Parenting - September 2006

Before my husband and I were married, we decided that if we had children together, I would stay home to care for them. This is my second marriage, I have one child from my first marriage. I had terrible daycare experiences with my first, and I would rather not have more kids, than to put them in one of those places. We just had a baby, and I had been staying home, but now my husband decides, he doesn't want me spending money on my older child. He actually cursed me out in public for buying school supplies for my oldest. He makes more than enough money, (he's a software developer), we don't struggle to pay bills, we can actually afford for me not to work. Then he tells me his parents don't really approve of me staying home either, so I need to go back to work.

I feel as though he tricked me into having this new baby, with the promise that I could take care of him myself, and now that he's here and I have no choice, back to work for me. I've since refused to have any more children.

2006-09-10 02:59:24 · 20 answers · asked by wifey996 1

2006-09-10 00:00:00 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1

2006-09-09 22:14:58 · 40 answers · asked by kenneth o 1

Before I had my son, I took a lot of pride in my appearance. My hair and makeup were always done, and I looked really good. I still take good care of myself, and usually dress well, fix my makeup, but lately I don't have a lot of time to fuss with my hair. I'll just tie it back in a scrunchi a lot of the time, and every once in a while, I'll give myself the full treatment like I used to. Here's the problem; I just looked in the mirror a little while ago, and I look like, well............MY MOTHER!!!! It's like all of a sudden, the Mommy Fairy just tapped me on the shoulder, and said, "HI, I'm here!!!!" Why does this mom-look just sneak up on you all of a sudden, and why does it have to be so darn scary?

2006-09-09 21:04:58 · 19 answers · asked by .......... 3

Compared to children from other cultures?

2006-09-09 21:00:52 · 22 answers · asked by WhiteHat 6

e.g Belt, wooden spoon, backhand, smacking?

I would like some examples similar to the above so I can discipline my child.

2006-09-09 20:53:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-09 20:30:45 · 12 answers · asked by motherof3 1

My fiance and I have 2 daughters. We haven't had a lot of money to spend on our daughters' only christmases so far. This year I went back to work so we will have a lot of extra money to spend. I feel kind of guilty because my oldest didn't get much her first 2 christmases and my youngest didn't get much last year (they're 28 months and 16 months). I want to make this christmas extra special for them. What do you think is too much to spend on christmas? We plan for *Santa* to bring them toys, clothes, and new shoes.

2006-09-09 19:56:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok here is my problem...my step mother in law is pregnant with twins...they will be my daughter's(her step grand daughter) aunt and uncle but my daughter is 18 months now...and the twins arent even born yet. how do i go about explaining all of this to her??? and when is the best age to explain this to her???

a lil back ground...my father in law is 46 and my step mother in law is 28(dont ask!!!) and he had a vasectomy done after my hubby was born. so to get his new wife prego they had to do invitro....well she is finally prego with twins...a boy and a girl...they are due in november/december.

she says that because her kids are the aunt and uncle they are gonna boss my daughter around...but knowing my daughter and her being older she isnt gonna let that happen....so what do i do if they decide to punish her cuz of that??? or is it one of those things that i will have to wait and see if it comes up and then deal with it then??? please help!!!!

2006-09-09 19:25:33 · 18 answers · asked by *His_Playgirl* 3

How long did you wait after childbirth to meet up with friends for a couple hours? I had a child 2 weeks ago and met up with friends last night and had a drink and feel completely guilty about it. My fiance encouraged me to go while he babysat, since I am always at home with our daughter and never leave the house anymore.

2006-09-09 18:42:38 · 20 answers · asked by Pondering 1

We grew up with the parents that we lived with and learned behavior patterns that (good or bad) stick with us and endure.... How do we change? Why is it so hard to become a different person than the one you are?

2006-09-09 18:27:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

How much do you pay your babysitter? I am thinking of babysitting for extra money. I am a 26 year old, married, mother of 3. My 2 oldest kids are both in school all day now and it's just me and my 22 month old at home. What is the average amount paid to babysit? I want to make sure I am not asking too much. Is $2.50-$3.00 and hour average?

2006-09-09 17:09:59 · 18 answers · asked by mommysrock 4

what do you tell your kid when it comes the time of christmas and that you dont believe in giving presents on that time of year? what do the children think of when all the other children at school are excited about recieving gifts? i dont believe in it and dont give gifts i just give a gift if i really feel like giving one like on birthdays or for no reason. what is your opinion?

2006-09-09 16:42:05 · 14 answers · asked by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3

No, I don't think he is an abuser. He is just fine, but I just don't like leaving my daughter with him or anyone else. She is 2 and I also have a 10 yrs old boy and 12 yr. old stepson, and since they are older it doesn't bother me too much to leave them with someone, but my daughter is a whole other ballgame. I refuse to leave her with my husband even if I am just going to the grocery store. She is a major mama's girl and I am afraid that she will cry while I am gone. I never allow anyone to have her in a car, except my hubby. I am afraid that they might have a wreck and the paramedics wouldn't know that was my baby or that she wouldn't make it and I wouldn't be there holding her. I really terrifies me to be away from her for very long. I have to be away from her when I go to work, but that is about it. Other than that, I am with her. I let her sleep with me at least 3-4 nights a week, just so I can be close to her, in case she needs me. I was like this when my son was little too.

2006-09-09 16:20:35 · 11 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

My husband has a 13 year old that doesn't live with us but still spends almost everyday with him. My husband is a wonderful father and takes excellent care of him (besides the fact that he baby's him). We are planning to have a child soon and I am wondering if he will have as much interest in a second child as he did with his first born. Do you think that he can make time for a new baby without neglecting the child that doesn't live with us? I just have doubts sometimes ... I don't have any children of my own.

2006-09-09 16:03:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Even when a coworker or friend wants me to go somewhere with them, or my husband wants to do something, I don't like going if I can't take my kids. Last fall I went to a convention and thought I was going to die being away from my kids for 3 days. When I think about being away from them on the weekend, considering I am away from them for about 11 hours a day during the week, I feel guilty. I think, what if something happened to them and I gave up those hours when I could have been with them, to go to the movies with a friend. I used to be a partier before I had kids so I kinda feel I had my free time to do what I wanted without them. A coworker was having a get together tonight, and I wouldn't go because kids were not invited. I see her for 9+ hours a day, so I wanted to be with my kids. Anyone else do the same? By the way, before anyone comments, they are in bed, thats why I am on here.

2006-09-09 15:59:33 · 11 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

2006-09-09 15:49:03 · 6 answers · asked by Roger B 2

2006-09-09 15:35:07 · 18 answers · asked by Angel_Anton 6

While i was out this morning for about 1 hour i came in and my 14 year old son didn't hear me I went downstars and saw him naked watching tv and looked like he was masturbating. Should I saw anything and should I let this continue?

2006-09-09 15:27:21 · 35 answers · asked by Cj678 1

I just recently had a baby, and my 13 month old (who before her sister came along, always went to bed at 8:00 without fuss). Now every time I put her to bed, she cries and cries untill I take her out of her crib. Sometimes she doesnt' even go to bed till 9:30 - 10:00. This has gone on for at least a week now.

I think it's because she sees her little sister go into my room at night, and she wants to be with us.

She is crying right now.....should I let her cry it out, or give in and let her play?

2006-09-09 14:52:18 · 13 answers · asked by AuroraBorealis 4

we believe that if they do thier chores they will get a set amount or candy/movies/toys/ etc. and if they want money they have to do extra. no "well can i have my money now or get this item now if i do this later?"

2006-09-09 14:42:08 · 28 answers · asked by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/here4you
What is it like for a child to grow up in a violent home?

Chaos: The children may never know what to expect at home. Their
parents' mood can change instantly from loving to enraged.

Fear and tension: The daily anger and violence create a living
nightmare for the children. They may grow up being afraid of
everything and trusting no one.

Danger: Often, the children are the intended victim of one or both
parents. Other times, they get caught in the middle and are hurt or
killed by accident.

Confusion: The children often receive mixed messages. For example:
at school they learn hitting is wrong, at home they learn that
hitting is used to "solve" problems.

Isolation: Often, an abusive parent shuts off the family from the
outside world. And the children may withdraw from their peers and
other adults too.

Hopelessness: The children often blame themselves for the violence
but they feel powerless to prevent, stop or escape from it.

Love/Hate Relationship: They may feel protective of an abused
parent. But they may also resent him or her for not stopping the
abuse. Sometimes the children may feel close to the abuser.
Other times, they may hope he or she goes away or dies. They may
feel guilty for not being able to rescue the family or for loving
someone who is abusive.

2006-09-09 14:29:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was wondering if anyone else has noticed a huge difference between the sesame street of the 70's and 80's to now? Does anyone else think it's not even educational anymore?

2006-09-09 14:18:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-09 14:00:46 · 9 answers · asked by luellenstar 2

She also does it in public and it's really embarrassing - I feel like a bad parent.

2006-09-09 13:58:46 · 21 answers · asked by missie 4

Anything you've learned that works. Things to make life easier with children.

2006-09-09 13:24:05 · 15 answers · asked by missie 4

2006-09-09 13:21:43 · 8 answers · asked by motherofthree 2

Can Anyway One Give Me The Pros And Cons Of The Effects Of Divorce For Children? Its Becuase Im Writeing 5 Pages About That But I Dont KNow ANYTHING So Can Anyone Help Me?!?!?!? Please thanks!

2006-09-09 13:08:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-09-09 12:53:42 · 14 answers · asked by mama010502 2

my cousin is going to babysit for me she is 20 and will babysit for me from 9 pm till tomorrow at 12 midday, but i dont know how much to pay her, my baby is 1 month and 2 weeks old, w=p;hat is a reasonable price help?

2006-09-09 12:46:40 · 10 answers · asked by triplecherrylicious 3