i think that it is important to have a certain attraction in bed before you get married but could someone tell me why they think its wrong or why you think its ok. im going to have sex before i get married but i am windering why some people dont
2007-12-17 06:09:43 · 20 answers · asked by justin t 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would you buy a car with out testing it out>If so than when it need repair & won't start when you need a ride you brought it> There might be a warranty with the car>Or lemon laws> But not with marrage>
2007-12-17 06:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I can see how back in the day waiting until marriage was good, because you got married at like 16. People were also uneducated in how baby's are made, etc. But in today's society with divorce rate so high, you need to be absolutely sure this person is right for you. And that means that you guys live together and get along, have sexual chemistry, etc. Why take the chance of marrying someone and find out that you are not sexually compatable - that would SUCK adn probobly end in a divorce eventually
2007-12-17 14:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by livin the dream 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes have sex before you get married,
1st reason, do you want to find out after you've entered into a legally binding contract, that your wife "sucks" in bed or even worse that she doesn't like sex at all?
2nd reason, get it out of your system, "sew your oats" do you want to be married ,in a monogamous relationship , wondering what you have missed?
Lastly, you are better off not ever getting married. Marriage offers no benefit to men, the advantages of marriage are to the woman and any children to the marriage ,but not to the man.
There is nothing (good) a marriage offers to a man he could not get from an unmarried relationship.
2007-12-17 14:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my own experience, sex before marriage is just not worth it. My wife was very good before and very bad afterwords.
She is a completely different animal now. I thought I have tried
her and that I am doing the right thing. Boy, I was so wrong.
If you are going to try sex before marriage then don't just try with one guy you are going to marry. Try it with at least 3~4 guys from each race so you can actually compare them.
Good luck.
2007-12-17 15:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by bhaiyagi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex changes the relationship; once you have sex with someone there's no going back. And, I don't think it necessarily demonstrates anything one way or the other. You don't have any additional or useful data after sex that you couldn't get with frank, honest conversation (like what someone likes, or if they have hangups)
Sexual compatibility can be worked out if both partners put some energy into it. For sex to work at all, partners have to communicate. Talking again...
Sex is an hour or two if you're leisurely. Most of the time, it's much less. There's so much more to a relationship.
2007-12-17 14:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Because marriage binds you together as partners and shows just how much the other person loves you. Wouldn't you feel kinda bad if you gave your virginity up too soon then the relationship ended badly?
I think people should at least wait a year or two before having sex but they don't have to wait until marriage, especially if (like me) they're gay and can't get married lol.
2007-12-17 14:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Because when someone gets married they are going to give the person they are marring everything including the purity of there body. And when you walk up to the alter and you see the man or women that you are going to spend the rest of your life. You can safley say that ypu are giving him or her everything and god bless you clean marriage and the dignity and respect you have for each other.
2007-12-17 14:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex before marriage is the only kind. What you get after you say "I do," sure aint what you were getting. You can't really call it sex. It's so quick and overwith before you know it. Then there's the day in and day out wait to get it again. Wedding cake does something to women, believe me!
2007-12-17 14:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Keeper 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think its said because you never forget your first time and because its a bond that that could never really be broken, and who better then the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-12-17 14:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony J 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think its bad to have sex before your married because its a waste. its not good to have sex with people that you're not married to. after i got married, i really regretted all that wasted sex i had. there was not one relationship or sexual experience that was so important that if given the chance i wouldn't pass up. i really could have done without all of it. you can be sexually attracted to someone without having sex with them, Pamela Anderson, Beyonce, etc.People say that you have to know if you're sexually compatible with someone before you marry them, but if you love them and are committed to them you will become compatible with them. If they care how you feel and vice versa you wont have problems. People say you have to know your needs sexually before you get married but you can discover all of that with one special person. And you can learn your body much better with someone that you know is not going to desert you, break you heart, or tell your secrets. When you trust the person you're with unconditionally there is no holding back, no restraint, you have much more sexual freedom to discover and experiment different ways of recieving and giving pleasure. After I got married, one night my husband and I had this amazing, mind blowing sex. When it was over I thought to myself "Everything we just did with eachother, we've both done before with other people." No the connection and chemistry wasn't the same, but the physical part was. It hurt so bad to realize that. I started regretting all my past sexual relationships that day, and I regretted his too. Just save it for the who deserves you, all of you. It's good to not have to share you lovers body with their memories
2007-12-17 14:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Some people don't think it is proper behavior because of their faith. Others because they live in a small town and people gossip. Sometimes it is having to deal with parents if you still live at home.
This is probably just a short list....hope it helps....Finn.
2007-12-17 14:14:41 · answer #11 · answered by Finn 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋