but child support for sure. He will have to pay you well if he makes a good income like you described. Don't let him fill your head with things that aren't true. You gave birth to your child. You are his mother, and being a mother comes with rights. I hope all goes well. Stay strong, and do everything in your power to keep your child in your custody. After all, he's with you all day every day. It would be detrimental for him to not have that anymore. Good luck to you!
2006-11-11 09:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man.. Ok here it goes..I have a little girl i to was a stay at home mom my bf and i were together for 2 1/2 years..so i understand but I have the baby i have custody..YES walk out and take the baby with you..you may not be entitled to other stuff in the house but the judge will deside that go find someone to care for your child while you look for a job...then i guess he cant say much right? anyways I wish you the best of luck just keep a smile on your face no matter what! for the baby! you want to get through this without stressing him..cause they do feed off our stress...well GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-11 07:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how it works in canada, but i do know that mothers have rights too. He's just BSing you to make you give up your rights.
Dont do that to your child.
Get a lawyer, or go to the social services office and plead your case. In most countries someone will have to represent you. IN the mean time, get a job. Dont leave your child with your boyfriend, after three days in most countries its considered gaurdianship.
Your boyfriend must pay you child support, and you can survive quite nice without him. I would fight tooth and nail to keep your parental rights. NO child needs to be raised by a dillhole.
2006-11-11 07:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the states in most case the child is left in the home until court decides. meaning which ever parent does not leave gets to stay with the children. although some couples will decided that okay mom can leave and take the children. best thing to do is get a lawyer right away, don't sign anything your ex wants you to sign and don't move out of your home with your child. if ex wants out let him leave...this tends to look better in court.
2006-11-11 07:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent legally married, then you have no rights with what it has to do with money and belongings. However, you have rights with your child. I suggest that you get a job, get a lawyer and talk to him about child custody before he does something first.
2006-11-11 07:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have been living together for at least a year in Canada you are married, with all the same rights as any married couple. Go see legal aid, don't leave your child with your boyfriend, good luck.
2006-11-11 09:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a judge will not take the child from their mother unless he finds you unfit. So what he make six figures that doen't make him a better parent, and they can make him pay you child support.
2006-11-11 07:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another reason to wait until you are married and educated before you have kids...
Get a lawyer.
2006-11-11 07:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋