e.g Belt, wooden spoon, backhand, smacking?
I would like some examples similar to the above so I can discipline my child.
2006-09-09 20:53:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I will when i have children, belt probably.
2006-09-09 20:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 1⤊ 8⤋
OK, assuming you weren't trying to be ironic or provocative - none of the above. Physical discipline is based on prevention by fear and is a short term fix with a heap of long-term consequences (reinforcing violence as a solution, long-term trauma, etc). First - ask yourself why your child is misbehaving. Children are not by nature malicious or vindictive - and up until the age of five there is usually a reason behind what you perceive as naughty action. A crying baby for exmaple is probably hungry, frightened, or tired. Rather than screeming at, or smacking the child - instead respond to your child posivitely and remove the cause for concern.
I could go on but the important thing is to get under the skin of the problem - try to rationalise the issue rather than treat the immediate effect.
Over time your child will be a more balanced and calmer individual and you will have a much better relationship than you could ever have achieved by causing pain with a spoon!!
2006-09-09 21:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rokkster 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Need more information. Discipline can change greatly based on the age of the child, the demeanor of the child, etc.
I wouldn't recommend a wooden spoon though or belt. You can get into trouble with the law. A spanking is sometimes okay, just be sure it is not bad enough to leave marks. Also, remember the key to any good punishment is that you are not doing it in anger, but as a lesson and that you explain to the child why he is getting the punishment. That explaination should be age-appropriate but even a two year old should get a simple explanation. Like you got a spanking because "spitting is bad and I do not want you to spit anymore"
2006-09-09 21:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
With my 2 and 3 year old I use time out usually, if they really are not listening and keep doing stuff they know is wrong I will smack their butt, not really hard but it hurts their feelings and gets the point across and they stop. My 11 month old only does one thing I want him not to do- going over to the cats food and playing with it. I just tell him no in a stern voice and move him away every time he goes to it. Disciplining a child is a controversial thing and it is really up to you to choose what is best for your child. My mom used to beat me with belts and anything else around and that worked too.
2006-09-09 20:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolute zero discipline until the age of 7....prior to the age of 7 I simply speak gently to guide my child in ways of safety but I never
use the word no...Once my child has reached the age of 7 I explain to them that now he/she is 7 years old if they do anything wrong that I will tell them only 1 time what he/she did wrong, that I will tolerate zero repeat performance because he/she is now old enough to be disciplined because they should know better by this age...they ALWAYS repeat the wrong performance because they have absolutely no concept of what punishment is....That's the beauty of the whole system...The first time they repeat wrong behavior after receiving their warning they get spanked on the bare bottom with a hand only....The result? It's just hard enough to leave a red hand print so that they are feeling the sting of the spank which shocks them into proper behavior...I have had them test it though and they've never gone beyond the 2nd spanking ever....I have toddlers, teens and young adults and they are the best behaved family I could ever have asked for!!!!!! Proud mother of 9 children and another on the way!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 21:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by annrizzo 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
the reason our jails are full and expensive is the "no punishment" crowd.. Let the punishment fit the crime, and be sure that it hurts them more than it does you.. I use a 1x2 x 24" paddle, and i tell the perpetrator to go get it, so they have plenty of time to get worried about it. If you wait till the brat is past 7, you have wasted 6 years. we talk, i explain why they are getting spanked , I spank.. It worked so well that the oldest caught on by the time she was 7 and has not had a swat for 9 years, my 10 yo son is a little more rebellious and had a good pair of swats for missbehaving just 2 years ago..
2006-09-09 21:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by mr.phattphatt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For my 2 year old, I use time out. She has a special chair that she uses for 3 minutes. I make sure to explain what she did wrong, and when she gets up I make her say sorry and give me a hug and kiss.
For my step-son (12), niece (13) and nephew (15)
I take away privledges. phone, internet, t.v. and make them stay in their room. I might deduct from their allowance as well. Kids do things wrong... beating the crap out of them won't help just cause them to rebel even more.
They dont care if you hit them - but tell a teenage girl she cant talk on the phone or a teenage boy he cant go on myspace... works like a charm!!
2006-09-09 21:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by tonip1963 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yell, time outs, take away things, positive reenforcements. We spank only when needed. On the butt with a hand....no spoons, belts or backhanding! Geez....
2006-09-09 21:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by smiley_girl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My kids get their little bottoms warmed with my hand. There's no need whatsoever to introduce a spanking instrument.
2006-09-10 10:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Frugalmom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont hit your children.
i put mine in a time out, and he has to apologize before he gets out or he stays there longer.... wont sit on a chair on say still, buy a play pen thingie, .... after 2 days of time out, ... my child is 2 and a half he was there 2 minutes, he now only needs a warning of time out to stop what he's doing.
2006-09-09 20:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by sara m 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
All children need dicipline, there is a fine line between abuse and punishment,
2006-09-09 22:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by kimpossibleprice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋