Marriage & Divorce - 17 December 2007

It doesn't happen very often but every once in a while my boyfriend calls me his ex-wife's name. He always catches himself and swears it's just habit. If we're doing something with the kids that used to always be a family thing; if we start fighting and he gets frustrated; if he's really tired but still trying to take care of me and the boys and make sure we're happy...He swears it's habit and doesn't mean anything. It's just habit and one he really wants to break. But sometimes I wonder if that's really all it is. The divorce is pretty recent so it's not like we're talking about a relationship that was over years ago. It's not like it happens when we're in bed together or anything, and the rest of the time I'd say he does it an average of once every 3 to 4 weeks so it's doesn't really mean anything right?

It's habit. He's comfortable with me "replacing" her at family stuff and is used to fighting with her and not me. Right?

2007-12-17 06:44:31 · 22 answers · asked by QT_Pie 5

(Even though women think a 180 degrees differently).

Agree??

2007-12-17 06:42:57 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

My views of faithfulness and loyalty differ from yours, monogamy has nothing to do with either; and the only reason I haven’t been completely honest in the past is because I wanted to keep my family together and be happy at the same time. Now, as far as the unwanted pregnancy thing & std thing; the chances of that happening are slim to none if the people involved are responsible. Further more I hate that this is the focus of are issue, but if you must I will. But this isn’t the real issue(sex) for me, but obviously it is for you so we’ll continue My daughter, no we’re not going to teach our daughter that; we’re going to teach her to think for herself and make her on decisions. My heart is with my family; period. You can’t change the way I think, you probably have to open your mind(if possible) or find a partner who thinks the way you do for this to work.on what someone else might do when I make my decisions. I feel that I s/be able to be me, &if I can’t be that then I’m w/the wrong 1

2007-12-17 06:39:23 · 33 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

I don't know what to do. I don't know how to get out. I don't know where to run away. But at the same time I am extremely super scared and very afraid of leaving. I only stay because of my adorable kiddos. I would like to be happy some day! I am so tired of being controlled by someone who won't let me be happy in my life.

2007-12-17 06:35:30 · 22 answers · asked by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3

2007-12-17 06:34:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just went on my fiances computer and under his most viewed sites I saw this, of course i freaked out and called of the engagement but he doesn't consider this cheating? Am I the only person who views this as cheating and if i am was is appropriate for me to call of our engagement?

2007-12-17 06:28:54 · 21 answers · asked by gmd 2

Me and my son is not accompanied by any family members in my town so my stepdaughter is recieving a bunch of presents from her family in town but my son is not, so i told my husband that i would only shop for my son because his family never includes him in anything. the only thing is that we share our money for bills and so forth. my husband seemed as if he was okay with it but then he mentioned that i had a spending limit which i dont think is very fair because his daughter (my stepdaughter) then will have all these gifts you cant count on one hand and my son will not have all the things he desired on christmas the way it used to be when it was just the two of us, i somtimes think about just taking all of my hard worked money and going shopping for him, but it's not the right thing to do, i know we have a lot of bills and things but i still dont want my son to be left out of the joy of christmas day to see her happy & not him, what should i do to make this work??

2007-12-17 06:16:02 · 16 answers · asked by KAT 2

2007-12-17 06:12:41 · 15 answers · asked by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3

About three months ago my wife and I began having problems. For a month straight i tried everything to keep her, but she was undecided on what she wanted to do. Then we had a big fight one night, and she took my kid and left me for three weeks. No talking, no communication, and i wasnt able to see my kid. Then right before our courtdate and divorce papers, she came to me, cried, and said she wanted me back. So now we have been back together for about a month now. I think there was another guy during that time, but not positive what happened. Since we have been back, i have been wanting to be intimate with her, but i dont get that passion in return. Seems like she is always coming up with an excuse, like she is tired, she is sick, she has an "infection". this all happens right around the time i try to be intimate with her. And the times we do do things, its like i almost have to force her. Furthermore, she gets angry a lot, and when i try to bring up what happened, she say forget the...

2007-12-17 06:11:45 · 23 answers · asked by supremyecy 1

i think that it is important to have a certain attraction in bed before you get married but could someone tell me why they think its wrong or why you think its ok. im going to have sex before i get married but i am windering why some people dont

2007-12-17 06:09:43 · 20 answers · asked by justin t 3

2007-12-17 06:02:24 · 22 answers · asked by kiki 6

Me and my wife married in july and it has been a BIG adjustment for both of us. About 2 weeks ago we had a argument and ever since then the conversation has been minimal. She is currently pregnant (99.9% sure its mine) and I get along great with her parents. She told me last week that we were going to live like roomates for a couple of weeks we both go and do no questions( I didnt like that). I went home this past weekend 4 hours away we talked so so and when away I would text and call her and she was short the entire time. Well I get home around 3 yesterday she comes home at 4 said she had been out shopping and had to go back. Her daughter was at her parents. Well I went to her parents to help her dad and left around 6 everyone asking where she was. I ask her and she responds back no questions remember. Well she got home put her daughter to bed and I asked her about her and ex...she laughed said she has not talked to him in a week and she said mother thought the same thing her+

2007-12-17 05:55:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband left me a message saying that "You guys caused the divorce." meaning my parents and I. He was and still is controlling and abusive and blames my parents for interfering in the marriage.

He does not see his own faults and what he did wrong. He thinks that because I was sending my child to MI to visit her grandmother for spring breaks, my parents and I were pushing her out of the house.

I don't want to speak to him, but wonder if he will ever see that his tone and overall demeanor toward me is wrong. He should not be so overbearing, dominating and controlling.....

2007-12-17 05:52:51 · 10 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Ever stop to think she might deserve it? Ever stop to think she might have cheated, drak like a fish, and abused drugs..all this after 13 yrs of marriage. And now, after 20 yrs and thjings not much better, she wants to stay together and be a couple, have a second chance. (Has the worthless piece of trash forgotten her many other chances? Lot of nerve calling it a second chance!)

2007-12-17 05:38:02 · 28 answers · asked by lillegman46 1

My friend is going through a separation. Something no one ever saw coming. She has a 3 year old and a 8 month old. I've offered to listen and help with the boys. Going over tomorrow to help out a bit but is there anything else I could do? I don't want to intrude or anything and don't want to send a cheesy card but would even something like taking baked goods or something help?

2007-12-17 05:33:05 · 19 answers · asked by Ryan 2

I've been married for about a year now and lately I find my life to be so boring. It's like all the excitement is gone. I don't have my own friends any more. All it is is work work and work. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and not planning to leave him, but my life is dull. There's nothing going on in my life. Lately, i'm thinking maybe I should have a baby to complete my life. I'm 26 years old, maybe it's time for a child. maybe that's what's missing in my life.

2007-12-17 05:31:05 · 34 answers · asked by x_x_x 3

when knowing the husband is having affair,does she have right to read the mistress's emails?

2007-12-17 05:31:05 · 60 answers · asked by whyme 1

I've been 1/2 of a couple for so long. I do not know how to be "just me".

2007-12-17 05:13:02 · 17 answers · asked by orange c 4

I have been married for 4 yrs now, he is 45 i'm 32. I'm not American and different race. He treats me like an anaimal. I do everything for him, laundry,clean after him, wash dishes, pick up his clothes on the floor. If he takes something out of the fridge i have to put it back....he leaves dishes and snaks where he had been sitting. He has anger issues he knows that..but blames me for everything..he claims i ignore him. I dont ignore him at all, he claims that i dont communicate i do..but he hates everything i say..but he never says anything only when he is mad...i used to cook...must admit that i'm not a great cook but i do try....when he does not like my food...he gets so upset and either throw food in the sink or leaves it on the table and goes to sleep. when i dont cook he complains. I like to go to the movies and he hates my movie choices and gets so mad while watching movies and end up not tlkn to me. I decided to stop picking movies and let him pick...and again he is not happy.

2007-12-17 04:49:08 · 67 answers · asked by Boom 1

She says she knows she made a terrible mistake and the fear of loosing me has made her realize what she really wants. I still love her deeply and we have a two year old as well. She's been lying to me about it for several months. I had a suspicion before and confronted her, of course she lied. This last time though I got solid evidence.

I guess my question is, should I forgive her because she is being sincere or not believe her because she's just afraid and saying what I want to hear.

2007-12-17 04:43:05 · 29 answers · asked by Here&Now 2

My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We have (3) children. She is 31 and I am 38 years old. She is a wonderful wife in every aspect, but one. Also, she is a wonderful loving mother to our children. She does desire and enjoy intimacy, kissing, hugging, romance etc.

She tells me that she is fully contented with our marriage and relationship. I told her that I still need to release my desire through masturbation, which she understands.

I am ok with masturbating to satisfy my desire, even for the long-term. She is too good of a wife to let one issue, even a big one hurt our relationship.

2007-12-17 04:34:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-17 04:31:24 · 12 answers · asked by Golf Chick 3

2007-12-17 04:31:07 · 34 answers · asked by orange c 4

This woman sold me a Standard Taser Device that I want my wife to use for her protection, but won't that scare my wife into thinking she's not safe all the time? I don't want her to be scared, but I'd like her to be safe.

2007-12-17 04:29:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

This will be our 8 year anniversary. I just don't know what to get him. Any ideas?

2007-12-17 04:26:04 · 6 answers · asked by monnmak 2

2007-12-17 04:25:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents invited their friends and their son (37) for Christmas Eve Dinner and now I do not want to go. It will just be the six of us, my husband is not going. Their friends are boring and can be mean and their son gives me the creeps. Also they are serving the same dinner that I am serving the next day for my husband’s family. They did not want to come to our house for that dinner because they do care for his family. Am I being selfish? Should I go?

2007-12-17 04:25:22 · 16 answers · asked by sunshine 2

My last question referred to the porn which made alot of men mad but I don't care I'm still firm it's cheating. But ontop of this why do some men feel it is appropriate to cuss out their wife and other things that shouldn't be done when feeling pervoked. Then on the other hand u dare to call them a name right back or defend ur own honor they backhand u like a little BEATCH

2007-12-17 04:25:19 · 24 answers · asked by Lilith 4

I booked a ticket for my daughter to visit MI over spring break yesterday. I am paying for it and she is going to visit her grandmother. I thought it would be a good change for her and she is off for one week anyway.

My ex-husband has left me about 4 voicemails and said that he does not want her traveling to MI over spring break. He feels that she should be focusing on school, piano and her ACT. She is retaking the ACT in Feb before spring break.

He thinks that we are trying to kick her out of the house. Its not that at all. I am literally shaking after listening to his angry, mean voice on the voicemail. He is very, very angry.

I don't know how to handle it. I am thinking of canceling the ticket because her father does not want her to go. I try to do good things for my daugher who is 15 and I get flack from her dad???

He is also upset because I have not purchased a piano for my daughter to play on. He has asked me to..

2007-12-17 04:24:05 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Guys - married, single, dating, etc etc would they really ALWAYS say yes to sex with anyone? Please be open and honest. I don't believe they would. But am I nieve?

2007-12-17 04:22:50 · 20 answers · asked by jval 2