Before I had my son, I took a lot of pride in my appearance. My hair and makeup were always done, and I looked really good. I still take good care of myself, and usually dress well, fix my makeup, but lately I don't have a lot of time to fuss with my hair. I'll just tie it back in a scrunchi a lot of the time, and every once in a while, I'll give myself the full treatment like I used to. Here's the problem; I just looked in the mirror a little while ago, and I look like, well............MY MOTHER!!!! It's like all of a sudden, the Mommy Fairy just tapped me on the shoulder, and said, "HI, I'm here!!!!" Why does this mom-look just sneak up on you all of a sudden, and why does it have to be so darn scary?
2006-09-09 21:04:58 · 19 answers · asked by .......... 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Okay, I'm only in my thirties. Would you call the eighties the olden days? Maybe to you they are. lol!!!
2006-09-09 21:09:55 · update #1
Its just after you have children they are what is the most important and not our own appearance. I say this as I am sitting here with my hair brushed and pulled back with a scrunhi. I actually think my mom spends more time on her hair and appearance than I do now. Be thankful you arent one of those mothers that go to the store looking like bums, without even brushing their hair. Some women say after they have kids they don't even have time to shower!! I may not wear makeup anymore or do much with my hair but I always make sure I dont look like a total mess when I go out and my kids always look their best. Its okay to look like our mothers. I look exactly like mine only a little thinner and younger with less makeup and no curling iron.
2006-09-09 21:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
K, who's the manchild weirdie who was talking the crap about "you are getting older?" Older at 30? Whatever.
Personally, I had to do a check on myself too. As a mother with four kids, it seemed as if the house looking great, and the kids doing well, was more important than my own beauty. And those who think that mothers should LIVE for their children will think that this sounds balanced. WRONG. lol
As women and mothers, I think we feel more empowered when we look in the mirror and see a well manicured, great looking woman--even if her arms are full of dirty laundry.
In other words, it's easier to love and care for others when you FIGHT to make the time and effort to care for YOURSELF. Now that's just stinking how it is, and I learned the hard way.--But at least I learned.
And like L'Oreal says, "Why? Because I'm WORTH it."
2006-09-09 21:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by HyperBeauty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mother of one here, and hey, guess what, I do have the same problem as you. The main problem is, regardless whether we have kids or not, we still have 24 hours a day. Not more. It takes lots of time to groom nice hair or manicure/pedicure or massage/spa - which, we cannot afford. Especially if you are a working mother as well. Sorry I don't have any solution to share, I'm still struggling with the problem myself...
2006-09-09 22:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by limothy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till the little one gets older you start to think like your mother, it is normal having a child is a life changing event and untill the little ones gets settled in you woint have as much time. the secret i guess would be multi tasking. I hav e survived 3 wives and 5 kids it does get better however the litle ones turn into teenagers
2006-09-09 21:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ken T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think when you heve kid your state of mind changes,how you see yourself and feel about yourself inside your head can change.you knew yourself before you had your son,any changes in you happened gradually throughout your life.Then you had your son and no matter how wanted or planned a first child is it changes you massively and instantly when that babys born.youre no doubt as lovely as you always were,youre brain just keeps telling you youre a mum now and all the sick and poo and messed up sleep can make you feel very mumsy.i planned for and wanted my daughter desperately,i was extatic to be having her and when she was born i was overjoyed,but my head was all over the place.i think,mentally you do age when you have kids.i expect to see a 21 year old when i look in the mirrorbut im 13 years older and three stone heavier than i was then.sometimes lifes a *****.
2006-09-09 21:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by NICHOLA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because you don't have the time, since you ARE now a mommy, that you once had to primp and preen in front of a mirror. You do however owe it to yourself and to your husband to take the time once a week to get a sitter, go out just the two of you, and fix up and knock em dead! If you always "look frumpy" you husbands eyes will SO stray, and hopefully that is all that will!
2006-09-09 21:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by old dude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
parenting years may be hard for squeezing in relaxing time. if u have a one year old son, thats definitely why. later when he grows up u may be able to put on makeup and dress well like u want to. right now he needs care almost 24/7, so thats why
2006-09-09 21:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by sharon t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened while you got busy BEING a MOMMY. I would be scarred too if my identity was suddenly hi-jacked and turned into someone else......my Mom was never the deeply MOMMY type so it didn't hit me then,.............I didn't WANT to be my MOTHER. Still don't. I have moments though when I find Dad's words coming out of my mouth.....and if anything will jar you out of a just going along day it will be your voice saying one of your father's pet phrases.
2006-09-10 02:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by blondecarpenter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it doesnt matter how much makeup you wear or what your hair looks like, to your child you are the most beautiful women in the world and thats all that really matters.
2006-09-10 01:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Growing up sucks, doesn't it? My sister used to be a neat freak. Now with two kids, she is so scattered she is a different person. She is nicer to me than she used to be. If you have a second kid, or a third, just remember the curve is geometric not linear. So having one kid and adding the second the difficulty is 4 times and the third is 8 times more difficult than having one kid.
2006-09-09 21:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by want it bad 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋