How long did you wait after childbirth to meet up with friends for a couple hours? I had a child 2 weeks ago and met up with friends last night and had a drink and feel completely guilty about it. My fiance encouraged me to go while he babysat, since I am always at home with our daughter and never leave the house anymore.
2006-09-09 18:42:38 · 20 answers · asked by Pondering 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had c section and am feeling pretty good, healing nicely. I was up walking next day in hospital. I am bottle feeding, also.
2006-09-09 19:02:11 · update #1
my husband also made me go but it was at least 1 month after our son was born......he is now 3......But it was the hardest thing i ever did ( the first time leaving him) b/c your not having fun you are just worrying the whole time.....LoL.....It gets easier though....trust me pretty soon you will welcome a break......also don't feel guilty about.....its probably your hormones making you think that way.....
2006-09-09 18:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never thought that giving birth would drain me out completely...not to include the pain and soreness I had to endure weeks after I left the hospital. My dr. did not release me at my 6wk. check-up, I had to keep going back until the 10th wk. after giving birth but going out was the last thing on my mind...I was trying to get better. I hope you are not in so much pain. I had a natural birth w/o an epidural and had cuts and lacerations to the 3rd degree after having my 8.6lb baby...maybe thats why I took so long recuperating. If you feel well and the whether is not too cold or anything dangerous for the baby...then go out and have fun. You deserve a couple hours to yourself every week if possible because taking care of a baby is very hard work and stressful.
2006-09-09 18:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to your fiance! You go girl, any time you can take an hour or two. Even if you just go for a walk, you need that 'me' time, it makes you a better mom. Don't feel guilty (and you will anyway, for almost everything you do for the next 18 yrs) it will get easier with time. Good luck with that new little one, and remember to look after yourself, you're no good to that little baby if you don't.
My eldest, now 14, I went out without her for the first time probably a couple weeks after she was born. My second (now 7) was a colic babe, and I think it was day 3 when I left for a few hours to sleep at a friends house while she looked after the baby.
2006-09-09 18:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by takeitorleaveit-loveitorhateit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on who your babysitter is...if it's a trusted grandparent, relative, or friend, go for it as soon as the baby sleeps 3 or 4 hours at a time.
I needed friends and relatives to come over and watch the baby so I could catch up on the sleep I wasn't getting during the night!
Going out didn't even sound attractive to me until the baby was sleeping 6-7 hours through the night!
2006-09-10 16:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Duma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was at least 3 months for me. My baby was 6 wks early and had a bad case of jaundice, so I only left the house to go to church, and visit my parents'. (and she went everywhere with me.) I won't wait so long with the next one tho'.
If all is well, and you feel up to it, 2 or 3 weeks sounds fair enough. *No need to feel guilty! It's your fiance's responsibility as well to share. Hope you had a great time! (only if you're breastfeeding, you probably shouldn't be drinking.)
2006-09-09 18:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of 1.5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is too soon at all. You don't just abandon your life because you have a child. There is room for everything : )
I went away with a friend when my youngest was a month old..it was just a 2 day trip and I missed my little one badly but still had a great time
2006-09-10 01:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had twin girls 4months ago and I went out 2 months after having them ..Don't feel guilty it is your time to relax and have fun..I been a pediatric nurse (Pediatric intensive care unit) for 13 years and it is normal to feel guilty but don't it feels good to go out with friends after being coped up with baby and kids all day..I recommend once a month meet up with friends..Congrats on the baby
2006-09-09 18:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by «~Mouse«~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! I could barely still walk normal after two weeks of having mine! You go girl! I really don't know if there is a set rule about when is it to soon to take a break from being mommy! If you are going to feel to guilty when you go out, then how can you have fun?
Take your time getting to know yourself as a mother. Don't push yourself to hard and enjoy your baby. She knows mommy loves her, even if mommy needs adult time with friends once in while.
Good luck and Take Care
2006-09-09 18:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by escapingmars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way I just had a baby June first of this year and I still havent went out. But with my first it took me till she was at least 16 months old. But you shouldnt feel bad if your Fiance said you could go out and he would watch the baby. I wish my fiance would say that but im going to wait till he can go with me one of these days. It's kinda hard to when we both work and no babysitter.
2006-09-09 18:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad, thats just the mom inside you being over protected.i would advise only once a month though, and not to leave the baby too long.
I too had a c-section and it took me 2 weeks to feel ok. we went out for lunch(1 1/2 hr)and thought about the baby the entire time, even though she was with grandma. we called atleast three times. she's two now, but we still dont like leaving her.
2006-09-09 19:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you were feeling is very normal.You are still bonding with your baby.When l had my first child,l didn't go out for nearly 6 months,and even then l felt guilty.My second,I went out when she was about 5 months old,and l rang my husband every 20 minutes to see if our daughter was o.k.My third I went out after he was 4 months,and I didn't feel guilty,as l knew myself,that l needed time out for myself.
2006-09-09 20:55:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋